I am expected to go, although I don't really know her all that well. Only been with the company three months...in management and this is an employee who is transferring. Is there a good way to bow out gracefully? It is at a bar and I'm not big into the "bar scene" anymore.
2007-06-28 00:52:36 · 7 answers · asked by daff73 5 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
I would go, if just to show your support and to make an "appearance." Take your own car so if you want to leave early, you have your own ride. Have one drink with the group and socialize with your future co-workers. You appearance at this function, even for a short amount of time will do more for you and your standing at work than not showing up. Life is filled with things that we do not want to do and sometimes it is the things that we really don't want to do that benefit us most in the end.
2007-06-28 01:04:22 · answer #1 · answered by Jon H 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Are other members of the management team going?
If so, it looks like the workplace culture supports this as a thing to foster good will.
One way I've seen it handles very successfully is for the manager to show up early 9among the first), buy a drink for the departing person and extend good wishes, then say "Oh is that the time, I must pick my child/aged parent/cat up from the sitter/carer/vet' and make a friendly but definite exit.
If you can't bear the thought of going, speak to both the organiser and the departing person, explain that due to a situation with your child/aged parent/cat you can't come, what a shame you were looking forward to it, and (to the organiser) is it still possible to contribute towards the gift.
That way, you come across as not stuck up.
Unfortunately, if the bar thing is typical, you could be stuck with it as others depart or have birthdays, anniversaries or other celebrations and to keep ducking out might look bad. You could try and work on changing the meeting place to a coffee shop, or even the workplace staff room if you have one.
Best wishes :-)
2007-06-28 01:50:51 · answer #2 · answered by thing55000 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1. Schedule an appt. for that day quickly.
2. Take off from work.
3. Don't go. If you don't know the person well enough, why should you have to attend? The company should not force you to do such things.
4. Show up late, like towards the end of the party, so that you don't have to spend too much time there. At least you showed up.
Whatever you do, do not say you don't have the money because someone will say that they will pay your way. And do not lie!
Hope it works out for you. Been there.
2007-06-28 01:42:00 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I would just for a half hour and then politely say you have to leave early due to a previous engagement. If you don't go, I can guarantee you that your coworkers will be bad mouthing you for weeks. Happened to me once for not going to a birthday part at some club. I don't drink and I didn't want to spend the night with drunk coworkers. And guess what? I was out casted and later had to quit.
2007-06-28 01:37:02 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It might be a chance for you to make a new friend, or get to know someone better; but it's your choice in the end.
Simply apologize and let them know you are already promised elsewhere at that time, and you wish them well ahead of time, perhaps sign the goodbye card.
2007-06-28 00:58:05 · answer #5 · answered by redsquirrelpooka 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I'd make an appearance as it fosters good will and shows that you're willing to be part of the group.
2007-06-28 00:57:17 · answer #6 · answered by Pirate AM™ 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Don't go. You'll hate it and be miserable - she would not want this for anyone! If she would, you don't need to take her feelings in to consideration, do you?
2007-06-28 00:57:11 · answer #7 · answered by The Dalai Farmer 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋