We are Filipino, i mean me and my friend. She met a Korean guy and he courted her and he became her boyfriend. They've been together for a month and he gave everything to her and she accepted it. The guy might have thought that she only wants material things, till he left for Korea but the relationship is still okey, there is communication. Months have past, she still send messages to the guy even if it seems she is being ignored until today, he sent a message saying "he has a new girl". I feel sad about her because she didn't gave herself the chance to make friends with other guys because she is always thinking about him. We lived in the same house and everyday she is always sharing to me her memories with that Koren guy which she love so much. What was wrong? is it ok to think that some guys can't be trusted? What should i do to help her? And she is planning to return the things that the guy gave her, do you think that's a good idea? She has his DVD player, MP3 player, and ATMCard.
2007-06-28 00:01:44 · 12 answers · asked by (sinner*saint) 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Do you really think it's good if we empty his account? hehehe... just kidding!
So, should she give him back his things?
2007-06-28 00:10:13 · update #1
Tell her to keep everything that he gave her. If he is such a jerk, he shouldn't have the opportunity to give her things to someone else. He is just a user. Those were gifts, DO NOT RETURN THEM! Do tell her to cut off all communication with him!!!
2007-06-28 00:16:48 · answer #1 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Gal...tell your galfren NOT to give away his gifts just yet. This might not be a good answer but heck...this is what I'd tell my sister to do if anything like this happens.
If during their relationship he kept on buying gifts instead of sharing stuff with her then that's a sign that he's not really into her you know. He has a new girl? Don't fret...just move on. It aint gonna be easy but the sooner she moves on the sooner she'll start feeling better. And yeah...its safe to say that some boys are just plain old boys and you just gotta be carefull you know. Its normal to get hurt in relationships...you just gotta know how to handle the aftermatch and keep your close friends close. Instead of giving the gifts back...just use them. And if its too unbearable then sell them off...have a garage sale and sell anything you dont need...its also good theraphy to keep yourself busy. ATM card? Its under her account or his? Either way...dont let that go...use it. If its his...dry his account and spoil yourself to anything you want. But sooner or later you gotta accept the fact that its all over and its okay to move on. Be strong!
2007-06-28 07:15:51 · answer #2 · answered by jasmine 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I woulsn't give the **** back, isnt he in another country, and that's some badass ****. Maybe he left he b/c she took to much out of him whole he was away from her, I mean if a guy gives you that much he usually wants a piece of as s so even if he gave her **** over sea, he couldn't really get anything from it, so he was fed up. I don't really trust guys, sometimes I'll let my guard down a little, but I always keep back up, even if you dont cheat on the man, keep back up. Idk, I'am only 15 and have dated about 12 guys, but no matter how good it's going they always seem to leave me for a dumbass reason, so I get with their best friends later to piss em off.
2007-06-28 07:10:37 · answer #3 · answered by Dawn M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He lead her on while he was in the Phillipines/U.S. He then returned to Korea to his girlfriend.
She was used.
(Hope you friend wasn't dumb enough to sleep with him.)
She should sell his gifts, empty out his bank account and buy herself a new wardrobe or create a saving account.
Serves the guy right for giving his ATM card to someone he only knew for only a month.
Teach the guy a lesson: Empty his bank account!!!
2007-07-01 17:58:50 · answer #4 · answered by lostinchicago 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No she should not return the things that he gave to her. that was all gifts and i don't think it is necessary to return.
go empty the ATM. if he did gave it to her then she can use it.
if she really doesn't want any of those gifts because it reminds her of the guy she can give it away at the salvation army.
It's childish to return gifts that was given by your ex. unless it's the engagement ring!
2007-06-28 07:28:06 · answer #5 · answered by Binibini 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO.. the things are things take them, returning them wont make her feel better.. would it???
And yes distant relationship are like this most people can cope with it and prefer to have someone near,
she should move on.
2007-06-28 07:08:34 · answer #6 · answered by alex 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Live and learn. Just because this happened to one Korean guy, doesn't mean that all Korean guys, or guys in general, will do that.
2007-06-28 07:06:55 · answer #7 · answered by sandra 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not just guy's you females do the same........
Take it as a lesson learn, life dose not end when a relationship has fail dust yourself off and move on.l
2007-06-28 07:09:58 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
time is the best medicine allow her to relex she will forget everything as the time goes on but if she is in true love then it can be gone only after the death
2007-06-28 07:09:58 · answer #9 · answered by Harry 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that relationship had to overcome cultural differences, long distance, and crappy communication. material things aren't that big of a deal so if she wants to return them then let her.
2007-06-28 07:08:48 · answer #10 · answered by Lobster 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋