Please dont give me bible verses or the Adam and Eve story.
I really don't understand why its ok to have sex within a loveless marriage but so wrong to have it in a loving and true relationship outside of marriage.
2007-06-27 22:07:59 · 24 answers · asked by chryshal 4 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
Automaically, people start assuming that by having sex outside a marriage means STD,abortion,infertility.Have a open mind...there are responsible people out there who take precatutions and who not just jumping into bed with anybody and everybody.And what if you have sex with someone you really love and are in a long term relationship with?What is so wrong with that?
2007-06-28 00:34:19 · update #1
Controling sexual behavior is one of the cornerstones of religion. Sexual desire is natural, marriage was created by culture. And yes I'm married to a wonderful woman, but we'd be together forever without the rings.
2007-06-27 22:10:54 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 2⤋
Ok, no bible verses, but how about some quotes.........
The Christian view that all intercourse outside marriage is immoral was, as we see in the above passages from St. Paul, based upon the view that all sexual intercourse, even within marriage, is regrettable. A view of this sort, which goes against biological facts, can only be regarded by sane people as a morbid aberration. The fact that it is embedded in Christian ethics has made Christianity throughout its whole history a force tending towards mental disorders and unwholesome views of life. ~ Bertrand Russell
Chastity...the most unnatural of all the sexual perversions. ~ Aldous Huxley
It is essential that we realize once and for all that man is much more of a sex creature than a moral creature. The former is inherent, the other is grafted on. ~ Emma Goldman
We may eventually come to realize that chastity is no more a virtue than malnutrition. ~ Alexander Comfort
2007-06-27 22:31:22 · answer #2 · answered by hypno_toad1 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Have you ever open a birthday present and you open the present before your actual birthday? What is your feel on your birthday itself? Think about it....
Sex is the special gift provided by God to you after marriage. Marriage is a holy matter in the eyes of God. That's why He created Eve to become the partner of Adam.
People who does not love each other they won't get marry. If they married without love, then what is the element to make them married. Money, tresuare, authority or ???? Then there is not meaningful at all for their marriage life because thay have no love.
God loves everyone of us, as such, He wants to give the best to us. Sex is the best gift for those just married. If you have premarital sex, means you've open your special gift before your birthday.
So loveless marriage is not meaningful. You never keep your body as a precious place of you and God when you have premarital sex. Remember, God lives in you.
2007-06-27 22:22:42 · answer #3 · answered by takiko34 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Premarital sex is not a greater sin than any of the other ones. The reason that God is against it is because of the repercussions that it has (fatherless children, diseases, emotional hurt, getting comfortable and forbidding to marry). Not saying that everyone that gets married will stay married but when you do get married to the right person then you don't have to worry about it being a loveless marriage. And if that relationship outside of marriage is so loving and true then why not marry?
2007-06-27 22:20:36 · answer #4 · answered by CDS2012 4 · 1⤊ 2⤋
I have found nowhere in the Bible that condemns it or condones it. I think that it is fine as long as the ones having sex aren't in some type of relationship with someone else. Adultry is not the act of having sex, or premarital sex. Adultry is when someone is being cheated on. I beleive that the shunning of sex is just another example of the meanings in the Bible being twisted by those in authority to control us.
2007-06-27 22:27:12 · answer #5 · answered by sams2rule 1 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Understanding comes from reading. You do not understand because you do not want to underatand. Your mind is set to not accepting the truth. God make sexual urges not only to human but also to animals for them to reproduce. Since human has the knowledge to know what good and evil, then he should follow what is right. But the stubborn mind of humans always desire the wrong one.
God forbid sex outside marriage so follow it do not question it.
2007-06-27 22:17:59 · answer #6 · answered by d1754 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Hi, when God created Adam and Eve they were in full control of their passions and had total integrity which was lost after they disobeyed God,the consequences of this has come through the whole human race and we are now subject to our lower animal passions.
We have come to the mindset that this is quite normal but in fact this is really an abnormal state for Gods creatures, and one of the main reasons for over-population on earth and all sorts of sexual abnormalities.
2007-06-27 22:13:34 · answer #7 · answered by Sentinel 7 · 1⤊ 2⤋
bcuz by fulfilling ur this desire after marriage makes the marriage relationship more blessed.
and wait if u think there shud b premarital one too then tell me what is the difference b/w a girl and a female dog ?
do u have answer a female dog gets to hav her desire from any dog she sees and as a result she gives birth and they also do the same.
and a woman is a human who is no doubt superior to that animal not only in body but in intelligence too so if u do the same thing what evidence u r giving of being a human superior to a female dog?
and u kno what
the girls who do sex b4 marriage r not considred dirty but evil.
a man will never select a girl like u to b his lifepartener
and everytime i pray to GOD i always pray this
"the sins i have done plz forgiv them but the sins that cannot b forgiven the punish me as u desire but not interms of a wicked ,cheat and a dirty woman ( i mean i dont even want to sake with such a woman whether she is my co-worker,wife or whatever)but instead giv me a woman who is really nice clean and most of all honest"
thanks
(GOD didnt giv u body to giv it away to men who r not even ur husband )
2007-06-27 22:22:04 · answer #8 · answered by saad ahmed 2 · 0⤊ 3⤋
Sex is all about reproducing. If it didn't feel good, we wouldn't do it and the world would have stopped with two people.
A lot of people who are having extra marital affairs always try to justify it with saying they are not in love with their spouse.
Marriage is not about love. It helps, but it is not about that.
Marriage is about the family unit.
2007-06-27 22:13:33 · answer #9 · answered by Me 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
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2015-01-25 00:34:54 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋