i feel manipulated and empty , my girlfriend has made me feel like this what shall i do?

Question

i used to have an active social life , there would be nothing i wouldnt do for a laugh or to make other people laugh i could go out in my town for a drink know every one , then i met this girl that i thought adored me but instead , she has hit me , i only have one friend who will text me because of her , i dont go out in town anymore , i feel like i have lost all confidence in myself , she has hit me 3 times the last time being 2 weeks ago, i have tried leaving twice but always go crawling back , its making me feel like iv got nothing left , please help me

Answer 1

Start walking and NEVER look back.

Answer 2

Help you do what? Make it work? The only thing I can tell you is to leave her. Go back to the way you were, with the active social life and stuff.
YOur girlfriend didn't make your feel like the way you do. YOUR FEELINGS for your girlfriend make you feel the way you do. If a stranger did the same things to you would you feel the same way, or would you get pissed and say, "why the hell did you hit me?" You would have a different reaction to someone else if they did the same thing to you.

That just proves that it is indeed your feelings and emotions for this girl that is causing you your pain. Get rid of these emotions toward this girl and your feelings for her, and you will be released from this pain. The girl will still exist, but she won't mean anything to you, just like before you met her. Start dealing with your feelings, and you'll begin to see what you have to do to deal with the problem.

Answer 3

It sounds like she has manipulated you to the point where she is your sole provider. This is not healthy at all. Because of the fact that she is your sole provider, you can not leave without falling down. Eventually, you crawl back.

You need to leave the relationship and I think you already know this. If you feel worried that you will come "crawling back", then begin speaking to this friend that you text all of the time. Cultivate that friendship to the point where you can lean on that person. Then leave the relationship. You always need to have a safety net or a support system in your life, you can transfer this from your abusive girlfriend to your friend. Rest assured, if you do not need her, then you will not come back on your hands and knees.

Answer 4

Let me start off by saying I am so sorry that you are going through this. You have to get yourself out of this situation. You deserve much better than this, and she obviously needs help. It is understandable that you feel manipulated, but this is a time, when you need your family and friends. You have something special, and your girlfriend sees that, or she wouldn't hurt you like she does. Leave her, and file a restraining order against her. I really hope this all works out for you! Take care and God bless!

Answer 5

get in touch with old friends x its not easy they will think that you dropped them for her (truth) x speak to the friend that you can speak to x people around you must have noticed a change in your personality x take the leap and talk about it x please x bullying and violence / mental or physical by any sex is dangerous it leads to lack of self esteem and confidence x and lies x it could even lead to death x you crawl back because you love her and thats the hardest pain x harder than any punch you are willing to take x i cant imagine your pain but please - if this is hurting now it will only get worse as time goes on x speak to someone - anyone please x wish you all the luck x ive been there and im not out of the tunnel yet and still wish for the "if only" but sanity is prevailing x you just need to take the first step x

Answer 6

Dont go crawling back mate!! You deserve better than this, get rid of the *****!!! She has totally deflated you in every which way and you are better than that! If you were to hit her what would people think? It is no different for a woman to hit a man! She is damaging you badly emotionally and physically and you need to GET OUT!! See sense hun and get yourself a decent lady that truly cares, you DONT NEED HER!! Good Luck babe xx

Answer 7

u have to tell her her to get help or your gonna leave. then if she doesn't get help or hits u again, walk away. Theres no point making empty threats. I think you should spend some time away from her to get back some confidence and self respect, then if u still wanna make things work you'll be better prepared coz u wont feel like nothing.

Answer 8

She has broken down your self-esteem. Take it back. Leave the b** h, and get out and learn how to demand respect again. She is a control freak, as well as an abuser. You deserve better. Why waste you life away being miserable? We are only young once in our lives!!! There is a girl ou there that will love and respect you, I promise!!!

Answer 9

Ok...you have been confident, and you can be again. You haven't married this girl, you can leave. NOBODY deserves to be hit, not ever, and you know you have to get out of this "relationship." Call the friend who texts you, and ask for their support and get out as soon as you can. Good luck - you deserve more than this, and you CAN get your old life back.

Answer 10

I'm guessing that you lost all your friends because she doesn't want you talking to any of them correct? Because my friend is in the same exact situation and none of us speak to him anymore because of his girlfriend. You lost your friends like I lost mine and you can't come back to them anymore since you left your friends for your girlfriend. You should have dumped her from the start when you were losing all your friends because you should never choose a girlfriend over friends unless its a marrige or a very serious relationship. All I can say is that you should leave your girlfriend and go to your one friend who text's you. then start a new life with new friends or try to regain your old one's.

Answer 11

Get rid of her, you dont need a gril (animal) like that. Go out with your friend and find a decent girl to party and have a good time with. Stand up for yourself and get your old self back.