I feel like a loser, a guy that I like doesn't feel the same feelings towards me and I pretty much feel gutted. I want to get him off my mind permantely and move forward, but I can't, any suggestions?
2007-06-27 19:34:32 · 12 answers · asked by z 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Stop focusing on him and focus on the many positive attributes you have. Tell yourself that he's missing out on a good thing (you)-convince yourself of this because it's probably true. Also remind yourself that he's done you a favor. Better for him to admit to you upfront that he's not interested than to lead you on for months at a time, playing games with your heart. I know it doesn't seem like it now, but he's done you a tremendous favor.
2007-06-27 19:40:40 · answer #1 · answered by Black I 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just remember every guy you have a relationship with in life is there to show you what your looking for or not looking for, to be with long term so when you are feeling down get excited about what is coming your way and go out and have a good time with your mates and think how lucky you are to know that you didn't make a mistake on a loser because if its meant to be it will be no matter what.
2007-06-28 02:55:32 · answer #2 · answered by beebee 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, write down how you feel in a journal. Figure out what it is about him that you liked, and what happened that made him not have the same feelings for you. Then, just write down how angry, hurt and other emotions you have towards him, then just leave it alone. On your calendar, put up a sticker on days that you don't think about him, and also put up another sticker when you do think about him. You're monthly goal will to be to see how many stickers you'll put up that show how much you don't think about him.
I learned this technique from a close friend of mine, and it works. Sure I still have days when I think about someone who rejected me.
Good Luck!~ It gets better over time!!
2007-06-28 02:41:41 · answer #3 · answered by babysteppin2003 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need chocolate, ice cream and the sun. These are all scientific methods for curring depression / or helping.
Just get plenty of sun, and sweets and stop thinking about the guy. You need to pause in your life to reflect your feelings before you jump in the sack with anyone else. This could take ten minutes or a year! Don't date until you know you are ready. Be true to youself and nothing else should really matter.
Chocolate, sun and ice cream!
2007-06-28 02:45:04 · answer #4 · answered by Kathrine B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take some time out for you, keep busy with your friends and other activities, go shopping with them or organise a girls night out (ask them for help too while you're there), when you feel like being around people that is.
When you dont take some time out to relax, go for a walk, meditate, take a bath, read a book. Stuff that makes you confident and relaxed is good for you and will help speed up the process of getting over him.
Apart from that. you kind of have to go through it on your own and come to your own realisations, and learn form any mistakes this time round.
2007-06-28 02:43:25 · answer #5 · answered by Kelz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We all been there and if you think you have a broken heart now just wait until your husband cheats on you. What you think you feel now is a broken heart isn't anything compared to what that does to your heart. Like you i thought my heart would never heal when my boyfriend left me, I just didn't want to go on until one day i went out and ran in to a guy i haven't seen in a very long time and like magic i no longer cared about my ex boyfriend. Answer to your question is find yourself another guy and you will forget all about your ex.
2007-06-28 04:41:58 · answer #6 · answered by Teenie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I always stay at home for a day or so and cry it out of my system. Then get all done up go out and have fun!
Find a new guy that'll put him to shame! u can do better than that anyway =)
2007-06-28 02:38:02 · answer #7 · answered by SY D 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1) i go out more with my pals 2) i get busy so that i won't have any time pining for him 3) i don't look at his pictures, if possible, i won't look at him unless absolutely necessary 4) if possible, find someone to like.
2007-06-28 02:38:47 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
friends .....you want spend some time with your close friends ....go shopping, for a meal few drinks maybe .....i have some very good friends and theyre always there for me in times of need. you have to be strong it can take time but it will get easier
2007-06-28 03:26:22 · answer #9 · answered by lobon69 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have a sleepover with your best friends, eat lots of chocolate, and spread nasty rumors about him being gay.
2007-06-28 02:38:38 · answer #10 · answered by Mandy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋