Why do you think this happens to me?

Question

I work in people's homes taking care of the elderly I like my job and I treat my clients very well doing everything I can to make them happy yet they still eventually snap on me and are evil and mean no matter how much I try to keep them happy.Why do you think this happens?

Answer 1

Some of the reasons might be because the person is sick and in pain. For some people, it's easy to lose control and snap at someone because pain has a tendency to shorten your patience and make you irritable. Or, some of them may be depressed about no longer being able to care for themselves. They may no longer feel useful, that their life has any significance, or feel like a burden to their families. Just imagine how that would feel! I still have many more years to go, but I know I'm not looking forward to ever feeling that way.

And, I think elderly people are offended because a lot of adults much younger than them and with much less life experience have a tendency to treat them like little children, even when they are still mentally competent. I've even heard some adults talk "baby talk" to them. We'll all be considered "elderly" someday too, so I'm sure you can imagine how offensive that would be. They feel like their dignity has been stripped away.

God bless you for being caring and compassionate toward the elderly. I know it's not an easy job. One thing to keep in mind though is that most likely, their anger is not truly directed toward you. I know it feels personal, but it's not. I think most of them are lashing out at their circumstances, not you. You just happen to be a convenient target. Just continue to be professional and treat them respectfully - like their life matters and is not a burden. Maybe try having an open and honest conversation with them to try to resolve it?

Answer 2

Those perticular people are just jerks. Remember, it's the senior that is you client. Not their knucklehead family and lazy grown kids. Lots of times, those grown kids are trying to take advandage of the senior and YOU could be IN THEIR WAY.

I had a very hard time finding someone wonderful and great l;ike yourself to help with my mom in the home. There are lots of good people who are very appreciative and would love to have you. And that would be the whole family.

Just focus on the senior, not the knuckleheads in the house. If you are having trouble, let people know at your hair salon and other place that you are a home maker for seniors. You can also go to senior assisted living facilities.

They will love you.

Answer 3

Because most people don't listen to old people. I would never call an old person "a client", that is very condescending. Old people hate being treated like they are stupid. Their minds are sharp and you could learn a lot from them if you would listen. If they tell you they want something done a certain way. Do it their way as they have a very good reason for it even though it makes no sense to you. Be gentle with them and treat them with respect. Good luck.

Answer 4

Probably because they are old and cranky. Geriatric patients are worse than little kids. Just let it go and do your job. Make sure your bosses know how troubling this is to you. If you are your own boss, don't worry about it; there are always more clients.

It's not personal, although you might feel that it is. Again, if you are doing all you can for your clients and they are evil and mean, its not you. Old people are the grumpiest, no matter what you do.

Answer 5

Unfortunately some of them may have varying stages of dementia, and would snap at anyone. It's horrible for you, but it's even worse for the people who love them but whom the elderly person no longer recognises.

You're doing a wonderful thing, and I hope you keep making yuor clients' lives better, even if they don't always thank you for it. I'm sure the majority are aware of what you do for them and are very appreciative.

Answer 6

It is caused the elderly men/women are like littlechildren
.Their feelings are so sensitive.Their attitudes come back to the era of their childish..You must be patient and take your no ble job easy.If you heard their bad sayings and you were snapped by them, you should not bring it into your heart..Your principe is always trying to make them happy is very good.
The bad things happened to you is the consequecies of your job in taking care of elderly persons..

Answer 7

Old tired and cranky....especially cranky......
Stop trying to 'make' people happy...they either are or they are not. Be professional and perform your job skilfully. Be sure you are not bringing too much of your personality into their homes, they may feel like you're trying to impose your ways on them, especially since many cannot do things for themselves that they now have to ask for help with.

Answer 8

hi...first of all...i am very proud of u..u are doing a fantastic job..that nor can everyone do...only few blessed ppl like u can do.

as i see ur problem..i can understand one thing make u understand one thing. Old people are just like smalll children..hav u observed...them..they do the same. as ppl grow old...at one point they become kiddish...because they would have become weak..and the weakness...and sadness inside them...make them do all tantrums,,,

But to be frank...if u r not there...with them for a few hrs...they miss u lot...tis is true..( they love u...but weakness...oldage..make them act like tat)
i hope u understand

Answer 9

It could be few of them who are behaving oddly and this happens. Why don't you share your problems with other good elder persons and seek their help. You cannot continue this way otherwise you will get the blame unnecessarily.

Answer 10

Maybe it's because they don't want to be helped doing things just because they are old. Sometimes people don't like getting help because people will think less of them and think they can't do things themselves? Just my opinion.