I asked my little bro for help w/ a chore, he did it w/out a problem and then when i`m just about to go to sleep he comes smashing through my door and starts making demands. so i try to take it up w/ dad he comes up w/ something that i did wrong to cover up for what eric did and get me in trouble. (it happens all the time) he is always saying im doing something wrong it seems. I know he loves me and just wants me to be a better man... but now i dnt feel like i can talk to him about anything...
2007-06-27 18:50:18 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
So get some sleep and wait a few days and then have a man to man talk with your father about how you feel.
2007-06-27 18:53:48 · answer #1 · answered by tjnstlouismo 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I am so sorry you're having this trouble. Sometimes, if ya can't talk to someone, like your dad, maybe you can just hang out with him, like if he's doing something in the garage, go out there and watch what he's doing for a while. if you offer to give him a hand and he says no, don't leave right away, just stay around him, this is one way to bond with him a little bit, without being obvious, and it might open a door for future communication.
It sounds like yur a pretty cool guy, and it sounds like yur dad does love you alot, but sometimes adults aren't always the best communicators, as they are just people too, with problems you prolly don't even know about. so just try not to take it totally personally. and love the good stuff, and just forget about the not so good stuff.
2007-06-27 19:03:51 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
The saying is "nobody's perfect". You can't expect your father to be either. But if something is really hurting you maybe you could write him a letter. Write it a few times over to make sure you said exactly what you want to say in the nicest way you can but explain your feelings. Then give him the best copy and toss the rest. If I have difficulty explaining myself I write a little note. Maybe you could ask for more time with him and you haven't been feeling like his son at all these days. Make sure you mention that he is being hurtful to you because you love him so but he is making you feel like you can't do anything right.
It could help.
Why not talk to mom about it?
2007-06-27 18:59:18 · answer #3 · answered by Emily 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think majority of parents are like that. It always is the case that they will protect and dote 20 x more on the youngest kid. It is always your fault, and when they explain to you, it will be like " he/she is still young, you are the older one, you should be setting examples and not blame them...n blah blah blah" plenty of such bull.....this was/is & still gona b my case too. So my mum n I doesn't really talk much of anything except some subjects in the news.
Perhaps you could draft a short letter to your dad, telling him about how you feel, and although this sound totally insane, but an argument helps. It is when you voice your thoughts and feelings. And mostly, they will think about what you had yelled in that argument and it may come to a compromise. This is what happened btwn my mum n me.
I hope your father/son relationship will improve.
cheers (^.^)
2007-06-27 19:04:42 · answer #4 · answered by Kizheart 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋