I am a 22 year old who somewhat is looking for a meaningful relationship, but cannot seem to find it! For this reason, I notice a lot of females I talk to are very hesitant and they have an issue of attitude. In addition, it seems that a lot of them have a lacking of understanding to people who are not ideal, such as someone who looks like a superstar or a celebrity, and have lots fancy materials. Lastly, it seems that a lot of them seems to be very destructive because they do not appreciate someone who is kind and caring! Instead, they tend be with someone is a total jerk! Especially, someone who enjoy hurting someones feeling!
However, today's norm it seems that it is okay to be foolish or dumb. I am right or wrong? What's up with those females? and why are they so cruel?
2007-06-27 18:26:24 · 16 answers · asked by N.T. 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I am a 22 year old who somewhat is looking to involved a meaningful relationship, but cannot seem to find it! For this reason, I notice a lot of females I talk to are very hesitant and distance. They have an issue of attitude. In addition, it seems that a lot of them have a lacking of understanding to people who are not ideal, such as someone who looks like a superstar or a celebrity, and have lots fancy materials. Lastly, it seems that a lot of them seems to be very destructive because they do not appreciate someone who is kind and caring! Instead, they tend be with someone is a total jerk! Especially, someone who enjoy hurting someone physical and emotional!
However, today's norm seems that it is okay to be foolish or dumb. I am right or wrong? What's up with these females? and why are they so cruel?
2007-07-03 17:41:10 · update #1
Look around at society like the media blitz and inexplicable interest in Paris Hilton. Is she someone you'd want to date? Unfortunately a lot of girls would think you would.
You might need to look for a girl a bit older -- out of college and has a year or two of real world work in her system. That usually helps to mature a girl out when she has to focus on working 5 days a week and paying bills instead of skipping classes and staying up all night eating rice cakes and painting her toe nails.
2007-06-27 18:30:01 · answer #1 · answered by Pandamay 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
With the way, you describe ladies, it seems that in someway, you've been hurt before. They've hurt you before.
Well, I have three sisters, non of them are alike. The second to the eldest is very strict when it comes to fairness. The eldest somehow is understanding. We often quarrel when we were kids. As we go older, I've come to somehow understand them. For me females are special gifts from God. A very fragile work of art of God. And we, men, are the one tasked to take care of them. All things happen for a reason. It doesn't follow that just because you met these ladies who are not that good for you means you will generalize you account. And remember, every belief and trait a person have was actually unconciously came and learned from his initial school whisch is our HOME. Look, I have a mom which is a Female, and i'm sure you defenitely have one too. Should you say your mom is like that? If yes, that explains why you see females as bad images. But if not, then, ask your self again. You know, loveng is not really finding someone who is perfect, but seeing an imperfect person perfectly. Learn to wait. All will fall on it's right time. Hope, i help you a bit. Smile, God Loves You!
2007-06-27 18:42:21 · answer #2 · answered by Jay-r 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
haha, this is always a lovely topic. Women and men are both complicated and both with say they arent. Thats because we understand ourselves and cant grasp onto the concept how the other sex thinks.
Men have just as many attitudes as women. And it seems that whenever they're nice, they want something. Im not going to say all, just most that Ive encountered. Dating and relationships can be tricky and really hard. Theres alot of assholes out there, but keep looking you'll find someone. We dont all like the jerks. Ive been with my guy for a year and hes an absolute sweetheart. I love the sappy guys because Im a sappy gal myself always looking for a hug, kiss, and cuddles.
keep your head up, she'll come along :) :)
2007-06-27 18:34:31 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Society has played a VERY evil game on us - it's called COMMERCIALISM. Ever since the early 1970's, woman have been dogged by the press, music, fashion and the like, to look a certain way, talk, act, and walk a certain way OR they just aren't worth a dime. We also have the idea of self-reliance crammed down our throats ALL the time. This (and other) factors have spawned new generations of "ME ME ME IT'S ALL ABOUT ME" women AND men. The idea that being nice, kind, quiet, or being intelligent MATTERS, is lost for the most part. There ARE those who have been raised by parents NOT of this belief out there - look deeper and wider - you will find them!
2007-06-27 18:38:03 · answer #4 · answered by BikerChick 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I agree with you at this stone age.some are just materialistic,if they see he has a fancy car or anything, they are reasonably nice & flirty.I had a son that I advise look for a genuine person who really cares no matter who you are.In fact he is so busy he hasn't got time for a gf that I really like that for the time being because he is only 17.Back to the girls you're talking about some has got attitude problem being wild going to night club drinking, partying, & etc.
2007-06-27 18:34:58 · answer #5 · answered by shines56 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Women today are turning more like men. Not all men are alike, but some can be complete *******.
For this, maybe some women are hesitant from past hurts and relationships.
Also, hollywood and the media influences people making their ideal unrealistic.
There are good girls out there. You just have to keep an eye out for them. Not all of us are cruel and heartless. :)
2007-06-27 18:32:02 · answer #6 · answered by darkening_hope 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have the same opinion towards guys. The only types of girls they fall for are supermodel types with stuck-up attitudes. They don't care for girls who who baby them, care for them, and love them. I speak of experience. But don't get discouraged, not all us girls are like that. There are still some left in this world who seek guys that are different, kind and caring. Some old fashioned girl who enjoys a nice movie on Saturday night. There are still some faithful girls out there who want a serious relationship, marriage and someday a family. You will find her someday, just be patient. Good Luck.
2007-07-05 17:58:57 · answer #7 · answered by Sweetgirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some go for the attractive based on how men act as well. the men's sexuality plays a role on women nowadays, and personality is not the only thing that is attractive now. I ponder on that question at moments as well.
2007-06-27 18:30:04 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Women are passive aggressive by nature and they expect men to be dominant.
So thats why they come off as confusing to many men. And men who are only kind and caring come off as passive aggressive to women (makes her think he is just after sex) and they dont like that
2007-06-27 18:31:43 · answer #9 · answered by twid392™ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you just need to find the right one. Maybe one that isn't so stuck up. Not all girls are stuck up you know.
2007-06-27 18:31:47 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋