What if you marry somebody, and find out that you aren't sexually compatible? Or you find out that they aren't good at sex at all? How would you like being stuck with them for life after finding that out? (unless you divorce)
2007-06-27 18:19:34 · 21 answers · asked by AfWuEcSkOyMoEu 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
Sexual techniques can be learned to enhance sexual pleasure. People can even learn to love each other. There is much more to marriage than sex.
2007-06-27 18:22:50 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
This is a typical "male" only question. What if you only, live together and find yourself not sexually compatible then? Either way you slice the cake, a lack of commitment to the other partner means bye-bye. The female is left "holding the bag" after "putting out" for the guy. Any relationship devoid of commitment is dead before you even, have the sex part. In Canada, the law considers you a legally bound couple after living together for a minimum of 6 months. This was instituted because too many women were left "hung out to dry" after the guy vanished on her, leaving her without $ for either, herself or the child(ren) sired. The sexual incompatible excuse doesn't hold any "water" in a court of law.
2007-06-28 01:30:38 · answer #2 · answered by guraqt2me 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Let me be candid about this topic. There will be many who read this and will think I am ridiculous, but....
Sex is intended to be the RESULT of your relationship, not a DEFINING aspect of it. If you married someone, you agreed and commited yourself completely to that person. Religiously, legally, etc.
Your sexuality with that person should be one that grows and develops as your marital state grows and develops. If you think that the sex should be awesome from ground zero - you lost the notion of what marriage asks of you. Marriage asks you to jointlly work as one. That takes both people to become commited to the nature of both of you becoming a single unit. All phases of both your lives need to re-examine your indiviuality. and press on towards your individuality becoming the compliment of your spouse.
The sexuality you have is the only aspect of your life that you can decide to give to another. Sex is a selfless action that will only grow when you come to grips with this. Compatibility with another has much deeper levels to deal with than the seeking of physical pleasure.
If you commit yourself to becoming your spouse's true compliment, you will find that the sex you are concerned with the least of your concerns. Rather, you will find that your seeking your spouse's pleasure (as your spouse seeks the same for you) will transform sex into a true defining form of love for the other.
2007-06-28 01:33:05 · answer #3 · answered by preichwein 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
"Sexually compatible" is pure psychobabble. Any man and woman who are deeply in love, totally committed to each other, and willing to devote the necessary time and effort to building their relationship can develop a mutually satisfying marital/sexual relationship. And no-one who lacks those essential characteristics should even think about marrying.
The idea isn't to marry someone who is "good at sex". The person you marry shouldn't be "good at sex", and neither should you. The two of you begin at the beginning, and gradually become good as a couple, at making love in all its many forms, not just sex.
2007-06-28 01:34:06 · answer #4 · answered by PaulCyp 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
The high rate of divorce among folk who "shack up "seems to indicate that"test driving' sexually is a bad idea. Sexual promiscuity is an even worse idea. People should look into all the areas of their human relationship and know each other well before getting married.
2007-06-28 16:31:00 · answer #5 · answered by James O 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
From the way I was raised I was taught masturbation is a sin to so if your going to be a sinner either way why wait.Abstinance is an honorable thing if it works for you but for most kids it leads them to riskier sexual behavior and an increased risk of catching std's A risk that should be taken very seriously and decided by the educators not the church.
2007-06-28 02:03:57 · answer #6 · answered by Amy m 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The wonderful thing about marriage is learning together. That includes learning the sexual side of your relationship. Waiting makes it magical. Exploring the unknown together and growing closer. That is the way that God intended it to be.
2007-06-28 01:29:45 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 0⤋
You can usually tell if someone is non receptive. There are worse things that can happen and also there is reasons why people divorce, that is one of them.
2007-06-28 01:23:13 · answer #8 · answered by ladynamedjane 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
if two people really love each other, the sex will be good. great sex is about the emotion behind it, not the physical aspect of it. if the emotional is good, the physical will be too.
2007-06-28 01:31:35 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
WELL I BELIEVE IF U TRULY LOVE SOMEONE IT WILL ALL WORK OUT . IF THERE IS A PROBLEM YOU TALK ABOUT IT AND GET THROUGH THE PROBLEMS OR DIFFERENCES YOU ARE HAVING. IF YOU CAN'T DO THAT THEN YOU SHOULDN'T HAVE GOT MARRIED IN THE FIRTS PLACE
2007-06-28 01:26:46 · answer #10 · answered by just me 4 · 5⤊ 2⤋