I had one girl come up to me, and ask me out...I was afraid to say no, because I could just see her running off crying...and I hate hurting people. So, was wondering the best way of saying no.
I know your going to ask, NO she was not hot, NO I didn't like her.
2007-06-27 18:00:28 · 25 answers · asked by fighterworldwarplanes 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Just say, "I am flattered thanks, but I am not ready to date right now."
2007-06-27 18:02:22 · answer #1 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If a girl is aggressive enough to come up to you and ask her out - she's emotionally strong enough to accept rejection. But, being the nice guy that you are - naturally you want to let her down easy. So, you just say something like, I'm taking a break from dating - I'm not ready to get on the rebound yet - but when I'm ready if I'm interested in dating you then, I'll let you know. That way - instead of feeling bad about herself - she feels bad for YOU. This also keeps the ball in YOUR court so she won't be asking you later on! Hey - if you're not dating anyone now - then you basically are on the rebound and you won't be ready until you ask out the right person anyway!
2007-06-28 01:04:33 · answer #2 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Rejection is a normal part of life, and trust me, we all get over it.
The best thing to do in this situation is to be honest, just not brutal. Say something like "Hey it's nice of you to ask. I'm sorry but I'm really not interested in getting involved with anyone right now."
We all get turned down at some point in life, she knows that she is taking a big risk by walking up to you and asking. Just be nice about it, and direct- It would hurt her more to go out on a date with you, and find out later it was a pity date.
2007-06-28 01:10:37 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best thing is just to say no, if you say something like not right now or I'm not ready for dating at the moment then you might give her hope and then later when you say no it'll just feel worse. Or you could say yes and see how 1 date goes, it's up to you but don't try and say no in a nice way coz there isn't a nice way.
2007-06-28 01:03:55 · answer #4 · answered by sumthing_to_say_12 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You just say "no," or "sorry, but I'm not interested". You can't be accountable for her feelings -- she's taking a risk of being rejected and she knows it. Have more faith in people to be able to accept rejection -- especially one brave enough to ask somebody out.
2007-06-28 01:03:13 · answer #5 · answered by Mickey Mouse Spears 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's better if ur honest with her and just tell her flat out that u don't like her like that.If u don't u'll most likely say yes and if she fids out that u went out with her because u fealt bad 4 her she'll hate u and feel even more like a joke 4 asking u out.
2007-06-28 01:05:35 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I like using the Spiderman technique.
Just tell her that you can only offer friendship, because you are a superhero and if you two were together her safety could be compromised, and you like her too much to cause harm.
2007-06-28 09:24:59 · answer #7 · answered by Science Wiz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have one of the most difficult problem. to put down somebody is already rejecting her. but whether she like it or not, she should accept it. maybe you can lessen the ill feeling you could give her by doing it in a nice way like saying "i would love to but, i just can't" or maybe using a white lie would be best, "i would love to but my mom grounded me just this morning"
2007-06-28 01:09:38 · answer #8 · answered by Aefer De Luxe 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ask them the joke about 5 fingers 2 the face
2007-06-28 01:02:49 · answer #9 · answered by shane e 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be honest and say you aren't interested in going out. Us girls can take rejection, its not fun to be rejected but we won't be scarred for life if you say no.
2007-06-28 01:03:54 · answer #10 · answered by SoAZ Gal 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I faced the same dilemma many times.
What I do is this...I wear a ring on my finger on the date. Sooner or later, she's got to get the drift. Or she'll ask you.
Then just say...I'm going to her place later.
It will hurt, but lesser impact.
2007-06-28 01:02:43 · answer #11 · answered by Muhammadlustprophet 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋