I returned home from oversease and turned down a wicked job and also missed an opportunity with a wicked guy, i'm so ashamed of ym actions for the last 6 months but there is nothing i can do to change it so now i am always going ot wonder what could have been if i had of done things differently, i hate how i have acred for the last 6 months but nothing i can do can change it! How cna i get over it and stop thinkig about what i could be doing?
2007-06-27 16:38:37 · 20 answers · asked by sally b 1 in Health ➔ Mental Health
Don't think about what you should have done - it serves no positive purpose. Think to the future and what you should be doing, and then focus in that direction. If you are looking to the future, you don't have time to look at the past - and don't be too hard on yourself :-)
2007-06-27 16:42:10 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
we all have things from our past that we regret.. remember no one is perfect and you are not always going to make the right decision ... learn from all of that.. oviously there is nothing you can do to turn back time and get those opportunites again.. but you do have today and tomorrow and the rest of your life to make every second count.. There's always going to be another job and another guy.. sometimes we wonder why things happen but i strongly believe in the saying "everything happens for a reason" u never know if the guy you regret missing out on turned out to be a big jerk and you also would of never known if the job you turned down would of been a nightmare instead of a blessing. Or if could of been awesome .. but it already happened .. and SO WHAT forget about it ! you have the rest of your life to open up so many other doors. dont live on your past because your future might just pass you by
2007-06-27 23:57:57 · answer #2 · answered by laural8477 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are times when everything we do goes wrong, or seems to go wrong. But you need to think of your wonderful years when you felt good. You can have it back. Just try to forget the past and dont brood over it. If you keep thinking the negative aspects of life then you will end up in depression. You know that you are feeling the guilt or remorse for the actions you have taken. This is a very good point to make amends. When you think about the negative points for a particular action, think otherwise and you will change yourself.
To help you in this matter, you can take Rescue Remedy mother tincture, 2 drops on your tongue 3 times daily for a week followed by twice a day for a month. You will definitely feel better.
2007-06-27 23:49:18 · answer #3 · answered by amembal4444 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well it just sounds like you made some ill thought decisions and you will just have to live and learn from this. You seem to be a person that needs to SERIOUSLY think things out before taking action. Regret is a state of mind and unless you have the blueprints for some type of time machine you can successfully build and transport yourself in then there is no need in dwelling on the past. Time is the most valuable thing ever... it can never ever be regained, replaced, or changed so value it and stop wasting it on regret!
2007-06-27 23:43:50 · answer #4 · answered by caramichi65 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes lost opportunities turn out to be Blessings in disguise. Even if we've done stupid stuff to cause the lost opportunities. Usually if we're doing stupid stuff, there's reasons behind it. So don't beat yourself up. A year from now you could look back and say "Thank God I didn't hook up with that job or that guy." It could be that back then you just weren't ready to handle them, and in the future you will be. I've noticed that if I'm really meant to have a job or be with a guy, there's NOTHING I can do to mess it up. If that's what God has planned for my life, He's going to make sure it happens. Blessings and Bliss! - Bunny
2007-06-27 23:50:17 · answer #5 · answered by Bunny 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
By looking back and concentrating on the past you are depriving yourself of day to day happiness and experiences. I know it is hard to move on but asking the question shows me that you are concerned and looking for a change. I believe that things happen for a reason. You have a life ahead of you with new people and many new opportunities. The person and the job in the past are just that, they are in the past. Look forward to each day, take it one day at a time. You had a lot happen in a short period of time, give yourself a chance to accept it and do your best to move forward. Good luck and don't give up. The world needs you.
2007-06-27 23:48:05 · answer #6 · answered by Deborah Z 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you find a way to change the past, then please bottle it and sell it on eBay. The whole idea is that you can't go back in time but you can learn from your mistakes so you won't repeat them in the future. Remember the future is the place you CAN control. My sincerest suggestion is to stop being as impulsive as you were in the past and think things thru in the future.
2007-06-27 23:43:05 · answer #7 · answered by Joy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
time to dump the old baggage kiddo. You won't leave the past behind until you start working toward a future. So, decide what you really want and develop a plan for going after that.
2007-06-27 23:41:29 · answer #8 · answered by essentiallysolo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wicked!
2007-06-27 23:49:53 · answer #9 · answered by notyou311 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hmmmn have you tried PRAYING? just being in the presence of God will give you an awesome release...
Have you asked yourself why do you miss the bad things that past? maybe your just bored... be careful when you get to that state of mind... Instead fill your head with GOOD things and not worry about missing out on the bad part of life...
2007-06-27 23:49:56 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋