heres the thing im 23 and grew up with 2 brothers and like alot of boy cousins! the closest girl cousin is like 10 years younger than me! so when the family gets together (which is a lot) sometimes i like to go over where my brothers and cousins are hanging out (they are like around 15-20 by the way) so my husband get mad b/c he thinks i dont belong with them! he says that i should be with the ladys ( my mom and aunts) and it pisses me off cuz its not like i hang all day with them! i know they are sometimes inmature and say stupind stuff but l love them so much and i like talking to them and they really look up to me! but i think my husband is jelous or something! what should i do? am i wrong?
2007-06-27 15:59:25 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
It don't look good for a married woman to be "hanging out with a bunch of single guys" cousins or not.
2007-06-27 16:04:10 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋
Associating with members of your family is not, I repeat, not wrong. The fact that your husband feels challenged as a result of your behavior when among your family members should be a very clear indication that he, your husband, has serious "control issues." If you recognize that his issues are not your responsibility, then you have arrived at a crossroads in your marriage. Just think for a moment; what will he do if you join some non-family friends for a social gathering?
For some reason that no one, not even himself, knows he is fearful whenever you are not under his control.. He should be grateful that you have a family unit that is a safe and fun place for you to be. His actions will only become more pronounced as the marriage goes on. Bring his issues to him in a loving and positive way. Once you receive a response to your offer to help, you will know what you should do.
2007-07-04 20:10:25 · answer #2 · answered by johny0802 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You've got to keep your hus comfortable at all cost. Maybe he can go visit with you, or maybe you need to invite the boys to hang out at your place. Give your husband lots of attention in front of these guys, and make sure he knows that there is no attraction there with anybody but him. Put your husband #1 and things will be much happier at home.
2007-07-05 15:25:36 · answer #3 · answered by TX Mom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm with your husband your not married to your cousins its with him and if he has a problem with it then do as he says you must hang out with them alot for him to worry. I hang out with my cousins all the time and when I do have a boyfriend they allways have a problem with them. But thats ok cuz im not married! So I move on...if you really love your husband you would at least consider his feelings and listen. Cousins will always be cousins but the same doesnt go for husbands!! And another thing I wouldnt trust my cousins either..
2007-06-27 16:15:45 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Your husband probably sees that you 'stick out like a sore thumb' being with a bunch of boys. You love them to death, as you say, and probably would like to hang out with them more. Your husband could think that your liking to be with them is almost like being a young girl hanging out with the boys and being flirtatious - it kind of looks the same even if it is not the same...)
To make peace, I'd hang out with the 'ladies' more.
2007-07-05 09:31:09 · answer #5 · answered by kathyw 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course your not wrong, its your family! Your husband is just gonna have to deal with it! He's being a control freak, yes probably becoause he's jealouys that you'll hook upo with a hot younger man. Stand your ground and see you family as much as you want (or even more than that just so he gets used to it). How would he like it if you said that he cant see his friends or family!
2007-06-27 16:05:10 · answer #6 · answered by Andrea C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Enjoy your cousins, i did the same things with my male cousins. We have so much fun when we are all together. tell your jealous husband, those are your cousins, and you love them, like your own brothers.
2007-07-05 08:47:16 · answer #7 · answered by dbrh_soto 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's messed up. There's nothing wrong with hanging out with your cousins and brothers.
2007-06-28 07:15:58 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Actually theres nothing wrong...It could be a react or maybe hes worried for u...Its good that u have this kind of caring and loving husband.U are lucky so u must treasure this kind of husband.
2007-06-27 16:04:01 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
tell him to "shut your lip woman" they are my family and if you don't like it tuff cuz no matter what you say or do i will always see my family cuz at the end of the day hun your family will always be there 4 you
2007-07-03 05:58:38 · answer #10 · answered by kate n 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋