there's this girl i love with all my heart and i finally got the balls to ask her out and she said something about how she didn't wanna ruin our friendship and that killed me. then like 4 days later she went out with this other guy who was her friend also. it just shattered my all ready broken heart into dust and it's werid i often feel like crying and i get so mad i just feel so alone and hopeless like theres no reason to go on.
i'm so pathetic she's the only thing i want and i feel like without her i just disappear.
but i no there no use to keep wishing and i just wanna get on with my life and be happy agin
what can i do to help me get over my broke heart.
2007-06-27 15:38:15 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i still wanna be her friend is there a way to get over it with out losing her friendship
that would make me feel worse i would feel like such an @$$
and i'd never forgive myself
2007-06-27 15:42:02 · update #1
LOVE. . . the thing that strikes down both beggar and king.
I've lived enough to have learned how to move on. Time is really the only way. There is no 'quick fix' to be found. BUT it does HELP to move on. Expose yourself to new people, get a hobby that gets you out. Make NEW friends.
Just DO NOT go down the road i did. I'll tell you this story in the hope that it will help not only you.
When I was 14, I had my heart broken. My first real girlfriend, my first 'everything'. We were together about 6 months. Sometime over easter vacation, she took her life. No note, no nothing. It took me 3 years to come back because I just shut down.I put my nose into my books and work. I existed, I didn't LIVE. I can never get that time back. When I finally came out of it, a long relationship was maybe a month for me. I kept trying to measure them to what was lost.
It's not a good thing looking back. I was a complete ******.
When I met my wife, I just KNEW.
EVERYTHING changed for me that day, she became my world, my reason.
And now 13 years later, I still choose HER.
Go out and LIVE. She's out there somewhere, waiting.
2007-06-27 15:56:02 · answer #1 · answered by Mr.TwoCrows 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wake up and smell the coffee! This girl won't like you for a while, but until then, play the field and get your mind off of her. When you talk to other cute girls, don't be a still hurting stan, just be you without her. Depending on someone like you're describing is not healthy one bit. Try to avoid sugary substances, get lots of sleep and drink some hot tea with 3 spoonfuls of sugar in it. Also, spend at least 3 hours alone, despite your friends who want to "help" you. They mean the best for you, I'm sure, but hearing them put her down is only going to make things worse for your state of mind. Feel better soon and don't worry about one tuna when your Moby Dick is swimming around there in the ocean for you! There are plenty of fish in the ocean. Happy fishing!
2007-06-27 22:46:10 · answer #2 · answered by lazytowngurl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Welcome to real life---you are learning valuable lessons here--one is life guarantees NOTHING---you try and try--sometimes you win and sometimes you lose--it happens. The idea I get is you are young--hormones and emottions are a jumble right now--in a while you will calm down and realize all that I am saying. When a girl or a guy says no or yes to anything--it is a presonal choice---we all have the right to say yes or no. When she said no--she had a reason--you should have said thanks and smiled and resumed being friends--and who she dates is her business--it is not a personal attack on you--she just made a choice--and she is only dating--not marrying him---so what??? Be happy for others--your smile and support for your friends makes you very desirable--pouting is not attractive. Keep moving and enjoy life--meet another girl and have some fun--time is passing by very quickly---and your heart cannot break--it is impossible--all you suffered was a little temporary disappointment--get over it. We all bring our selves our own fate and destiny--you make yourself feel bad--no one does it to you. Start smiling and you'll feel better. Negative attraction brings negative results--think positive and things will start looking better. Good luck
2007-06-27 22:49:59 · answer #3 · answered by fire_inur_eyes 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
try to meet new girls? go clubbing, go out with your friends, do fun things that will get your mind off of her. Shes not good for you, she was just leading you on. You deserve a better girl who will love you back. After awhile, the feeling will go away. Its ok, it just takes time..some people more time then others, but eventually it will fade away. Keep your head up, theres other fishes in the sea. Good Luck <3
2007-06-27 22:44:02 · answer #4 · answered by jElic 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's going to take time.
I've been there....
I was broken hearted for a year and a half....
You just have to realize that life goes on...one day you'll wake up and everything will feel lighter.
There is no way to quicken the process...as much as I wish I could tell you there is, there really isn't.
2007-06-27 22:41:56 · answer #5 · answered by philenacarter 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The first thing you can do to recover is you have to accept what happened. Then decide what you want from a relationship. Then dont search for another one and enjoy the single life and do all the things you love to do. Try to stay friends with her and keep in touch with all of your friends. They will get you through it.
2007-06-27 22:41:36 · answer #6 · answered by ducky 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
for one you can forget about her becuase if she goes out with other guys she is not ur true friend and think about all the better things in life like ur family and other friends. Don't let her ruin ur life becasue that is the way she wants u to feel.
2007-06-27 22:45:57 · answer #7 · answered by jujubeeisjulie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should treat yourself to some thing you lyk doin and just get on with life there iz plenty more fish in the sea.
you can still be friends and remember if you have a brain you will lose all the pain
2007-06-27 22:43:31 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Here's what you you do, you find a much more attractive woman to date and you show her off. If anything hopefully it will get the other woman jealous and then she'll want to be with you and that's when you say "sorry I dont want to ruin our friendship". Bam! That's revenge 101 baby, pure and simple. Thats really all you got to do, go out with someone better than her in all aspects.
2007-06-27 22:46:19 · answer #9 · answered by The Ragin Caucasian 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Tequila....and after that, get back out there and find someone who feels the same way that you do. Don't waste another breath on her. She obviously doesn't want a relationship with you so FORGET HER!!! Then when this guy dumps her, and she needs ashoulder to cry on, you'll be with someone else.
P.S. - I'm not Bitter. :^)
2007-06-27 22:44:45 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋