I am not looking for a definition of hatred.
I'm looking for your true heart response to hatred.
Have you ever hated anyone? Have you learned from that emotion?
what have you learned?
2007-06-27 14:27:39 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
my dear gorgeoustxwoman2: I truly hope and pray that you find strength within yourself to forgive.
much love :)
2007-06-28 01:53:16 · update #1
Maybe I am sharing more of my heart than I should, but I had come to hate my ex daughter-in-law. My son became disabled while they were together, and she did everything a woman can do to tear apart his manhood. He won custody of his daughter, the apple of my eye, because of DCF intervention. He has signed legal guardianship to me because he is not able to care for her needs. She has disappointed my granddaughter so many times with broken promises and missed visits. She has no legal visitation, but I know my girl needs to see her mother. She stopped by this week, and I was given eyes to see her pain, and I asked to pray with her. I feel a burden has been lifted from my heart. I don't know that she will change her life around, but I have been able to forgive the past, and I want to help her any way I can. Have at me for this one. I am not so tough, after all.
2007-06-27 16:12:48 · answer #1 · answered by One Wing Eagle Woman 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I have never *hated* anyone, but I've been WAY angry for longer than I should have been. What I learned is that anger (hatred) is like a poison running through your being and only YOU suffer, not the object of your anger/hatred. This is why ultimately, forgiveness is for ones own self, not the person who you forgive. If more people realized this, it would be far easier to forgive and move on with the awesome parts of life.
2007-06-27 14:33:30 · answer #2 · answered by MyPreshus 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Well I used to hate this girl at work because she stole the position I was up for but then I realized that even though she rubbed in it my face all the time she is not the one I should hate because its not her fault she got promoted (even though she only worked there for 2 months and I had been working for 2 years and that she was seeing the boss on the side).. So anyway I realized that she was SEEING the boss to get a promotion at a Publix grocery store and I did not want it that bad, so I quit and got a better Job thank God, but she still did not stop and called me in school and behind my back and all but in the end I was like you know what I am not going to bother with you and not waste my time hating and draining my emotions os some thing this stupid.
2007-06-27 14:59:03 · answer #3 · answered by Love Exists? 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I learned hate from my ex husband. I learned the taste of hatred when he turned his back on his children and refused to help me support them. I decided one day that this hatred was getting me no where and I decided to approach it from a different angle. When you have children with someone, problems arise throughout a lifetime for which you must deal with this person. I go through stages when he does something regarding the kids and he can cause me to become angry again. I really thought I was over my hatred until some new problem arose this week and I was reminded of the total disgust I feel for this person. I pray for the strength that I need to deal with him. I just keep repeating.... and even this shall pass as I grit my teeth, crack my knuckles and prepare for my cell phone to ring again. Grrrr...
2007-06-27 14:40:43 · answer #4 · answered by omgithinkiknow 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I have found that hatred was a temporary, passionate response. When I began to examine it and look deeper I saw it was used as self-protection against fear or pain, but before i recognized that, it was poison that I swallowed and it slowly ate me alive.
Now that I see hatred for what it truly is, I am able to stop it before it takes hold. I can see the problem more clearly and take steps to solve the true problem.
2007-06-27 14:40:50 · answer #5 · answered by Aria 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I don't think I've actually ever hated anyone. Hate is such a strong emotion and I think there's really no point in hating. It just hurts you and eventually will destroy you. I have disliked some people who have done much damage to the world but I don't think there is anybody that is so bad that I can hate them. I don't think there is anyone that doesn't have a tiny atom of good in them so that's why it's hard for me to hate.
2007-06-27 15:14:31 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Yep, there is a person I hate. He stole religion and the comfort it brings from me at a very young age. He is now a defrocked priest in prison. Since I can't really hurt him the way he hurt me, I transferred the hatred to his church. It is not too farfetched since they protected him from the law and transferred him from parish to parish.
Actually, he deserves hate and has never asked for forgiveness. In fact his last public statement he made on the subject blamed those who accused him. I don't really feel I have been harmed by the emotion.
It is quite nice to serve it up cold. thanks for asking.
2007-06-27 15:47:24 · answer #7 · answered by Owl Eye 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I have learned that hatred is a total waste. It only hurts the one who hates. There are people I don't like, but I strive to not hate them.
2007-06-27 14:33:03 · answer #8 · answered by in a handbasket 6 · 5⤊ 0⤋
I used to hate my father with a hatred that was so strong and vile that it was destroying me. Then one day I realized that I was turning into him and began to hate myself instead! I finally realized that being angry like that was only hurting me and no body else, and I didn't want to be like that anymore. I finally learned to forgive him for how he treated me and to forgive myself for becoming so much like him. I am finally happy with who I am and the life I have, and and as a result I have a lot less anger and resentment.
2007-06-27 14:38:31 · answer #9 · answered by ♥ terry g ♥ 7 · 5⤊ 0⤋
Yes I have hated someone. But since I have the love of Jesus in me now I dont hate people like I used to. However today I do hate the following things. Sin. All forms of it. My sin, your sin, anybody's and everbody's sin. One sin I really hate is terrorism. It is very hard to keep from spilling over into hating the people who do such deeds as killing innocent people just because they are Jews or Christians or Americans. I pray that God will help me love them and that they will come to Christ. Many are turning to the love of Jesus since it is the only thing that can turn a hateful heart from maniacal murder to marvelous mercy. It affects me, because it reminds me that I still have the capacity to hate. A sin that is very hard to conquer. But with Jesus my Lord I fear not. Perfect love casteth out all fear and hate! I have learned that loving your enemies is a difficult task. it can be accomplished because all things are possible with God . But it is a tough row to hoe . Thank you Jesus Cap'n Arlo
2007-06-27 14:50:38 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋