It's just like back when we were young[not good]?

Question

Okay.

Let me give you some background on my family. My parents have been divorced ever since I was three, but have lived in the same house until i was twelve. It made my two siblings and I walk on eggshells constantly. My father moved out about three years ago and all three of us kids went with him. That's when we came out of denial of my mother being an alcoholic. About six months (maybe eight) she went into rehab. I resent her more than my siblings because she disliked me for not being the first born gilr or boy andleaned on me when i was growing up. I missed out on my child hood because of her. Now that she is out of rehab my father has her over to take care of us, some times (most of the time) she sleeps over and he retreats to his girlfriend (of about 14 years). Recently I have wanted nothing but to leave. I feel as if my territory has been invaded. I told my father this but he told me "to chill out". I am at my ends wit, and now so are my siblings.

Advice?

Answer 1

Have you ever tried to talk to your mom? i know it wont be easy and the fact that you think she "hates" you might make it even more difficult, But you really need to tell her how you feel if you feel you cannot do that try your father. I know it sounds a bit corny but you have to tell them how you truly feel and alas if that doesnt work then i suggest you stick it out until your eighteen remember you have to think of your siblings. Would you abscence help them? really this situation sounds real complicated and if it gets to the point where its taking strain on your life the i suggest you look for other places to stay e.g relatives.
hope i helped good luck
xoxoMoeisha

Answer 2

I don't blame you for feeling invaded. Can you just retreat to your room for the majority of the time she is there? Sounds as if it won't be much longer. You are probably old enough now to take care of yourself and any younger siblings. Why don't you ask your dad about doing that?

Good luck. I know it is hard.