I sent a gift to my cousins wifes parents for their wedding anniversary, i spent alot of money,, the anniversary party was 2 weeks ago and i recieved no call or thank you note.. Cousins wifes sons 20 birthday is next week,, should i even send him a gift?
I did last year, recieved no thank you for that either,,,,
2007-06-27 13:28:15 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
they recieved it because i have a tracking # which shows their signature
2007-06-27 13:33:14 · update #1
If the anniversary party was 2 weeks ago, I think they still have time to get the thank you out. I would give them 2 more weeks. At that point I would call and say "I just wanted to make sure you recieved my gift as I couldn't make it to the party..."
For the 20 year old - send a card. If there was no thank you last year and he is over 18, no more gifts. You are a very generous person. Don't get taken advantage of.
2007-06-27 13:37:57 · answer #1 · answered by cmd0622 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Unless this birthday is somehow related to you... childs, yours or your parents, then send a card with no money attached.
If you send everyone you know money and gifts then you will be broke and they won't care.
Last year's birthday and the anniversary should have been your wake up call.
Spend that money on yourself and give yourself a Big Thank you and a Pat on Your Back ...
2007-06-27 13:57:06 · answer #2 · answered by simpleminded 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Frankly, I might send a card to the son to acknowledge the birthday, but since the parents did not have the manners to thank you for the gift they received, the son won't either. If you want to send a gift, do so, but don't ever expect a thank you out of this family since they have already demonstrated it will not happen.
2007-06-27 13:37:42 · answer #3 · answered by rcsanandreas 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I hate to admit it to the world but I am a thank-you card hater and usually it takes me a couple months to get a thank-you card out, if at all. The people you sent gifts to are probably similar to me. (Or similar to my husband who was never raised to write thank-you cards and doesn't even think about doing it.)
I guess the reason why I don't see the need to send thank-you's is this: If you are sending me a present just to get a thank-you card then you are sending it for the wrong reason. You should not be sending a gift just to get recognition for sending it. If you are a good friend of mine and you are sending me a present because you care for me and you know I'll love the gift, then you don't need a card from me telling me how much I love it. You'll know by my response and likely hear verbal thank you's on numerous occasions.
Personally, I love giving gifts without a name on it so the person doesn't know I was the person who blessed them, it's just a blessing for me just to give.
If you feel you must send something, send a card.
2007-06-27 14:51:14 · answer #4 · answered by worldsojourner 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Why do you send expensive gifts to people not closely connected to you ? It is really rude of them not to send a thank you note or at least call and say thank you.These are adult people not children, clearly they should know better.As for the son of your cousin's wife,there too a call or a thank you note should have been sent.There are no excuses for that.So this year,you should not even bother.You are being taken advantage of my dear.What do these people send you for your special days !!!????
2007-06-27 14:59:40 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
This always works, contact them and ask if they received the gift. Tell them it was on the charge and you were verifying before you paid.
I would wait one more week, it's possibly they took a trip. As for the other send a card no need for gift.
2007-06-27 13:45:48 · answer #6 · answered by lakelover 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How rude these people are. I can't imagine it. Please don't go to the expense and trouble again for these people. Go ahead and send a card if you want to acknowledge them, but I don't think they need any more gifts.
I have a "friend" who is that terribly rude - she doesn't even say thank you in person. She does say she doesn't NEED anything - well yes she does, but manners and good taste aren't for sale. LOL
2007-06-27 13:45:15 · answer #7 · answered by Patti C 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like they are a rather unappreciative branch of the family. I'm sorry that your thoughtfulness went unrecognized. I would just send a card to him and not bother giving gifts to this family again. Lesson learned.
2007-06-27 13:38:15 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I don't understand why you are sending expensive gifts to people who are only very distantly related to you - a card is quite sufficient in this situation. I suggest you reserve your generosity for those who appreciate it.
2007-06-27 14:22:16 · answer #9 · answered by Bethany 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
maybe they didn't recieved the gift you should ask them if they like the gift or not you can open up to them they are your cousins.
2007-06-27 13:32:04 · answer #10 · answered by @NGEL B@BY 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋