i am trying to get a job this summer maybe, it doesnt sound like much and it only pays 9 15, but the worst part is that its like 14 miles away from my house, and i have no car, or license! my parents always try to discourage my getitng a licnese, they say, its not that easy, you have to buy the car and the insurance, and then you get into the driving. young people are bad drivers and you'll wind up in jail like paris hilton, my mother tells me. my fahter wouldnt let me touch the steering wheel of his car with a ten foot pole. to get to the job i'm considreing, its like a 2 hour bus ride. dad's like, take the bus, yeah. i'm thinking of moving closer downtown , or getting the licnes but parents dont support me, they think i'm still 14 or something ( i'm 21) what do you think?
2007-06-27 13:09:41 · 17 answers · asked by lonesome me 4 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
i think the lot of you are disrespectful gits!
2007-06-28 10:40:36 · update #1
i am a full time student, obviously! joer
2007-06-28 10:41:08 · update #2
Sounds like your parents don't know how to let you grow up. I think you need to have a searious talk with them, they should be helping you grow up. Not stopping you from growing up. Do you have any grandparents that might help you talk to your parents, or help you get on your feet? Good Luck.
2007-06-27 13:16:44 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your parents think you're still 14 because you're acting like you're still 14. At 21, you should be either in college full time and paying nominal rent or out on your own making a life for yourself. What does your parents' support have to do with you getting a license/insurance/car? Move out, get a job (or two or three) and support yourself. If you are going to stay at home, then take the bus even though it's a two hour ride. You have to make the choice whether you want to be an adult and be treated as such or remain under Mommy and Daddy's care and be treated that way.
2007-06-27 21:14:32 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Gosh, I thought you were like 16 or 17. :0(
It's tough to have job and no lisence. I am 36 and do not have a lisence. (On Long Island no less!...no busses before 6 am or after 7pm and no busses on Sundays or Holidays!) (My own personal convictions why I do not have a lisence)
If you want to do your own thing, then thta's a goal you have to work toward .
If you want to get a car, and insurance, start w/ a job that is closer for now and start saving money. You are still living home and I imagine you aren't paying rent... so AFTER you give your parents some money every month for supporting their full grown adult child, save the rest and get out on your own.
2007-06-27 20:42:20 · answer #3 · answered by Fallen_Anjel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go get your drivers license you are an adult and should be able to make your own decisions. Yes you do have to buy and maintain a car but you cant rely on people to drive you around and taking a bus for 2 hours is outrageous especially when the job is only 14 miles away.
2007-06-27 20:15:40 · answer #4 · answered by Jackie 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You ar legally an adult now. Ask them if they expect to support you for the rest of your life? If not, they need to give your some leaway so you can gain more independence Show them you are responsible by looking into taking professional driving lessons. The Auto Club offers them. there are also on-line programs to study up to get a driving permit, which many states require you have while you are learning. Good luck! My older son didn't get his license until he was 21 and my younger son is 18 and not driving, but only because we feel that he needed to focus more on school.
2007-06-27 21:10:30 · answer #5 · answered by knittinmama 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Obviously your parents have some trust issues wuth you.The fact that you mention Paris Hilton makes me think,the issues are a drinking habit?or drugs? Driving is a priviledge,not a right.You parents owe you nothing.Get a job close by.Save your money, get a place of your own near the area that is most likely to provide the best source of future employment,and work and save for insurance money 1st, down payment for a car 2nd, And then thank your parents for the opportunity to prove that you are mature and responsible.
2007-06-27 20:25:48 · answer #6 · answered by Rhea B 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Seriously, you need a reality check. Your parents cannot stop you from getting your license. But you have to have insurance in order to do so. Which costs money...for you...a lot! In their home, however, they do have a say. You need to get a license/insurance, get a job or two, get a car, and get out of your parents home. It's time to be independent. Take the bus...or find something closer until you can afford to get it all taken care of. good luck!
2007-06-27 20:18:41 · answer #7 · answered by Tiffany 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You're 21, so you're an adult. ON the other hand, you're living at home, so your parents have the final word. At the age of 21, you could move out, but probably can't afford it. See if there's a rooming house downtown where you could live temporarily, then see how you get along on your own.
Good luck
2007-06-27 23:49:33 · answer #8 · answered by Patsy A 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Your parents should not be supporting you. You are 21. You can take the bus or do what you need to. You should be out on your own
2007-06-27 23:15:44 · answer #9 · answered by Bones 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You are an adult.
If your parents are that controlling you need to get a job and get out of the house. Sounds to me like they can't let their baby grow up.
2007-06-27 20:15:53 · answer #10 · answered by Baby #3 due 10/13/09 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋