My ex finacee and I recently broke up and he left a lot of things at my parents house and I have a lot of things at his parents house, what can I do to get my stuff back and give him his because I dont want his stuff! Ive tried calling but his parents just hang up on me. Also he was sexually abusing me and now hes mentally abuseing me. What can I do about this. Im also scared I could be pregnant!
2007-06-27 13:09:02 · 11 answers · asked by renee_0102 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Thanks for of the answers.....and for the person who told me to grow up your insensitive, you must have never been in love before or had to go through this. And I dont wish it upon you because I dont think you could handle it....I didnt ask for rude answers!
2007-06-27 14:51:16 · update #1
Sue him.
2007-06-27 13:12:00 · answer #1 · answered by Belen 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take him to small claims court about the stuff. At least you can get a judgement and then if he doesn't hand over the stuff you can get the authorities involved.
You can't do anything about the abuse other than what youv'e already done. Technically, you could try to press charges, but I don't think it works very well if he could claim it was consentual.
Once you get a judgement from the court and get your stuff...you can solve the mental abuse by never talking to him again.
Find out if you are pregnant...take the test. If you are then you need to start court procedings for paternaty....so you can get child support and custody arrangements.
Can you afford a lawyer? That might be worth the expense regarding all of this.
2007-06-27 20:17:09 · answer #2 · answered by ∞ sky3000 ∞ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Material things can be replaced, and to be honest it sounds like you need serious counseling. Why would you even want to contact him or his parents to get your stuff if you've been abused. You probably have battered women's syndrome and need to get to your local domestic violence services for referrals to a counselor. You can leave his things at his parents yard. It would be best if someone else took them there. As far as your stuff, he may be using it to control you - the best thing you can do is forget about it. Trust me I've been there before, and I am giving you advice that works. Get some help and forget about your belongings and move on with some professional help. Also go to planned parenthood - they have great staff that can listen, talk, and best of all monitor you to make sure you aren't pregnant, and if you are give you the best education possible about your options. Don't go back to him please and don't even try to contact him or his family.
2007-06-27 20:15:01 · answer #3 · answered by Sweetness 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why don't you try writing a letter to the parents telling them that you don't want to start any trouble, that you just want to return your ex-fiance's things to him in exchange for yours. About the possible pregnancy - get a pregnancy test done first then go from their. I don't know where you are at, but their are places that you can have the tests done with no charge and they are confidential. Where I'm at they are called birthright and planned parethood. Good luck!
2007-06-27 20:30:48 · answer #4 · answered by Kimberly 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You didn't go into detail. If it is expensive stuff, grab your receipts , call the cops and go get the stuff. If it is just little stuff forget about it, It is not worth the hassle. I wouldn't call it mental abuse, he is just messing with you. If you are pregnant file for child support. That will involve blood tests.
2007-06-27 20:17:33 · answer #5 · answered by Michael C 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you want your things back call the police and see if they will help you by escorting you to his house to retrieve your things.
If they refuse then you'll have to take them to court to get the stuff back, but in my opinion, unless it's something that you can't live without I'd just count my losses and be done with it.
Go drop his stuff off in front of his house, leave and never look back.
2007-06-27 20:12:45 · answer #6 · answered by deanna4273 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Drama queen. Forget the comeback pieces and get on with your life. No more relationships for you until you do some growing up. Sorry, you need a wake up call.
2007-06-27 20:19:50 · answer #7 · answered by ♠♥ Miss Zora ♦♣ 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Ever tell the authorities about the sexual abuse? The police can help you get your stuff back, also tell them about the abuse hes causing you.
2007-06-27 20:12:22 · answer #8 · answered by Jesus IS REAL 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
honestly sweety i would be seeking legal action for this one. there are laws now that stop this kind of behaviour ring a solicitor and ask what your grounds are on this situation and take from there. Cheers and goodluck Pete
2007-06-27 20:12:34 · answer #9 · answered by Lynda and Peter 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well maybe you will have to make a police report go the the police station and let know we broke up i would like my belongs and return his what can i do ?most likely they will assist you
2007-06-27 20:14:06 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋