I think its ok when he spanks me when we are just playing around but recently he's been spanking me with a belt when ive 'been bad'. I tried talking to him about it but he says i'll get over it. What should I do? Will I get over it? I really love him so breaking up isnt an option.
2007-06-27 12:56:19 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It may be that he has a naturally Dominant personality, or that he simply enjoys spanking as a kink. In either case, it sounds like something that he isn't likely to "stop" as it's something that's important to him. If you truly don't want to be handled that way, then you will likely need to break it off, even if you don't want to. If you love him, then you'd want him to find someone that he'll be happy with, and he won't be happy with someone that doesn't take an interest in something that is a strong part of his personality or sexual drives.
He should probably do an online search for groups with similar interests to find a young lady that needs his attention as much as he needs to give it.
2007-07-01 08:11:26 · answer #1 · answered by baka_otaku30 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Fun/erotic spanking is fine, but he should learn to respect your boundaries. I'd suggest a safeword, but it doesn't sound like he's the kind of guy who'd take much notice if you used it.
So if you really don't think you could break up with him, then probably all you can do is try and persuade him to ease you into it gradually. Ask him to go from hand-spanking to a leather paddle or a tawse, and slowly work you up towards the point where, through the release of endorphins, the belt will be more stimulating for you than painful. Good luck!
2007-06-28 04:19:31 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You need to tell him, in no uncertain terms that you don't like being spank with a belt. It's not something you need to get over he dose. Let him know that you don't like it at all, and if he doesn't stop........ and you keep letting him then you get what you deserve.
2007-06-27 20:09:34 · answer #3 · answered by carmel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like a control issue to me. Friendly cheek tapping during sex is a turn on for some, but this is crossing the line into some bizarre, masochistic thing. Tell him you will NOT get over it and that if he can't respect that you are not into it, then you will stop having sex with him.
2007-06-27 20:02:22 · answer #4 · answered by ♠♥ Miss Zora ♦♣ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should just tell him. if he respects you then he should have listen to you and stop spanking u with a belt. its ok if he does it once in a while while you are playing. but if its an ongoing thing, then you need to tell him to stop.
2007-06-27 20:00:19 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him that it hurts and that you are not into spanking as he is. Or hell, spank his butt back and see how he likes it! If he starts hitting you, get away from him before it is too late.
2007-06-27 20:00:12 · answer #6 · answered by Girlwonder 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him you'll get over it if you can spank him when 'he's been bad' too. Then do the same thing to him and see if he wants to get over it.
2007-06-28 10:28:22 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If breaking up isn't an option then you will eventually put up with anything. He obviously knows that you will never dump him...that's why he said "you'll get over it". And he will continue to do whatever he wants since you won't dump him.
What should you do? You should tell him to stop abusing you or you will dump him...and MEAN IT!
2007-06-27 20:00:05 · answer #8 · answered by planetnoelle 2 · 5⤊ 0⤋
Spank his butt back with a whippy cane and really bring out some nice bloody wheels on his butt and then ask him if he likes it (I'd ditch the loser anyway)
2007-06-29 16:51:09 · answer #9 · answered by Exterminator 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
breaking up should always be an option. If he's physically hurting you and you ask him to stop and he doesn't, then you should break up with him.
Never stay in a relationship that is abusive.
2007-06-27 20:00:39 · answer #10 · answered by deanna4273 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋