I sound ridiculous, probably because I am, but I absolutely adore this guy. I haven't had much experience in this department, being dating and flirting; I was always too focused on academics. Alright, here's the skinny. He always comes up and hugs me whenever he sees me. We talk a lot, and he's shared a lot of himself with me that I know he's never told anyone else. When he left for the summer, he told me I'd be the one person he'd miss most from this place, he even invited me to come to Cali with him, mildly jokingly, mostly seriously. While in California (we live in FL) he bought me a gift, which he knew I would love, and I did. He also tells me that I smell good. Haha. Often though, he sends mixed signals. Sure, you're saying, duh, girl, he likes you. I have my doubts...he talks about other girls to me a lot. Who he thinks he's going to date next (he never does) or what type of girl he'd like to date. Is he doing this to make me jealous or get a rise out of me? I am confused. Help?
2007-06-27 12:53:14 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He likes you, help him take the next step
2007-06-27 12:58:57 · answer #1 · answered by robert 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he's never taken you out on a date, I'd say forget about him. Plus he's playing some kind of game that you don't need. He sounds like a real Romeo who probably has a collection of girls in California. One thing you can do is be sure to go out with other guys when asked. Let him know he hasn't got you on a string. If he isn't going to make a move to let you know that he really cares deeply for you, move on.
2007-06-27 13:03:08 · answer #2 · answered by Suzie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know what this guy is thinking exactly because we're all different, but when I take the time to comment on a woman's scent she is usually pretty deeply ingrained in my psyche. Don't underestimate that...it has enormous impact that lasts for years. I can't even describe it properly, but a fragrant woman is a delightful mystery we feel compelled to examine more closely. I know it's not a matter of just dumping on perfume but a balanced layering and...okay, I don't know what I'm describing, but I know it when I smell it and it rules! For him to have mentioned it, you've got to have it going on, because it is rare. I doubt you have anything to feel jealous about.
2007-06-27 13:10:29 · answer #3 · answered by Captain S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
nicely possibly she thinks you're a impressive guy, and likes the certainty which you at the instant are not throughout her attempting to get a date together with her. attempt speaking to her a touch greater, she ought to such as you and is waiting so which you would be able to come back over and communicate over together with her. you will on no account understand in case you do not attempt, and whats the worst that ought to happen? She says get faraway from me lol. do not waste time attempting to determine her out, only flow up and communicate over together with her you will discover out that way. sturdy luck!
2016-10-03 06:03:19 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was confused too, when you told me about him talking about other girls to you. But here's what I think.
He's already a good friend to you, but he's testing the waters, so to speak, before he attempts to pursue a relationship with you. He's trying to gage your reaction by bringing up who he "wants to date". If you're encouraging him in this matter, then he would naturally think that you yourself aren't interested in him...romantically anyways.
I think you both need to stop playing games---if you adore him, tell him! What have you got to lose?
2007-06-27 13:06:22 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah.. he likes you. call him and talk to him about it. first though, ask him what kind of girl he likes, then start recommending girls and ask him if he would go out with them if you set them up (you know, just to see if he reacts) then if he says he wouldn't go out with them, then ask him why and if it was because he had a girl in mind, if he says yeah, then be like who? for the most part, he probably won't tell you and if he doesn't tell you then jackpot!! you're it!!! good luck with the conversation!!
2007-06-27 13:01:46 · answer #6 · answered by J.Ca 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well, first off im a dude,
ok so i hate people who hug everyone, all the time, i believe hugs are for mothers and lovers. only rarly, if ever, (never) do i hug people just becuase its tuesday. hugging everyone drains its potancy, same with the people who say "i love you" to eveyone. i think this guy is thinking of you as more of a guy friend, and therefor feels ok to talk to you about other girls he may like. and there for, as his guy freind, he shows affection buy hugging you, he has used hugging so much, its been, in his mind deluted to the same potancy as a hand shake or hello. he may like you, defenatly, but as his guy friend, it would be wierd for him to go out with you. therefore, you cant rely on body launguage alone, or jestures, you might just have to set him down, and talk. ask him "do you like me?".
OR
same mostly as above but, there may be another explination
he likes you enuff as a friend, but not enuff to love you, but he loves to be loved. i will explaine. , he may be trying to keeps a balance going between doing stuff with you to avoide being guilty of not being a good friend(when he hangs out with you), and showing to much affection that he thinks he may be getting you to like him to much(tells you you smell nice, gifts), so he trys to keep you away (and therefor commentment) by talking about other girls. so in essence ya, he might be trying to get a rise out of you, but in the non-selfish, (at least trying not to be) way, involve you alot, but not enuff you like him-like him, or he will pull away, in an atempt to have a friend/ non spoken, non comitmental girl friend.
and if you do talk to him, and he says he deosnt liek you, or he allso hugs other chicks all the time to, like he does you, you doont want that kinda guy anyway..... hes a fag
2007-06-27 13:32:58 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop guessing. Ask him. directly and be brave and ready for rejection, but at least you know where you are with him. Ask him point blank.. like.. "do you and I have a chance to have a romantic relationship?".. he may or may not be shocked, but i swear, he will admire you for your honesty and openess. tell him, if no.. you are still friends. (if that is so)..good luck
2007-06-27 13:00:43 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Probally. Your not showing enough interest so he is seeing if you like him at all by talking to other girls. He seems to want you, you just got to work out if you want him
2007-06-27 12:58:57 · answer #9 · answered by ChAtMaN 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i have one of those and he lives in cali and he give anything basically but emotionally isn't there...this is what i say tell him u like him or just leave it alone and continue to do what you are doing your shool work but leave him a hint that you like him..maybe he just wants to date.
2007-06-27 13:01:03 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋