like who you will be with?your partner?if that is so?why didn't i met the person i love?and even so if someone like me why i never heard from their mouth?is there anything wrong with me?if i love a person it must be from both side right i don't want to pretend to love someone i don't like..do you guys agree?i mean....do we just simply like someone in order to get married if it is too late to find someone?
2007-06-27 12:14:23 · 13 answers · asked by truth set free 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
how do you know when that is the right person for you?someone might think they are right for you but the problem is you don't think as such?
2007-06-27 12:15:46 · update #1
I don't agree that God has arranged a certain invariable path in our life!
The most important gift of God to us is that God has granted the authority to human being: The opportunity to choose between choices. As Adam & Eve had this ability and they chose to eat the forbidden apple.
What makes an individual mankind a good person is to choose the best way through her/his life. This is appreciated! Otherwise there shouldn't be any punishment for the one who is doing something bad as it has already been arranged!
About seeking for a partner who you would really love, I believe that you should never rush for this feeling to happen.
However, sometimes such a love as one might expect might never happen in her/his whole life but the worst is to pretend so!
There might be something like caring about somebody a lot or like someone a lot. Then if there would be a caring back that might grow to a kind of love afterward.
Also, in my opinion, we may substitute many other things instead of loving one.
Like a love to a specific art, a love to achieve a wish, a love to our job, a love to Nature, a love to travel exploring the world, a love to learn a dance, a love to learn and play an instrument, a love to help a poor kid to live in better situation and change her/his life, and so on.
In my opinion, however, loving a partner is among the most enjoyable feelings to experience but it's not the only love to experience.
2007-06-27 12:46:50 · answer #1 · answered by Arash S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think so.
I know a couple of guys that ended up marrying someone and they're regretting it. Also, there are such things called arranged marriage. Most of the time seen in the higher classes, especially in the royal family. I personally don't think some of them were not happy with these arrangements.
When you said your destiny, did you mean every human beings born on this planet? Is this destiny unavoidable? If this is so, then what about some baby that was just born and died of a disease an hour later? Does this rule only apply to some people at certain age? I thought god was supposed to treat all lives equally. Certainly if what you say is true, then everybody should be alive and stay alive at least until they meet their true love.
In my opinion, you have to make your own destiny. Don't be too dependent on this weird theory and just sit back and relax.
I know some people that died a virgin.
2007-06-27 12:35:49 · answer #2 · answered by Reaper 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
God does not arrange your life, You do. Before you come back to earth, you agree to be part of a community. You have about 1000 people or soul mates who many you spend life time after life time with. You have very special souls who are called Kindred Spirits who spend many lifetimes with over time. These are usually your Father, Mother, sister , brother.
One life time you may be the Father. One you may be a sister in the family. If you are a male one lifetime, you can be a female the next. You have one souls who is called a twin flame. This is your Spirit that has split in two. One Spirit of God that has split. This is many times in your life been a spouse. You have some lifetimes that you don't even meet your twin flame , you may pass by and think you know someone and don't remember where. Love is very complicated. Life is for lessons and many marriages and relationships are for lessons. The ones that last a lifetime are for lessons or rest. You may meet many people dating , but the one that we usually marry shows up unexpectedly. Everything works when it is meant to be. Contact me if you have more questions.
Rev. TomCat
2007-06-27 12:29:45 · answer #3 · answered by Rev. TomCat 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dont think god arranges it at all. some people don't find their soul mates until they are in their 60s.
i dont believe that there is one specific person for us out there. i think we can make relationships work with different people at different stages in our lives.
i wouldn't pretend to love someone either. that is just the path to stress and strife. i am 29 and i'm not married. i may never get married. i live with a man i have known for 11 years and we are happy this way. it may be interesting to you to know that it took me about 2 - 3 years to fall in love with him.
it sounds like you are feeling society's pressures when what you need to do is decide what makes you happy and do that.
2007-06-27 12:23:10 · answer #4 · answered by ♨UFO♨ 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If god arranged your destiny then why would he give you free will?
You can love who ever you want to love. And be with anyone that you (and the other person) want to be with. In order to make it work you need to try. Everything just doesn’t work it self out. No destiny. It’s all about what you want.
2007-06-27 12:24:39 · answer #5 · answered by Broken Angel 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get out there and meet as many people as you want until you feel comfortable with one person. If, after years, even that fails then keep looking. There is always someone.
Don't tie it up with religion though, it's utter nonsense and will make your chance of enjoying life without fear and guilt ,whilst having a good relationship, far less likely.
2007-06-27 12:19:50 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Be wary of cults. I read on the internet that the cult leader arranges marriages within the cult so as to establish status of the members. Cults tend to work on a dob-artist ethic.
In the Bible, marriage is between believers only. God does help in relationships that people decide on, because the fruits of his Holy Spirit are love, joy, peace, goodness, mildness, kindness, long-suffering, faith and self-control. (Galatians 5:22, 23)
2007-06-27 12:18:18 · answer #7 · answered by MiD 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best way to find love is to love yourself first.
A person who really likes who they are tends to be more confident--confidence radiates.
Not the narcissistic type of love, a true love for yourself. Who you are on the inside that you really like and you don't want anyone---anyone---to ever change.
This type of love is not about body image at all. It's all about you--your personality.
I don't think anything attracts another person more than a person who is sure of themselves and likes who they are.
2007-06-27 12:21:50 · answer #8 · answered by Me 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I believe there are several options for relationships in one's life. It is not that there is one and only.
Don't sell out short. Don't pretend to love someone you don't just to be in a relationship. Wait. Hold out. In time, you'll meet someone you'll love.
2007-06-27 12:19:19 · answer #9 · answered by Anna Lynn 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well that would suck. a pre arranged marriage, how archeich, controling and wow. There goes Free will out the window.
Isn't free will our "gift" from god.
yeah, only be with who you want. you have one life to live, live yours not your unwanted mates life.
if you want to "date" people then break up and proced. but be honest.
sucks that "god" wants a union for life though huh. D lima
2007-06-27 12:20:11 · answer #10 · answered by Mercury 2010 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋