All my coworkers received a wedding invite (ceremony only). One of them, who frequently backs out of many other social invitations I plan, told me (twice) she lost the invite i gave her, it's stuck somewhere in her paperwork, and wanted to know the date? Would you be annoyed?
2007-06-27 12:12:11 · 13 answers · asked by penelope 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
I would be annoyed if I were your co workers and you invited me to the ceremony only! Private reception for just a select few?? The point of the reception is to celebrate the wedding. People invited to the ceremony should be invited to the reception as well, unless you set an age limit and have it be an Adults Only reception.
As for the losing the invitation...If your friend/co worker has children, a busy life, or a job, it is perfectly reasonable to assume it is possible for her to lose the invite. The fact that she was responsible enough to let you know she LOST it, instead of just skipping out on RSVPing or never mentioning it...she is being much more responsible than many guests.
2007-06-27 12:33:30 · answer #1 · answered by Kat 5 · 1⤊ 2⤋
No...Why would you be annoyed? You know she is a disorganised person, so it is likely she did lose the invite. If she is only invited to the ceremony, then it isnt as if you need her RSVP for catering purposes. I would just give her the date and not worry about it. If she wants to be there she will, if she forgets about it.....her loss. She must want to come if she has asked you for the date again. Im sorry, I just cant understand how this would annoy anyone. A wedding is only as stressfull as you let it become. why sweat the small stuff that really doesnt matter anyway?
2007-06-27 19:37:02 · answer #2 · answered by bluegirl6 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Is this not someone you like very well? Maybe you shouldn't have invited her. I wouldn't get annoyed.. we're all human. I lose things also. At least she cared to ask you what the date was again. I know that because you are getting married soon you are stressed out, but don't sweat the small things.
2007-06-27 19:44:35 · answer #3 · answered by Holy Macaroni! 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, I probably would be annoyed, but this is really the least of your worries at this point, so I'd let it go.
When I was getting married, there were a few folks who didn't RSVP...One of these was a woman I had known my whole life, and who had been like an aunt to me.
At least this is only a co-worker, and not someone who's a major part of your life. Don't let it ruin the wonder and excitement of your upcoming event.
2007-06-27 19:39:43 · answer #4 · answered by abfabmom1 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seems like she is just trying to be a pain. Tell her the date but don't give her another invite. If you ask me, she is being passive-agressive and basically saying your invitation is so unimportant, she keeps losing them. Sounds like she has problems.
2007-06-27 20:24:26 · answer #5 · answered by Keep on Truckin' 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nope. I would tell her the date and time and say "I hope you can make it". What's the big deal? Your wedding is not necessisarily everyone elses top priority and a piece of paper, expensive as it may be, can be lost rather easily. I've done it....nobody got mad at me.
2007-06-27 20:45:09 · answer #6 · answered by Rachel-Pit Police-DSMG 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I would be very annoyed and I am getting married in 3 weeks and having the same kind of situation with my co-workers.
You know what you do?? If they don't have it in when they are supposed to , they are not coming. Simple as that....don't leave a seat for them.
2007-06-27 19:17:40 · answer #7 · answered by Tiffany 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Is it even worth spending the energy to get annoyed?
Tell her the date if she says she needs it, but don't count on her showing up. Then turn your attention to things you can actually control.
2007-06-27 19:44:23 · answer #8 · answered by gileswench 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Always think positive! Maybe she is telling the truth! If not, don't worry! There are a thousands other things to do! Things happen for a reason! Maybe she is not "meant" to come!
2007-06-27 19:28:28 · answer #9 · answered by Camy G 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Annoyed yes, surprised? no. She's already giving you the hint she has no plans to be there, and given her track record I wouldn't expect her. Don't worry about it, at least she isn't claiming you didn't invite her!
2007-06-27 19:17:09 · answer #10 · answered by Cory C 5 · 3⤊ 1⤋