I am going to be visiting him on my trip abroad. I'll be there for 10 days. I have something to gift him - it's expensive, and from my heart. However, am not sure if this should be given at the very beginning when I meet him, or towards the end, when we are parting. One of my concerns is, I don't want him to feel obligated to be "nicer" to me just becoz I gifted him that. Or is that a silly thought.
So how should I time this? Thoughts? Thank you guys.
2007-06-27 10:46:24 · 11 answers · asked by ? 6 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
No don't give expensive gifts...if and when you marry it's ok but not now. I regret spending money and buying things for people...when I lost my job I went through a hard time in my life. When I needed money it wasn't there for me, neither were many of my friends.
2007-06-27 10:56:20 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I believe the rule of thumb is $10.00 for every month you've been dating for the first year. I believe that an 'expensive' gift should be a gift to both of you. A nice dinner, a fabulous show, a memorable vacation. Gifts can be given to another lover after the break-up or can be re-sold. But if the expensive gift is a memory, then it fits the current purpose and the jilted lover will not feel used after the break-up nor will the receiver be able to regift it or sell what he/she received.
2007-06-27 11:03:20 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would give expensive gifts only if I know he WILL treat me nice. I don't part with my hard earned money that easily. Has he given you an expensive gift yet? If not, why are you giving him one and not being sure when to give it to him? It's wise to be sure he loves you as much or more than you love him before giving him something you value; or you might be setting a prescedence of giving more than you receive ie the prescedence of he taking more from you than giving to you. As for the question, give it to him soon after you arrive.
2007-06-27 20:26:51 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're not sure...just wait till the end, or till the moment strikes you. If it's an expensive gift, there might be some conflicted feelings if you spring it on him the first day, and it might ruin your trip if you have to deal with those feelings for the remainder of your stay.
good luck
2007-06-27 10:56:44 · answer #4 · answered by xooxcable 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it rather is costly. I tell my fiance that on birthdays & christmas yet she does not fairly flow out & locate some thing costly. the main i've got long previous replaced right into a working laptop or laptop for $328. A bag is a few thing you are able to desire to get for your self. Ask for some thing greater lifelike. Like a Louis Vuitton pockets? I scored one for my fiance final month foor $2 hundred. it rather is greater lifelike.
2016-09-28 13:30:48 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Giving expensive gifts to people you barely know isn't such a good idea.before giving that gift think at yourself and at your feelings!is it good....is it bad....does he disurves it ?and if you really want to give that present to him than do it in a special moment when you feel close to him or in a moment when you think his reaction can be the best for sure...depends on his mood ! good luck
2007-06-27 11:08:37 · answer #6 · answered by Eliza N 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you will make him feel uncomfortable either way - you are trying to express your deep feelings for him via a high-priced present...not usually a good idea to do that until you've been with a guy for quite a long time.
2007-06-27 16:22:02 · answer #7 · answered by Catchet22 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If it "really" expensive and you think he will feel obligated in someway, I would re-think giving it to him at all.
If you must, then wait until the last day.
2007-06-27 11:05:03 · answer #8 · answered by Louie 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Probably at the end of your visit. Although, frankly, I don't think you should give this gift.
2007-06-27 11:01:54 · answer #9 · answered by Anna Lynn 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you can not decide now, then you can give it to him at the end. In that case, you'll have ten days to think it over whether give it to him or not.
2007-06-28 18:32:30 · answer #10 · answered by hellenwashington 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋