I need Prayer and encouragment....?

Question

Hi, I hate to burden you guys, but I really need prayer, for everything. Please pray for me, let me tell you what happened tonight.
Tonight my dad got mad at me because I told him to go to bed. He fell asleep at the kitchen table, because of his emphasima, and it is not good for him to sleep like that I told him to go to bed. So I said "daddy go to bed" like 3 times. He jumped on me, told me to get the f... out of his face, house, sight. He told me that I was hateful and disrespectful and talked to him like a dog. He told me to go to bed, he counted to five I think, and when I did not move he jumped up, came over to me and began to push me, telling me to get the gd out of his house, face, life and so on. He said I was in his face being so hateful and rude talking to him like a dog and so on.

I stood there and said "Daddy I was not being rude I was concerned because you cant breath at night and it is not good for you to sleep in the chair". I stayed calm, rational, loving I never yelled back, never accused him, never cussed and never even raised my voice. I told him I loved him, and asked him why he was yelling at me. He said I was in his face talking to him like a dog, which I was half way across the room, so I could not have been in his face. He told me that I was talking so hateful to him, when I kept the same tone and pitch of voice. My mom and my fiance came down, she told him she had already come down 2 times to tell him to go to bed. He told her to shut up and that they would talk later. She even showed him how he was sleeping bobbing up and down in the chair. He yelled at her, saying more ugly things about me, and using God's name in vein. Chris told my dad he had no right to talk to me that way. My dad told him he had crossed the line.

When my mom tried to calm him down again, he yelled at her, told Chris to stay out of it, and he would be ok. He said I was such a peice of s... and he wanted me gone. I looked at him and said "I love you daddy" He said "no you dont". I said "yes I do love you daddy" He said "yeah right, your so sweet right now, but a minute ago you were in my face talking to me like I was a dog". I said "no daddy I was not rude, I was concerned about your health" He said "no you wer'nt" I said "yes, you are my father and I love you and want to keep you hear for a while" He said "yeah right". I said "you cant breath when you sleep like that" He said "I can't breath a lot of the time now go to bed" I said it again "Daddy I love you when will you believe me" He said "huh, when you do what I say". I said ok and went to bed. The only way I was able to stay calm, loving and rational, tonight was through God. He spoke through me, He made me strong, He protected me from my dad's anger. I truely believe this.

My family seriously needs some devoted prayer from you guys, the devil is tearing my family apart a little more every day. I tried to figure out what could I have done wrong, I had my hands on my hips, I could not find anywhere else to put them, that could have been seen as rude. I was already frustrated because my mom had already told him to go to bed, and he did not move, he was still bobbing away. That could have made me seem rude, yet I told him 2 or 3 times to get up, before he acknowledged me. I honestly tried to be as clam, loving, rational as I could. I prayed to God the minute I got in my room asking Him to take over. I could not handle this, none of us could, and my dad thought he could. I saw when he had everyone ganging up on him, he just yelled for us to shut up and stay out. He would not hear a word of criticism, nor a word of love. I dont think I criticised him at all, and I certainly did not tell him that he was talking to me like a dog, not the other way around.

I told God I know that He will pull me out of this before it is too late, and I said I am afraid it is getting to that point. I thanked God from the bottom of my heart for protecting me, guiding me, speaking through me, controling me. If GOd was abscent, I would have faught back, yelled and probably left home, because he would have hit me, he tried to push me once. My mom of course made excuses for him as always, she does’nt even think there is a problem that will never go away, because my dad is in his mind, so much better than all of us. Please help me, pray for me, my fiance, my mom and my dad and that God give us strength, love, patience. Pray that God will convict our own hearts, as to what we are doing wrong to make things worse. We need to fix ourselves, before we can help my dad fix himself. Pray that God's hand and ONLY GOD'S HAND is in this family and that He will bring peace once and for all! Please respond with anything that will help us, in any way.

My dad has always talked to me this hateful, and in my face. He has always called me disgusting names, told me I was a dumbass all my life. He has been emotionally and physically abusive my entire life. I am older now and I understand things much better and he cant stand that. He thinks my educationis turning me against him. But it is not, because of God and my education I have found a love, understanding and forgiveness for my dad that I have never had before. I am seriously trying to do what God tells me to do. Pray for me please, I need strength to stay calm and patient.

Answer 1

I will pray for you and your dad. He is going thru some serious health issues and he is not thinking clearly. If his outbursts continue, his doctor can prescribe a medication to calm down his unreasonable rages. You did the right thing by telling him you love him....just don't keep talking back and forth with him.

Answer 2

I will pray for you and your family. Has your dad acted like this before? Is he on new medications? Emphysema can make you very hypoxic (meaning you do not have enough oxygen in your blood). When you are hypoxic, you do not think clearly and people often say and do a lot of things they would not normally say or do. Also, some medications can have the same affect. There may also be a possibility that another medical condition/disease has taken over....Dementia, Alzheimer's, Diabetes, etc. and those can also cause an altered mental state.

There is a lot of reasons he could be acting this way if this is something new. If he has always been verbally/physically abusive, then you are doing all you can do....PRAY and maintain your calmness. I'm very proud of how calm and loving you were. If things get out of hand, then you need to get outside help. Don't let it continue. He's your dad but you need to be safe.

Blessings

Answer 3

You are in my prayers. I am sorry you are going through this. Just know that God has you in his hands. No matter what's going on, your God's child and not your dad's. I will pray that your dad's anger will turn into positive words and that all the things that were said will not effect you when you get older. I pray that you will get some peace in your time of trouble. I also pray that angels will protect and keep you.

Answer 4

Hi! Sometimes sick people get grumpy and I think your dad is an already grumpy guy, plus his illness. You've done a big effort to take care of him. Maby, he doesn't want to take care of himself and might be sufferring . Don't mind nasty and horrible words, I'm almost sure it's dispear talking.
I'll pray for you both, you surely are an example of a good daughter, and I admire you for that.

Answer 5

I don't know are you sure you didn't provoke him some?I mean you saying nothing but sweet things to him couldn't have tic him off that much. He has a grudge towards you and you only know why, something you have done that he hasn't forgiven you for. Be real with yourself that's the only way to make it right. Hes older and has a problem with sleeping that probably makes him grumpy and mean. He feels that he is an adult and will go to bed when he wants, and not when his daughter tells him. That why he said you spoke to him as if he was a dog, he felt you weren't respecting him. This will blow over just don't tell him what to do anymore and continue to love him. I will defiantly pray for you and your family.

Answer 6

I will definitely be praying for you and your situation. You handled it the best you could. You are showing a great amount of patience and restraint. As far as your mom goes, she most likely sees what's going on but figures it's better not to rock the boat. I will be praying that God puts a hedge of protection around you and your family and puts a healing hand on your father. God bless you.

Answer 7

Yes, I'll pray for you, teenhelp911, and It's my honor to help someone like you through God.

Answer 8

Hey be encouraged ,because we all know that all things work together for the good to them that love the Lord. I t does not seem like this is a good situtaion that your in at this point ,but rember the battle is not yours it's the Lords. I will pray for you and your family.

Answer 9

Your dad sounds like he may be having mini-strokes. My great grandpa did something similar and he was having those. It affected the personality part of his brain. Stay strong and keep praying. God will answer your prayers.

Answer 10

I will pray for you honey and I certainly understand your frustrastion. I encourage you now to not let this get to you, you were loving and be proud, I also think you were loving! It was also hard for my grandfather before he struggled with the gout, I could hear his pain and couldn't help him. He was also out of sorts and not himself. I forgive him as I understand how hard his illness affected him. He did not want to get old and ill. Please let go of your dads sleeping habits, after all he did explain to you that it was a demeaning experience for him. Please listen and just be there when he will let you and back off when he won't. Old age and dementia are a part of life, and knowing how older people operate is something alot of us have dealt with,so get some help from a visiting nurse maybe. Look into it he may qualify and these professionals can really help your dad and you. They are in the phone book.