She fights, bites, screams, throws herself on the floor, and hits. What could be causing her to act this way? I thought it was just at home but her teacher at daycare told me that it was at school too. She is mean to the other kids. I feel like I can't control her what can I do?
2007-06-27 10:26:27 · 7 answers · asked by bris 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
You should figure out why she acts this way. Is she mad at something? If so, teach her what is an appropriate reaction. If you only tell her what she shouldn't do and never tell her what she SHOULD do, you'll never get anywhere. She is only 3 and this is common behavior. Now is the time to start teaching her what is right to do. Time out does not work as it only teaches her what she did was wrong. Teach her what she should do and then praise her when she does it. After she gets this down (probably after she's 4 or so) and if she makes a bad decision, then there should be consequences. But they need to be immediately and directly related to what she did wrong and always enforce what she should have done. Don't give in. Good luck. It's a lot of hard work....that's why there are so many unruly kids everywhere.
2007-06-27 11:06:29 · answer #1 · answered by ? 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The answer? Calm consistency. You can NOT falter. And this also means rewarding good behavior with praise. You give a child, (especially a toddler) an inch? And they will walk all over you.....and it does get any easier the older they get. If a child is able to manipulate their parents, they will. All they know is what they want. It's your job to teach boundaries and tantrums are NOT acceptable. Consistency is the KEY. Sometimes it not fun, and it's definitely not easy but it will make you and your daughter stronger in the end. =)
2007-06-27 17:37:41 · answer #2 · answered by S 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Calmly take your daughter to her bedroom and say, "when you finish throwing your fit or being mean, then we can talk or you can play" Be consistent with this. If she is at daycare, she should be removed from others and left alone to scream or hit the walls (make sure nothing she can damage or hurt herself). No need to get angry or react...just matter of factly remove her..she'll soon be tired of the 'lack of attention' she's getting.
2007-06-27 17:33:17 · answer #3 · answered by alphatoodles 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Talk to her doctor. It may be just a normal, 3 year old thing, but it could indicate other issues. My step daughter was VERY difficult when she was 3- 5 years old because as it turned out she had a problem hearing. Simple fix, problem went away.
2007-06-27 17:35:17 · answer #4 · answered by davidmi711 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It might be a phase she is going throuh. Try putting her in time out.
2007-06-27 17:35:21 · answer #5 · answered by alexxxa $ o's 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like you might need supernanny!
2007-06-27 17:30:23 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
do NOT spank the chile
but also, do NOT spare the rod
2007-06-27 17:29:52 · answer #7 · answered by jsbjoe 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋