My fiance and I are short on money and want to get married, ,just the two of us. And my mother wants to be there and take us out for supper and we want it to be just about us. We are just getting married at our home, and we are not inviting anyone. We would like to have a reception or ceremony later on this year though.
2007-06-27 09:42:16 · 16 answers · asked by Adam G 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Well, you will need a witness, and a wedding isn't just about you and your partner. It's a bout joining families together. Ask her to be present, but tell her you want to pass on the dinner.
2007-06-27 09:49:32 · answer #1 · answered by kimandryan2008 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you could arrange to have it just the two of you (plus two witnesses), and then have supper with your mother the day after. I think it's not unreasonable to want to spend your wedding night alone with your new wife.
That said, would it really be such a huge imposition to have your mother there as one of the witnesses? As a parent, I know how sad I would be if I missed seeing my kids get married...It may not be a big, formal event, but it's important, nonetheless.
IMO, if you get married now, you shouldn't have another ceremony later this year...It's a bit of a rip-off to the guests, who may or may not know that you're already hitched. The reception, of course, is another matter altogether...you should definitely give your loved ones the opportunity to celebrate your happiness with you.
2007-06-27 16:57:11 · answer #2 · answered by abfabmom1 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't you think that is a little selfish of you both? Your mother bore you and brought you up, and don't you think she deserves to be present at your wedding ceremony? Have the reception and ceremony later on, but your mother and even his parents should be present. Then allow your mother to take you out for a dinner. As a mother, that is my advice. Don't hurt your mother. One day when you are a mother you will understand the love and sacrifice that it takes.
2007-06-28 15:08:15 · answer #3 · answered by cardgirl2 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to understand, a wedding is a really big part of life. So if I were your mother I'd be upset too. I think it is ridiculous how you are going to try to exclude your mother. I mean, I understand your short on money because my parents were also short on money but they invited the really close, close people to them and had a 200-300 dollar wedding instead! You should just have a party at home and have a wedding-like celebration for one of your anniversarys in the future when you have enough money
2007-06-27 19:54:32 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
YES. do not get married without the mother's seeing at least the wedding. I can understand you wanting it to be about just you two but you have to understand that a wedding ceremony is about the two of you and making sure its just you and no one else seems a bit selfish Not to mention you need at least two witnesses. They'll understand having the reception later but if you do this without telling them. I'm 99.9% sure they'd be hurt beyond words.
2007-06-27 16:50:23 · answer #5 · answered by Shannon h 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, I think that your mother is going to be upset and disappointed no matter how you tell her...its like one of the joys of motherhood to see her child get married. And you have to have witnesses, so why not invite just the parents for that reason? Plus, if you want her involved with the ceremony or reception later, you might not want to burn this bridge.
2007-06-27 16:45:55 · answer #6 · answered by its about time 5 · 5⤊ 0⤋
Are you sure??
A wedding is an event in which you and your fiance become one and also a combining of families.
It is when you express your love for one another in front of everyone and make a vow to be together forever.
Are you sure you don't want to share this joyous occasion with your family
Get married early in the day and share the rest of the day alone with your new wife.
2007-06-27 17:00:28 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let her be at the ceremony-tell her that you want to be alone afterwards and that she could take you out for supper another night if she would agree.Otherwise,let her take you out for supper the same day and worry about being alone when she leaves to avoid hurt feelings.You have the rest of your lives to be alone together!
2007-06-27 16:54:31 · answer #8 · answered by bratt 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you will just have to let her know. I think she will be mad but she will be more mad if you guys didn't tell her and told her after you guys got married. And just let her know that you guys just want it just to be the 2 of you and will have a reception to celebrate with everyone later. And see what she says.
2007-06-27 22:40:53 · answer #9 · answered by TJ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
how about you get married and then say- Hey mom we just go married.
Or you just tell her that you are not inviting anyone to the ceremony, you are just going to get married and be done with it. She can take you to dinner to celebrate after the honeymoon.
2007-06-27 17:51:19 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋