My friend just lost her baby - she was a few months pregnant - and the service is this evening. Are you supposed to give them a gift? or just a sympathy card? I just got married so I'm kinda broke, but I want her to know I care and I'm sorry for what she's going through.
2007-06-27 09:40:42 · 14 answers · asked by Kimmy 4 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
The standard answer is a sympathy card and flowers.
But since it's a friend of yours, you may know of the pain and agony her heart is going thru, especially if she was eager to have the child.
I think it is an excellent suggestion, as already mentioned, to write something personal. Maybe not a store-bought sympathy card, but make something special.
Try writing something on normal paper or off your computer, talking about your feelings for her, about her anguish, and share times you've had with her that are memorable. This shows that you are someone she can depend for friendship and support during hard times, not just good times.
Making it personal will go a much longer way than just a store-bought card. But even a card is a nice touch because you made the effort.
2007-06-27 09:53:15 · answer #1 · answered by tlworkroom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all,my deepest condolences to you and your friend's family. May the soul rest in peace. There are many books on closure which is so beautiful to heal the hurt soul of parents and family members.
Money, gifts, cards are not necessary to show your care, love and respect to your friend's situation. You can just be there, help her, and ask her if there is anything you could do to make things better for her. Definitely you can cook, some food, or offer her something to drink, take her out to walks in nature. Nature has so much to offer healing, it is unbelievable. You are such a caring soul, and I understand what you are going through, just be there for her, instead of feeling bad(about not getting anything Materialistic for your friend). You can read about the informations online here. There is a book about near death experience. http://bahai-library.com/books/light.death/
You can buy the Book "The Journey of the Soul" it is a beautiful book based on Bahai Faith explains about the soul and life after death of the soul.
Five people you meet in heaven is a beautiful book too, which can help you put a closure. http://www.amazon.com/Five-People-You-Meet-Heaven/dp/0751536822/ref=pd_bbs_2/002-1296012-6218413?ie=UTF8&s=books&qid=1182977725&sr=1-2
Hope this helps, Be Blessed. If you have any more questions, feel free to ask, will do the best to be of service to you and the family of the departed.
2007-06-27 10:02:25 · answer #2 · answered by DragonHeart 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A sympathy card. If this is a close friend, I would also suggest that you make a couple of homemade dinners that she can pop in the freezer to thaw out and use when she just can't seem to move.
2007-06-27 11:26:57 · answer #3 · answered by starrrrgazer 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you give them anything, either a sympathy card or the gift of your time and caring is enough.
2007-06-27 10:15:52 · answer #4 · answered by zippythejessi 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A nice card is all with a lovely message of how sorry you are. I have never ever heard of a service for that
2007-06-27 10:16:48 · answer #5 · answered by barthebear 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think the best thing you can do for her is just to be a good friend cos sympathy cards are kinda informal (something for acqaintances really not friends) just be there for her, she will need emotional support more than material items. good luck xx
2007-06-27 09:49:43 · answer #6 · answered by gemba253 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would not give a gift or anything that she can remember it by just looking at it. You can just be there for her. Clean her house, cook a meal and take to her family be creative. Take some movies over to her house and have a girls night in pamper her with choco and paint her toe nails. You'll get it.
2007-06-27 09:59:28 · answer #7 · answered by supergirlsls 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get her a sympathy card write something heartfelt and personal in it. maybe buy an arrangement (flower) for the service would be nice as well.
2007-06-27 09:44:23 · answer #8 · answered by HarmonyNY 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Not every ocassion requires a gift. ATtend the service and speak softly and kindly to her.
2007-06-27 20:37:54 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
a 'thinking of you' card with a nice message in, that would be enough. Also let her know she can talk to you at any time, that will mean more to her then any present
2007-06-27 09:49:27 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋