So what if you don't want gifts for your wedding?

Question

So what if you don't want gifts for you wedding, because you have already lived together? What if your about to buy a house and want to get Home Depot gift cards or how about money for the honeymoon??

Answer 1

have your parents and bridal party spread the word of what you want

i think you can register at home depot for gift cards

but you can not personally tell them what you want

Answer 2

You probably will still need to register for some stuff. Take the opportunity to get new bed sheets or towels. Or register for stuff you would like to have in the future, such as nice crystal or good china. My husband and I didn't really need anything either and would have preffered the money, but figured we should register for stuff that we will need eventually. So we got crystal and other stuff. Also we registered at REI for fun stuff like kayaks and camping gear, and people got them for us! It was awesome.

If you have a website, put on there that you would prefer Home Depot gift cards or that you are saving up for a house and would love everyone's help with that big purchase.

People will get you random stuff regardless of whether you register or not, so register for some stuff and pass the word around for the honey moon and the house! I believe there are also websites where you can actually register for a honeymoon. People can contribute towards it and help you pay for it. I don't know where to tell you to look but thats an idea. if you let people know what you want, most of them will give it to you. And then there are some that are stuck in their ways and will get you towels regardless of whether you registered for them or not becuase thats what they give everyone for their wedding.

Good luck!

Answer 3

You CANNOT ask for gift cards, or money for the honeymoon or a house. Those things are up to you as a couple!
If you don't want gifts, you can say so politely, but then there is a PERIOD there. You just can't be rude and ask for money or gift cards. Grow up!

Answer 4

Specifying that you want cash is rude, plus alot of people WANT to buy gifts. However, if you register at Bed Bath & Beyond, the gifts can be returned for cash! So you could have your family and friends spread the word that what would be best is Home Depot gift Cards or cash, but the people who want to buy you gifts still can, you can return them, send a thank you card, and no one will be the wiser. Also, if people get you items from BB&B that are NOT on your registry you can add them online and still return. And if people get you BB&B giftcards, even though you already have everything you need, you can always find more stuff for your home, especially since you are buying a new house!

Answer 5

Register at www.honeyfund.com
Tell your family that if anyone asks what you and your fiance wants for a wedding present, to go to this site and help with your honeymoon.

If you do get gifts (we didn´t want gifts because we moved overseas after we wed) just accept them graciously, and send a thank you card. Some people will give gifts even if you don´t need them-we ended up with about 10 picture frames and other things and had to pack them carefully in my suitcase.

Answer 6

Then on your wedding invitation, say "no gifts please" or say nothing at all. The purpose of your wedding is to invite people to a party NOT to beg for cash. If you really are tight on cash, then my advice to you would be to NOT blow your money on a wedding. Why would you consider throwing away all that cash on a one day party when you could be going to home depot or putting it down on a house? If you're in your 20's, the money you spend on a wedding will be one hell of a lot more than you will get. So, why are you doing that?

Answer 7

If you really don't want gifts, it's okay to say "No Gifts, Please" or "Your Presence Is All The Gift We Need" on the invitation.

However, to specify that you want cash or gift cards instead, is extremely poor taste, and is considered a no-no, as far as etiquette goes.

Most of the people who you're inviting to the wedding should know that you're trying to buy a house...If they want to give you something even after you've said that they shouldn't, it's very likely that they'll give you cash anyway.

If you need any more assurance that you shouldn't ask for cash, check out the posts on this website...many of them are from guests who are simply appalled at the behavior of the bride & groom...

Answer 8

Do not tell your guests what you want outright! That is so rude and tacky and pisses people like me off. You should go to home depot and register there if you can or put a little home depot card in the invitation, people will pick up on it!

Answer 9

Register at a travel agency - my friends did that at Liberty Travel two years ago or at Home Depot, and just put on the registry "gift cards".

People are going to give you what they're going to give you, as long as you make it known where you are (or aren't) registered, that's all you can do.

Answer 10

Its poor etiquette to ask for money. You can register on homedepot.com and put gift cards on the registry. You can also do a honeymoon registry where people pay for various things like a couple's massage, a bottle of champagne, a breakfast in bed, a jungle tour, etc. If you really want just cash, then tell your family and CLOSE friends (bridal party) to spread the word because to say it outright makes you tacky and rude in people's opinions.

Answer 11

I don't feel you have the right to tell people what to get for your wedding-it's bad manners and many people don't like to be told where to spend their money.You might put something in the invitation that you are buying a home or going somewhere special for your honeymoon but I would be a little offended if I was told what to buy.Let people figure out what they want to get you as to avoid hurt feelings.