2007-06-27 09:04:32 · 15 answers · asked by orangeblossomxpress 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Spankings don't have to be done on bare skin. However that is how we chose to do them. I think like the first answerer said, it all up to the parents. I know everyone defines a spanking differently. For my husband and I, that means our girls have crossed the line. Meaning they have either ignored all previous warnings, time outs, loss of privileges, or they have broken one of our core rules. We are not "one swat, or 2 swat" spanker's. We believe in the more traditional old fashioned way of spanking, this being pants down, over the lap. Why? because it prevents us from having to address the issue any further. We don't spank for the same things twice. We want spanking to be the VERY last straw. Yes this is major event, they need to know the importance and seriousness of what they have done, and that there are consequences for their actions.
I think the reason spanking works a bit better on the bare skin is not due to increased pain. I remember this from my childhood. I used to get spankings both with pants on, and bare bottom. In reality the ones with pants up hurt more, but the bare bottom ones were "scarier", they made a louder noise. This seems to have had more of an impact, since we now use the same method.
Basically I agree with you, spankings can be any way you, as a parent chose them to be. That could even be nonexistent which some parents chose. I think that's great! I don't think non spanking parents are bad parents at all, this is just the way we chose to raise our children, and I respect their choices.
2007-06-27 21:11:04 · answer #1 · answered by olschoolmom 7 · 5⤊ 0⤋
Oh please! ( to the comment above ). Some children need to be spanked, and half the teens in society today SHOULD have been spanked, if not spanked more as a child! Discipline is key with me, and if that means a spank on the bottom, then thats what it will be. But, to answer your question... depends on the situation... if you give a spanking on the rear, do it with undies on... if that didnt work... undies off, but definitely not hard... its the humiliation that will get them to behave.
2007-06-27 10:26:48 · answer #2 · answered by Mom of 1 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Growing up in 50's/60's in more rural area---it was just a given that guys got spanked/paddled on the bare butt and that it would certainly happen in high school yrs as it did with my brothers and me and my male classmates--a paddling was on the bare butt--in that era we never questioned a guy got paddled on his bare butt even in high school---I do not think it was meanness--I had wonderful parents as did most of my friends---It was not even questioned by parent or son-----It is good things changed but it was basically a good time and place to be young
2016-05-25 11:46:22 · answer #3 · answered by charles 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was spanked both ways, first over undies, than they came down
2007-06-27 15:19:16 · answer #4 · answered by tm41170 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I did get paddled growing up even in high school yrs---Getting it bare does hurt way more---You would think underwear would make little difference but getting it bare really hurts more----Maybe my bare butt has more nerve endings or ones closer to the surface----my butt sure hurt when I got it bare---- to this day I would admit (for the era) I deserved
my paddlings as my parents were fine parents--it was just a different era
2016-12-11 19:19:20 · answer #5 · answered by gregor 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OUCH! Haven't you ever gotten a big red mark from a slap on bare skin. Don't do that! If you have to give a spanking, give it with undies or pants on!!! You don't want a little one walking around with your handprint on their bottom.
2007-06-27 09:15:45 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous 3 · 3⤊ 1⤋
If you're going to spank, make it count, otherwise you're wasting your time.
Give your child a consistent message, don't confuse the child by not really meaning it.
If you do it right, you'll only have to do it a few times in a child's life. If you're still spanking after 9 years old, something's wrong.
2007-06-27 14:09:28 · answer #7 · answered by jonesk_92656 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
spankings don't have to be on bare skin. it's just the preferene of the parents
2007-06-27 09:09:00 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
well, some figure it is more embarrassing on the bare skin (butt); and some will assure you that though the boxers are light weight, still they do lessen the discomfort considerably!!
2007-06-27 15:34:11 · answer #9 · answered by Jim 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it doesnt need to but its much more efectiv that way it makes the point very fast clear and that good for the child and the parents.
2007-06-28 01:26:51 · answer #10 · answered by hage 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋