he is in the airforce and he graduates this friday do we have to apply in advance and the millitary give him a proxie to have the marriage certificate ? or will he get to do it this friday after we apply? i live in texas
2007-06-27 08:53:59 · 10 answers · asked by LoLa 2 in Politics & Government ➔ Military
The military doesn't care who gets married.
You don't have to get permission from anyone in the military to get married.
After you get married, he can take your marriage certificate to the base administrative offices and get it filed.
This will alow you to be issued a dependent ID card, and be enrolled in the Deers program ( health insurance ).
It will also allow him to start collecting a housing allowance.
Unless his Tech School is longer than 26 weeks, the military will not issue PCS orders to move dependents there.
You could move by yourself to where he is going to Tech School at your cost and get an apartment off base.
But even then, there are restrictions placed on students in Tech School, they are not allowed off the base for the first 4 weeks.
After Phase 1, students can move off base if they are married, with the permission of thier Commander.
But those students would have to be doing very well in training,
IE:
Good PT scores, high grades, etc.
Your best bet, if you know your gonna get married, is to get married while he is in Tech School.
That way, you will be on his PCS orders when he goes to his first duty station.
They will pay to move you from where you are living now and any furniture you have, to his new duty station.
It's really not worth it for you to move to where his tech School is, he won't be there very long.
2007-06-27 09:44:37 · answer #1 · answered by jeeper_peeper321 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
You can't go with him to Tech school. He is required to stay in the dorms during school. You can move there and live off-base but the military will not reimburse you or give you any money to live on beside his base pay which won't be much right now. Also, he wouldn't even be able to see you much because there are restrictions placed on them in Tech School. They can't even leave the base for the first 5-6 weeks. They have to reach certains points in thier training before they are given liberty to leave the base.
If you get married, you can live with him when he gets his first duty station. As soon as you are married and you have an ID(while he's at Tech school) you can go to your closest base with his orders and get on the housing list for your new base. There is anwhere from a 30 day to 24 month wait for housing depending on what base you get. If you choose to live off-base he will get BAH which will cover rent.
2007-06-27 09:04:14 · answer #2 · answered by mustangsally76 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Marriage is not, and should not be, merely an expedient.
Marriage is a dicey thing at best. But for young kids, who really have no income, nor career prospects, it's fraught with problems.
You are probably going to be separated for long periods of time in the near future... when he gets assigned. Perhaps you should use this opportunity to see how much you really love each other. Without him there, will you be able to stay faithful to him? Without you with him, will he be able to stay faithful to you? Will you both be able to support his choice of career in spite of the separation?
Have to be honest. Even in the best of circumstances, there is cheating on both sides. Oddly neither party considers it cheating on their part, only on the part of the other. The divorce rate among young enlisted personnel is high. Among young officers it's only a little less... and officers make more money. Speaking of money, finances are usually very tight for service personnel. Even with base housing, there are expenses that try a relationship. Then there are kids. That expense usually occurs when it's least expected and least affordable. Usually the wife, you, will also have to work.
It might work out. If it will work out now, it will do so after he's decided what he's going to do with his life.. if he's going to make the military a career, pursue college after a stint in the military, or use his military training for a career on the outside.
Bottom line.... at this point... marriage is very probably a bad idea. There may be others who advise you otherwise. But the decision has to be yours... and it will affect you, and any children you might have, for the rest of your life.
2007-06-27 09:17:26 · answer #3 · answered by gugliamo00 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Crazy! You both need to go to city hall and apply for a marriage certificate. You then need to wait 24 hours in TX. What proxy from the Air Force and for what? You are not allowed to go with him to school. Even if you had been married 12 years you would still not be allowed to go with him to school You will not be allowed to join him until he gets orders to his first command and you better hope they are orders to someplace in the United States because depending on if he gets orders overseas you may not get to go then either. Why get married in a rush. Why don't you both stop, breath and really think this one through before you do something you both may regret.
2007-06-27 09:01:10 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Lola, he'll need to file the marriage certificate and do a bunch of paperwork after you're married.
You won't be able to go with him to tech school. The good news is that you will be able to travel with him to his first duty station and they'll even pay for at least part of the move your combined household goods.
2007-06-27 09:00:16 · answer #5 · answered by John T 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you will not be allowed to live with him during schooling , so don't bother. whether or not you could get married will depend on several things.. will he even be allwoed toleave the base after graduation( quite frequently, they cannot). what are the state's laws regarding marriage where he is in basic training?
i nother words.. chances are, it won;t happen anyway. just wait until het gets to his permanent duty station.
2007-06-27 14:26:35 · answer #6 · answered by Mrsjvb 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i dont know how long you two have been together but be wise and make a good decision dont just get married because he is in the military and you want to live with him get married for the right reasons because you truly love eachother.
i am a texas resident my husband and i were together for a year before he joined the army we got married by proxy while he was in ait we planed to get married in the first place but wanted a more traditional weding but got stuck with a proxy weding. all you need to do is go to your local court house and ask them they will give you a worksheet that you need to send to your loved one he will fill out and he needs to mail a copy of his id cards both his tx licence and his military id card or you need his birth certificate. after that the licence cost 30 bucks then you need to find one of your good girl freinds to stand in and do the cermony in the courthouse before a judge the judge signs it and your legally married. when you take it to be processed by the clerk ask for 2 official copies of your licence and send them to him so he can get paper work rolling.
unless you have a power of atornery it really doenst make it anyfaster because he has to be present with you inorder to enroll you into the deers program which is your insurance and your id card. the military will not give you and id card unless he is with you or you can present a power of atornery to obtain your id card. before you can get anyting else done you must be enrolled in the deers program because it establishes you as a spouse in the military system with out it you cannot get command sponsored to live with him or anyting till you are processed to have an id card and be listed in the system.
it takes anywhere from 3 months to a year to file all the paper work into the military system for you to officially be able to live together depending on the post and how much he really wants to be with you.
he does not have to apply to get married to you however he does have to command sponsor you and he cant do that till you are married.
the military cannot tell a solider who they can marry and not marry
PS i know you miss him AIT is only 13 weeks to 20 weeks depending on his mos its ridicilous to try to go live with him if you want to be a soliders wife you have to tough it out and wait alot because there will be deployments and feild exercises you cant go everywhere with him. and if your freaking out now you need to really re think what you are doing. because this is the easy part right now i havent seen my husband in over a year.
2007-06-27 10:26:32 · answer #7 · answered by Honey Badger Doesnt give a Shat 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes on marriage( but I'd wait), no on relocate. Can't do that until he gets to untimate duty station.
2007-06-27 10:05:53 · answer #8 · answered by tyvek1313 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why not wait until he finishes his training. That way he would be able to concentrate more on being a student than on being a husband.
2007-06-27 09:34:47 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you can get married, but can,t go until he gets a duty station he belongs to uncle sam now and has to get pre permission for everything
2007-06-27 09:00:12 · answer #10 · answered by linda f 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋