2 days after i broke up with my boyfriend,i went to the doctor and he said i was pregnant.(took a bloodtest or something i forget) we even used a condom.its rare to get pregnant with a condom but should i get backtoghether?i dont think i can find a man before i have the baby.
2007-06-27 08:35:23 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
i peed in a cup and i broke up cause i found out he was steeling my money(my money that i got from work in 2 weeks 280 dollars)
2007-06-27 08:46:52 · update #1
i am against abortion but,i think hes loves me but i dont and someone brought this up how AM i going to get a boyfriend when im pregnant....
2007-06-27 08:50:20 · update #2
im 17 and scared of telling my parents i know they can help but how can i ask them! hes 18
2007-06-27 10:45:13 · update #3
I was in your situation. I found out i was pregnant after we broke up and there has been a lot of "complications" or ups and downs through out our relationship. some normal others not.my point is that it depends on the couple and what you two want for yourselves, each other, and your unborn child.
i am now engaged to my child's father after a lot of work but we decided long before he was born that we would always be friends and remain civil for our child.....but we BOTH wanted more, we wanted to be together and at first others stopped us but then we decided for ourselves....
my point is you need to consider why you broke up with him, if you love him, and then you need to tell him....then he will need to think about how he feels what does he want.....then you BOTH need to discuss how you want to go from there...
*****but dont decide you have to stay together because of the baby thats no life for any of you if none of you want it or are happy****if you both want it go for it be happy ---
i know what you are about to go through because the process i described is one that i went through in your exact situation...we were only broken up two weeks after i found out i was pregnant and one of those weeks we spent waiting to find out if i was...it was very difficult so if you need someone to talk to you can email me if you like:
leanne_flora@yahoo.com
good luck!!
EDIT:
wow!! well that doesnt sound like someone that i would want in my child's life ultimately it is up to you if you want to tell him....and yes of course you can find someone i know plenty of people who have had kids and found better guys while they were pregnant and even after they had the child so you will be able to find someone else if thats what you truly want ...remember you haveor are going to have a child and if you cant find a guy that loves you for you, can handle it, and treat you both right...then you dont need him and he's not the guy for you!!!but a good guy is out there
~~~best wishes!!
2007-06-27 08:54:54 · answer #1 · answered by leanne 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1. just because you are pregnant does not mean you need a boyfriend. you work, take care of yourself! (i hope no one takes offense to this but...NEVER EVER EVER DEPEND ON A MAN...especially if he isnt the father of your child). The father of your child now has the responsibility to help you raise this child.
2. If you broke up with him, do not go back with him...a child will not make him any better.
3. Condoms are not 100% affective. Ill tell ya something, im 25 years old and when i was a teenager, my mother use to fight with me and tell me "your living proof condoms dont always work" and sweetheart, i was on the patch and now Im 2.5 months pregnant so nothing is completely affective except to not have sex at all.
The question I have for you is how old are you? You seem too young...do you have family that could help you or would you consider adoption if you couldnt handle this on your own? Be prepared for him not to help you. Good luck sweetheart and although you will be scared know there are many support systems out there!
2007-06-27 16:04:07 · answer #2 · answered by americangal1981 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you broke up before finding out you were pregnant then there was obviously some good reasons as to why it ended. I would tell him your pregnant and if he says he wants to work things out with you, then you can try but dont feel like you have to be with him just because your pregnant with his child. You dont need to find a new man before the baby is born. And you WILL find someone right for you down the road. I met my husband when I had an 18 month old daughter, he's been a loving a wonderful father figure to her (her bio-dad wanted nothing to do with her) and we have 2 kids of our own. I had my first child at 19, and my bf left me after I was pregnant (and he knew) my point is, that you can go forword with your life, dont think that having a child is going to end it, and make it so you cant find someone new.
2007-06-27 21:11:11 · answer #3 · answered by Kotori 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there is a lot to consider, the first thing would be do you think you can raise a child with this man in your life. In today's world I am sorry but having a baby together is not a good reason to stay in an unwanted relationship. It will just make life harder on you through out the pregnancy, and later on, on the child. I have a friend, Him and his girlfriend broke up then she found out she was pregnant. She did not want to get back with him ( and I cant honestly blame her) but they did remain good friends and I can honestly say that they are better friends then lovers and they have a healthy child and healthy relationship. granted it is harder to be a single parent. But that is the risk we take when we engage in a intimate relationship. nothing is 100%. there are way to many babies out there that supports that notion.
2007-06-27 15:52:58 · answer #4 · answered by Carolyn B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is so sad. Your bf has a right to know. And what was the reason for the breakup? Is he really a loser? if so, you have to think about this baby. Do u want him or her raised by him? Will he be a good dad? If you get together, make sure it is because you love him not just for the baby. i wish you luck. Raising a child by yourself must be the hardest thing in the world to do. Especially without money.
2007-06-27 15:46:41 · answer #5 · answered by noitall 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What is this about finding a man before you have the baby - what are you going to do blame him - you broke up with your boyfriend for a reason and the reason is still there - and I got pregnant with my first child and we were using condoms - so it is not that rare is it.
2007-06-27 15:41:29 · answer #6 · answered by Redhead 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only way should get back together is you love each other. If he does stuff like stealing your money though I'd let him go. You can always get child support. Also you don't need a man to help you take care of your baby. I don't agree with abortions either. You don't have to kill a baby because you don't want it or you can't take care of it. You can always give it up for adoption.
2007-06-27 15:58:20 · answer #7 · answered by qsb_1118 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn't get back with him just because you're pregnant. You don't have to be with someone while pregnant it's not a requirement..it's hard but possible to go through pregnancy without a man around. You would be suprised though how many men will date a pregnant woman or a single woman with a baby.
2007-06-27 15:59:27 · answer #8 · answered by pookiesmom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The reasons you left are still the reasons even after you found out your pregnant. You should try to have a working relationship with him for the sake of the child but that does mean you have to be together
2007-06-27 15:38:27 · answer #9 · answered by Done 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to let the x know you are pregnant. He is legally responsible to help support the baby until he or she is 18. You may need to go to court after the baby is born to get child support.
I would definately not get back with him if you don't love him. You don't need a man, you need to find out who you are and focus on the child growing within you first.
2007-06-27 15:59:55 · answer #10 · answered by knittinmama 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋