ideas besides the unity candle and combing of sand?

Question

what are other ideas to show us becoming one, ive seeing the unity candle and the combing of sand but i want somthing unique and different any ideas?

Answer 1

I liked the idea of a unity candle but I didn't want to have something that everyone else had so this is what we did. We both went out and bought a small to medium sized vase (they can match if you want) then we went shopping together and picked out one that we both liked very much. ( these should be clear) Next we both pick out a color these need to be different, went to the craft store and bought some candle wax beads. They didn't have the gel colors that we wanted and I thought that the beads would be easier. For the day of the wedding both of the candle colors were in their respective vases. They sat beside the empty vase that had a wick centered in it. When it came to the lighting of the unity candle we did the pouring of the unity candle. We wanted to have something that showed how two different people could come together and make one very beautiful thing. We lit it for the first time on our 1 year anniversary and have been lighting it together for the last 3 years. Just make sure that you only put enough candle beads in the smaller vases to fill the large vase. I tested this with water before the wedding so I knew the cut off line.

Answer 2

This doesn't really show 2 are becoming 1, but I don't like the unity candle/sand etc. I was looking for something unique to do during our ceremony and I found the Bell of Truce.

It is an old Irish tradition, where a bell is blessed by the officiant, then he/she asks each of you to fing the bell while thinking about your wedding day and the happiness you feel. Once you have both rung the bell, the officiant explains that after the day is over, you will put the bell in a common and mutual area of the house. Whenever you fight, one of you will go and ring the bell. When you both hear the bell, you are supposed to think about your wedding day and the fight is over, no one wins and no one looses.

I loved this idea and thought you might be interested in it as well.

You can find more about it by just googling "Bell of Truce" or "Make-up Bell"

Answer 3

My fiance is hispanic and for my side of the family we are doing a unity candle and for his side of the family we are doing what is called a "Lazo" which is rope is spanish. Basically, it is a big beautiful rope that they make a figure eight out of and place around the bride and groom to "tie them together forever". That way my family gets to see xomething new and so does his family.

Answer 4

My fiance and I plan to have a parents rose ceremony. This doesn't just show the couple becoming one, it talks about the families becoming one. Here's the wording we plan to use.

Marriage is a coming together of two lives, and a celebration of the love of two people. But it is more. The love that you feel for one another is the flowering of a seed your mothers planted in your hearts many years ago. When you were first born, you were a bundle of diapers and tears, and your mothers lost sleep caring for you. Their love for you has brought them great happiness and great challenges, and their love for you did not diminish as they met these challenges. That is the great lesson you can bring into your marriage. As you embrace one another in your love, so too do you embrace the families which have been brought together on this happy occasion. As a token of your gratitude for your families, I would like to ask you to offer these symbols of eternal love, these roses, to your mothers. (Both bride and groom can hand the roses to each mother together, offering the mothers kisses if they wish.)

We actually plan to replace the word "mothers" with "parents" so that we can honor both our mothers and fathers.

Answer 5

I really like the 'Chord of Three' ceremony: it comes from words in the book of Eccelsiastes, and it discusses how two people can care for one another, protect one another, etc. and speaks about the idea of the two people united together, and both united with God, and so in that ceremony, you braid 3 chords together and then you can keep it in a shadowbox in your home. It can also mean the blending of two families and the creation of your own unique family.

Answer 6

This is a Persian tradition: There are two large sugar cones in the shape of a dome and they are wrapped in white lace and ribbons (they make them look very pretty, some are decorated with crystal stones). As you are getting married and saying your vows, usualy a lady who's been happily married for years (you have to choose her like you would your brides maids) will grind these sugar cubes. As the little crystals of sugar fall over your united hands she is transfering the sweetness of her marriage to yours and the two cubes are becoming powdered and one!

Answer 7

Maybe you could pour wine from two decanters into a single goblet, and both of you drink from the goblet. If you don't drink alcohol, you could do the same with grape juice.

Do be cautious and drink carefully...you don't want to walk around the reception with a wine mustache!

Answer 8

We had the rose ceremony that a previous post already mentioned...it was beautiful and many people are not aware of it...unlike some other ideas

Answer 9

Hey there,

we got silver goblets, engraved with our names, date and place of marriage, i do not know anyone els who has it
they turned out so beautiful

greets Anne

Answer 10

do a search for handfasting, it's an old celtic wedding ritual