Can someone please try to explain why my ex is doing this? I broke up with him 6 months ago, he changed...his best friend became single and he then changed, always out and hardly seeing me. I felt so unwanted and couldnt cope. He told me lies before about getting a house together etc. However, after xmas we met up now and again, he was so full on with me and got jealous when men looked at me and was all over me, but when i wasnt around, he didnt really contact me much. He cried several times in public when i mentioned us being ex's and he tried to commit suicide twice, or so he says. Didnt go to work etc. However, i had enough of not knowing where i stood, i changed my number, he didnt know. I got an e-mail couple of weeks ago saying 'Hi. How are you? What are you upto? How are your family?' I replied, being polite. He never replied. (CONTINUED BELOW...)
2007-06-27 08:15:44 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Then 2 weeks ago, i got an e-mail saying 'Hi i hope ur well. I know its nothing to do with me but why do u have pictures on the internet of you in the nude? Ur beautiful and sexy, but its not like u. Plus it puts the wrong msg to wierdos online. All my love *****.' (may i point out there rn't nude and they artistic)i logged on to MSN to find him online, he msged me asking Y i put the pictures on etc, said 'ive been waiting months to speak to you, even been to the house but **** it' i asked why he said ' you know me, i dont like confrontation' he said he had to go, gave me his number and said to call anytime etc as he wants to speak soon. He text me at the weekend 'Hi. How are you? Not long till your big day is it?x' i replied asking how he were and i cudnt wait till my b'day. He never replied. Today he was online and he msged me, a bit distant said he never got my text and asked if i was seeing anyone, and said 'love can go when u dont want it to!'. This has been going on 4 6 months!
2007-06-27 08:22:57 · update #1
He sounds like an insecure obsessed weirdo to be honest. Normal blokes don't generally act like him.
2007-06-27 08:33:36 · answer #1 · answered by Gilligan 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
sounds like he is trying to see if your stil there at the end of the phone or email
It is time for you to stand up for yourself ext time he makes contact either say "I am seeing someone else now and dont feel it's right keeping in touch with you, we did'nt exactly have a great relationship so I thik it is time i told you to move on as I have." OR dont ever answer him again he is a head wrecker dont give him any more reason to use you for what ever sad reason he has been cos it certainly has'nt been a relationship thats been any good for you. Stop the messing and give him up. If he really was a decent person worthy of your affection he would be treating you a heck of a lot better than he does and would be with you like a proper partner not this rubbish.
2007-06-27 16:15:58 · answer #2 · answered by That 70's Show Gal 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't ever mess around with someone that is trying to commit suicide. You need to leave it alone. He has serious psychological issues that you should not have to deal with. Anyone that wants to commit suicide is not a whole person. That is not something you're gonna wanna mess around with. That, I can gurantee you. Been there, done that, not fun.
I can also tell you that he is doing all of this for attention. Most people want to have their cake and eat it to when they act like this. My boyfriend's ex-girlfriend did all this crap and was horrible to my boyfriend when they were together. She would go out and not call him for ages and then want to get back together on a whim. It was nuts. She wanted to be able to go out and party and go to clubs, but wanted someone to sleep next to that she knew would always be there. And she was a ***** to boot. So when he broke up with her, she just couldn't understand it and everything and just caused a lot of mess. She lied about sending a cell phone nill to his house and instead sent him an 18 page letter about how she just couldn't live without him. Unfortunately, she's still breathing today.
Basically, people that are crazy like that, are people you dont' want to have in your life. Move on and find someone better!
2007-06-27 15:24:11 · answer #3 · answered by [♥]andrea[♥] 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
hiya, in my experience when a relationship ends in the way yours did (similar to mine) you are the one that is left behind feeling let down and confused. Your ex walks away to their new life with what seems not even a glance over their shoulder, and it hurts! I dont know what triggers the contact with them again, i feel when they see that you are gettin on ok they want to know just how ok you are, lets face it at times when your in a relationship you feel that you couldn't possibly live without them, when they suddenly look their you are living and doin well, if i were you i'd be polite but not tell them everything and certainly don't read to much into their sudden interest, probably their just in contact because they can, no other motives! good luck
2007-07-04 06:43:37 · answer #4 · answered by chunks1969 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your ex. sound like my partner's ex..trying anything and everything to get his attention too. This ex., I am talking about is now displaying her vacation photos on his page..wheather she is getting his attention or not the bottom line here.. is that he is enjoying me 24/7. Oh I get my shared of her pathetic emails and rants..and I am sure she gets her equal in return..It is childish, though but at the same token somewhat entertaining..Try to ignore it, absorbed yourself into your new surroundings..keep busy generate new friends here and there. I know it is now easy but rest assure girl it does get better..You need to put your best forward and move on..
2007-07-05 12:17:18 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
okay this guy is a creeper. he claims 2 commit suicide but is probably lying through his damn crooked teeth!
wow
hes so not inlove hes in denial and hes becoming a stalker.
omg tell him 2 leave you alone unless u want him.
but i hope not.
tell him 2 move on and buzz off.
<3
2007-07-05 14:00:08 · answer #6 · answered by ♥xxnickibaby♥ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my ex done a similar thing after we split, he used to txt me saying he cant live without me and stuff..its hard because you just want to move on!!
just tell him you will always be his friend and be there for him but you cant be with him..if thats how you feel anyway...
it sounds like he was very much in love with you and is finding it difficult getting over you so just reassure him..
dont feel guilty about him trying to commit suicide its not your fault..he might be doing it for attention from you
good luck xx
2007-07-04 09:37:11 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
he is either incredibly insecure or a total control freak!!
darling he is playing mind games with you and keeping you hanging on the end of a tiny piece of string
you changed your number for a very good reason, now block him on msn, delete him , delete his email and block him from emailing you and just tell him next time he tries to stay the hell away from you !!!!!!!!!
2007-06-27 15:47:53 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You called him EX, so why are you mad? Leave him out of the picture and go on with your life, regardless how he changes or what he does with his life. Take care of yours first.
Be strong and good luck.
2007-06-27 15:22:22 · answer #9 · answered by TheOne 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This quote helps me through tough times....thought it might be appropriate in your situation.....
"Never make someone a priority in your life when you are just an option in theirs".
Good luck.
2007-07-05 15:16:32 · answer #10 · answered by just helping out 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋