My sister bf and I are not getting along, it's so bad that even my sister has turned against me. I took up for my sister last week bc her her bf said she isn't worth a ****. The house was messy but she is pregnant. I saw the way he talked to her and I got upset so I cussed him out. The next day after that I texted him to tell him how much of a lowlife he is so he told me he'll make sure I never see his child and told me to **** off dyke.
My sister told me he was just joking and he's sorry for joking when he was talking down to her. I don't take jokes like that lightly...you just don't joke like that. Yesterday my sister called me stupid and petty for caring about her and she thinks I am taking this too far. I have bent over backwards for my sister. She said to me why do you even care you're never there for me. I reminded her about $400 I lend to her and never got back...I know she's broke so I let it go. Then I told her I always give her rides to work and I drive more than 30 min.
2007-06-27 07:56:45 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It really hurt my feelings that she said I never helped her. I know my parents have always given her a car when she didn't have one and she says they don't help her either. My mom is having a cookout on 4 of July but I don't wanna go bc I can't stand my sister and her bf. I just hate drama. How can I make my sister realize she did me really wrong? I also told my sister to never ask me for any more favors since she thinks I never help her anyways. I am so upset about this whole thing....I AM ALWAYS THERE FOR HER AND I AM THE ONLY ONE THAT RUNS TO HER RESCUE. I HAD ENOUGH OF HER STEPPING ALL OVER ME. How can she not see when I took up for her I was just looking out for her now I'm the one she dislikes and against. I didn't think her bf was joking bc he fueled it by saying I can talk to her anyway I want to. Does she not have self respect. Does anyone hear me we just don't joke that way.
2007-06-27 08:02:29 · update #1
BTW my sister lies a lot and she said he was just joking and he said sorry. I didn't like the way he kept fueling me during the argument. If he was really sorry he would have called me not just tell my sister that. I was pushed to the edge when he talked to her that way when she is pregnant with his baby. In the past he has always talked down to her. What should I do stay away from them for good or what should I do? I can't see that happen anymore it upsets me.
2007-06-27 08:05:53 · update #2
Should I or should I not go to my mother's cookout for July 4 bc there is too much tension btw us?
2007-06-29 08:46:06 · update #3
jj, for now I would just try to stay away from your sister and her boyfriend. I know you are in a heartbreaking situation, and because you love your sister you only want what is in her best interest. Unfortunately, your sister will have to learn the hard way, and see for herself what kind of insensitive, self-centered, amoral guy she is involved with. Your sisters situation is sad, bringing a baby into an unhealthy relationship. If you choose, you could just tell her that you love her, and leave it at that. I hope you do not stay away from family functions because of the unsettling circumstances regarding your sister. I hope in time, your sister will see that her boyfriend is not the decent person to be bringing up her baby. If the time comes, and the bf is gone, I know you will help your sister any way you can. You sound like a great sister to have, and hopefully one day soon your sister will see that too. I hope your sister will get out from under her boyfriends influence, it is not a good, or healthy situation.
2007-07-05 06:04:04 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Send your sister a nice thinking of you sister card. Write in it that you love her and you will always be there for her. Then just back away for now. Tell her you can't stand the way her boyfriend treats her and because it bothers you so much to see her treated poorly - that you are stepping back. Are they discussing marriage or just having children out of wedlock? When you sister asks for help next - tell her no - tell her that she does not appreciate all you do and you are too emotionally drained to keep doing it. Search out a new cause in your life - maybe volunteer work - as you seem a very nice person and someone who wants to help.
2007-07-05 14:24:46 · answer #2 · answered by geminijeanna 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would not do anything for them until they come out and apologize and it seems like they really mean it. They need you and you don't need them. Tell your sister "I love you, but I can't stay around you and I can't lend you stuff anymore" and walk away.
2007-07-05 13:05:51 · answer #3 · answered by Jewlz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would just leave them alone, your sister will see what kind of guy she have later on.
I think the boyfriend is turning your sister against you, your sis is probably scare of him. Your sister doesn't remember that blood is thicker then water.
2007-07-04 23:33:27 · answer #4 · answered by dbrh_soto 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tough situation. Does he hit her? If not then you don't have much choice, especially since your sister seems to want the same thing;.... for you to butt out.
2007-06-27 15:02:51 · answer #5 · answered by The Eight Ball 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just follow your heart
and you will do the right thing
2007-07-05 08:33:51 · answer #6 · answered by maya 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
leave them alone to their own misery
2007-07-04 20:30:44 · answer #7 · answered by cheri h 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋