Do you have any rules in your house for your kids? If you do, is it o.k. for your kids to ignore them?

Question

If they do ignore them would you want your kids to live there anyway? Even as adults--just live there and ignore you and your rules? If not then why do people have problems with God saying you can't stay with me and do the stuff you want to do? He sends them to a place where they can do what they want to do---Hell. Why do some people have a problem with that?

Answer 1

If someone cant respect me in MY house they can get out.. No matter who it is.. but I've raised my son to know better than to not listen to me..

Answer 2

No it is not ok for them to break rules.

Just like it is not ok for us to break God's rules. People seem to get caught up on how a loving God could have a place called Hell and seem to forget that God is also perfectly just. Whenever someone sins it is that person saying to the creator of the universe "I am more important than you are." When a person does that he becomes like God and so God sends them to a place where they can be that for eternity because that is the choice they made in life.

Some people are also trying to use logic against the creator of the concept of logic and that gets them nowhere. "I did something wrong and now I am punished for it? That's not fair!" You sound like Paris Hilton crying how the world is not fair. You are wrong it is just that in our own delusions of granduer and our so called rights we forgot what it is we are really doing and think that we could never get punished for this and because of who we are we can get out of any kind of trouble. Yes God is kind but he is also justice and those that did not ask for mercy will be denied it.

Answer 3

Uh… what?

It is NOT ok for your children to ignore the rules that are set. If they are disobedient, there should be serious consequences for their actions. At least that’s the way it worked when I was brought up.

Now, if you raise your children to be obedient, they will probably live a good life, because no matter where you go, there are rules… even in Christianity. God has set rules. If you disobey those rules, there are consequences. That simple!

Answer 4

I think people have a very wrong image of hell. Most people I talk to think hell will be a bunch of scary looking demons torchuring people. I believe that the truth is that hell will be human anarchy unleashed. Imagine Charles Manson being released from prison with a license to kill. Now instead of one Charles Manson it's every sciopath, psychopath in history with a licence to do whatever their sick twisted minds desire. And those people that think being a good person is enough to get you into heaven will be at their mercy and will be unable to die.

Answer 5

I expect my kids to understand and embrace general rules of social behavior. If they don't, they'll have to write a 100 page disseration on the subject with 20 reference sources and they won't get dessert, TV or aracade games until they turn it in.

If I did my job right, it shouldn't take them more than 3 hours to do that task.

Answer 6

Ignore rules? Your kidding right? Heck no they shouldn't ignore them...that's basically saying to me, "Mom, I ain't gonna do anything you say no matter what!" That's a call for a swift swipe of their playstation games, bikes, phone calls, outings, and anything else that I give them to make their world fun or better. Not just for a day either...I would make them earn everyone of their things back! Ignoring doesn't get my kids anywhere...but when they do come through...they get lots of hugs and kisses.

Answer 7

Lets take your analogy a few steps further..

I the parent write (or have written) a list of rules in a book.. I leave that book with a group of editors who translate that book into a different language then translate the translation into a different language a few times.. Each time the book is translated errors are made with one error compounded by another.. During some translations parts of the book are simply left out, during others parts are added..

The editors of the book eventually give the book to my children.. My children read the book... I don't talk to my children at all they are able to telephone me and leave a message but I never return any of the calls... I leave my children to parent themselves using only the edition of the book that filtered through the editors to my children.. I don't leave them to parent themselves (using the book) in the house but rather send them out to parent themselves (using the book) in a the yard.. We do not yet know if the child is worthy to come in the house..

I tell them in the book that eventually I will return Maybe in a week, maybe in a year, maybe in 5000 years, I leave no definitive return time (or maybe I did and the editors removed it) and when I return they will be judged on how well they followed the book and parented themselves.. The reward for following the book being they get to come into the house forever (I have told them in the book the house is a fabulous place or maybe the editors threw that bit in) , the punishment for not following the book being they get to go hell. (I wrote in the book it's a torture facility where they will feel pain forever, or maybe that was the editors again)

I watch my children on close circuit tv knowing they are working from a butchered and flawed edition of my book but not bothering to send an accurate edition.. I watch them hurt, kill, and do every imaginable thing to themselves and each other I don't step in to help them all they need to know is in the butchered book..


I will stop there I could go on but you get the point.. Is a parent that parents in this manner really a parent or should his/her parenting rights be revoked..

If you want to make an analogy between rules layed out in the bible or other religious text and rules of a parent then lay them out equally you can't compare apples and oranges..

I as a parent have rules in my home, when my children break those rules there are penalties.. I am in the home day in and day out interacting with my children teaching them editing my rules myself and correcting flawed editing as I go along.. See the difference I am interactive not watching through closed circuit t.v. doing nothing but waiting for a time to go in and judge and dole out punishent or rewards..

If the deity in the bible exists he/she/it is one sick bastard..

Answer 8

What the hell are you talking about and what does it have to do with religion?

Yeah I have rules and yeah there are consequences if they are broken. My rules exist to protect the safety of my child and teach her what she needs to function in the world as an adult. If she breaks all my rules all the time she will still be my child and I will still love her. She doesn't though as I treat her with respect.

Again-not sure where religion enters it.....

Answer 9

I don't have a problem with God rendering judicial punishment. I understand that as the creator, he has the right to set standards and expect his intelligent creation (human and angelic) to meet them. I quite understand God saying that we cannot do just anything we want - that there are consequences to behavior and those consequences can be bad.

But I do have difficulty with some who insist that God tortures disobedient ones. In the book that professed Christians cite, from the very beginning, God told the first man and woman what would happen to them if they disobeyed. He plainly laid out the consequences of disobedience and he identified it as death. Adam went back to where he was before he was created. Nowhere. Non-existence.

Further along, God continued to set this as punishment for disobedience. Death. The absence of life. Thus we read at Romans 6:23 in the NIV: For the wages of sin is death, but the gift of God is eternal life. Do we note the contrast drawn here? The contrast drawn is between life and death - not between life over here in the clouds and life over there in the fire. Sin pays death. God gives the gift of life. Clearly, if humans are to be tortured in a hellfire for all eternity, humans would have to be alive for all eternity. In order for humans to be alive for all eternity, God would have to give them the gift of eternal life. So that means in order to punish unrepentant disobedient ones, God first grants them the gift of eternal life so that he can turn around and torment them for all eternity.

Furthermore, what do we think of a parent who punishes a child by putting it in the oven or microwave for – oh say, about two hours. We would think that person a fiend! That type of personality fits that of the demons – not that of a loving and compassionate God. If now imperfect humans cannot conceive of a parent doing that, how can they conceive of the God of love torturing humans in an endless, agonizing hellfire for literally billions and billions of years? Are we humans more compassionate than the God of the heavens?

And what right-hearted person would want to worship a God who lies about the punishment? For on the one hand, the scriptures repeatedly say that the punishment for unrepentant disobedient ones is death – which is absence of life. So how is it that a God - whom the scriptures say cannot lie - tells us that death is punishment for sin and then turns around and tortures someone forever in a hellfire? Is he not a liar?

So this is what I have the problem with: the teaching that God torments people in a hellfire. Admittedly, some people believe that hell is just eternal separation from God. Aside from the fact that this is not what the scriptures teach, how is it that those who go to hell still get to have eternal life? God says eternal life is a gift! So on what basis can anyone say God gives this gift and applies it as a punishment?

Hannah J Paul

Answer 10

As a parent I have rules and boundaries in my home for my children and they are there for the purpose of each respecting each other and being able to live together. As a Christian these rules apply to me in living my life. In both cases if you break the rules there is a consequence.
Peace be with you.

Answer 11

I have very few rules, and most of them are open for debate. It is my philosophy that kids will better behave if they feel they have a voice, and if their own minds and opinions are valued. I am here to guide them in life, to help them make good choices for themselves, not to be their master.

I would never reject my children for disagreeing with me.

The result is that my children are very well behaved, but they are not robots. I cherish the fact that they have their own minds and do not cower in fear when faced with someone who claims to have authority over them.