my fiancees coo coo side of the family! My fiancee and i are christian and we avoid secular music, also we dont drink so at our wedding we wont have secular music nor alcaholic drinks. I feel like i dont want to invite them because they are going to be discriminating or causing drama and thats the least thing that i want on one the most important day of my life!
2007-06-27 07:31:14 · 22 answers · asked by Haddasah 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
okay... i understand about inlaws... but, let me tell you I think you should invite them.,.. you will never hear the end of it.. promise
2007-06-27 07:40:18 · answer #1 · answered by jesse'sluckymommy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ask your fiancee what he thinks. do u mean his parents, or other relatives of his as well? b/c your fiancee would probably want to invite his parents. even if u are talking about his other relatives besides his parents, you should probably still invite them. think how much drama it would cause if u dont invite them and they find out and are offended. at the wedding u can just smile at them and talk to them politely for as little time as possible and move on and enjoy ur special day.
however, u know what these people are like better than i do. if u really think that they are the kind of people who will be discriminating and causing drama in a way that u or other guests can't ignore it, then maybe u shouldn't invite them.
make sure you and ur fiancee agree on the decision of whether or not to invite his side of the family, though. b/c the last thing u probably want to do is get in a big fight with ur fiancee over this.
good luck, and have an amazing wedding!
2007-06-27 07:46:20 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let your husband decide this, he knows his family better than you do. When you are standing up in the spotlight in front of all that attend, you will only be given a couple of minutes to look into your future husband's eyes and with all the love and passion you have you will let him know that you are going to grow old with him. Concentrate on that and afterwards put on a God loving smile on and thank all that attend. This is your only responsibility as the bride, you cannot control the personality traits of others. I will tell you this though, for every comment that is made by a coo coo guest about the music or lack of drink there will be comment made by a non-coo coo guest about the food, service, heating and/or air, the seating arrangment, the table cloth, the dinnerware, the DJ, something. Remember what I said, you will only be given a couple of minutes to make that life long promise which should be the only thing you take with you from that most important day. And if you don't believe me, ask Jesus, he'll set you straight.
2007-06-27 09:15:06 · answer #3 · answered by Miss Candi 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you have a wedding reception, for your family and friends, you should think of their comforts. That means, some alcohol may be there (there are bar tenders) and the music that is usually offered for dancing, be it polka or country, or pop; or, alternatively classical music to listen to. Just as if you were vegetarian, and no one else is, you should have meat. The truth is, God speaks to all of us, through anything and everything. Pick an orchestra or a disc jockey with recorded music, from those whose usually perform at wedding receptions and those referred from friends whom you trust. It is okay to be selective, but, not including family for the reason stated would be very wrong. Be Christ-like, instead. He sat with sinners. Remember Cana, there was wine and music.
Let me give an example of what shouldn't happen at a reception: 1. Stealing the bride; 2. A fight between another reception in the same hall ... blood and broken glass; 3. Bride or Groom does not visit the guests at their tables; 4. Drunk at the wedding ceremony or reception by any member of the wedding party; 5. Any music played that is abusive to women; 6. The bridal couple that have consumated their union prior to the wedding. IOW, it is a lot of what your behavior is, rather than their behavior.
2007-06-27 07:41:41 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Invite them. Just spread the word around to the coo coos that there will be no alcohol or secular music at your wedding. Don't worry; with no booze and music, they won't enjoy themselves and will leave early.
2007-06-27 08:25:54 · answer #5 · answered by Sondra 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, you need to relax a little. If your in laws complain because there's no alcohol or secular music, that's their problem, not yours. If they cause drama over it, then they end up looking stupid.
Not inviting them will do much more damage than inviting them and having them griping about a boring wedding.
Your wedding is just one day. You don't want to tick your new inlaws off on day one of your new marriage, do you?
2007-06-27 07:38:21 · answer #6 · answered by *huge sigh* 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well my advice is that you you and your fiance, or just him if he feels more comfortable to do it alone...to talk to his family and let them know what the deal is, and they need to be on thier best behaviour, no drama no crazy mess. and let them know there will be no secular music and no alochol at all at this wedding, and want respect for that due to that it's the most important day of your life. and if they don't understand that, then between the two of you, gonna have to figure to invite them or not if they think it's really going to be a problem.
2007-06-27 08:05:21 · answer #7 · answered by Jamaican Princess 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do whatever u think you should do... its your wedding but remember they probably will be rather hurt if they are not invited and thats a choice you will have to live with if u wana invite them sit down with the whole coo coo side of his family and tell them listen u wont have any obscene music nor will there be alcohol tell them if they dont like it thats thier choice they are invited btu they have to live with your wishes its your big day and u have the right to do that!
good luck and best wishes i hope i was of some help to you:P
2007-06-27 07:37:15 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Honey listen, they are going to be part of your family to once you get married, and who knows you might be seeing more of them more often once you are married, and just think if you were in their shoes wouldn't it hurt your feelings if your weren't invited to your families' wedding? My recommendation would be to invite them, of course in the end it is your decision, but if you invite them it would make things better in the end between all of you guys. But make it clear to them that there will be NO ALCOHOL what so ever, and tell the DJ to only play the music you want. And tell these people that it is your day and make it clear to them. Good luck! and Congrats!!!
2007-06-27 07:43:21 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't get to decide whether or not your fiance's family is invited to his wedding. Only he can make that decision. Keep in mind that wedding is about the two families; the marriage is about the couple. The only way YOU can exclude his family is if you do the same with yours.
2007-06-27 07:37:39 · answer #10 · answered by maigen_obx 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I've been to MANY weddings with no alcohol and no dancing/music - I'm not religious at all and this doesn't bother me in the least! I doubt they will criticize your wedding day! But, if you feel they will, let your bf decide. It's his family and shunning them isn't the best way to start your marriage.
2007-06-27 08:25:22 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋