is that all about?
It was NOT the people of the church.
At the reception, I overheard people saying that it was the bride and groom's idea to have a "collection" during the ceremony just to make sure they got enough money in gifts and what not to cover the entire wedding.
Of course, people were so stunned, they just dug in their pockets and pulled out money.
Has anyone ever HEARD of this?
How rude is this?
2007-06-27 07:29:27 · 29 answers · asked by Reserved 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Sadly, I have heard of it...You'd be surprised how common this apparently is! Check the website below!
I'm so sorry you had to deal with this...Thank goodness I've been reading up. If it ever happens to me, I will not only not contribute, but I will be sorely tempted to either tell off the collectors, or simply get up and leave.
2007-06-27 07:34:44 · answer #1 · answered by abfabmom1 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
This sounds hilarious. I have never seen or heard of this before. It seems kinda ridiculious that someone or the people who are in the wedding would do such a thing.
If people thinks that taking a collection during a wedding ceremony, then they should be working for the church. Sorry to say this but honestly, collections are to help the needy. If a collection is to help the needy people of the wedding, then they should had thought twice before stepping on the alter. That is so degrading, and also it spoils the mood for everyone else.
But other then that if and when it happens at a wedding and the people are willingly to give the money, then these married couples would be walking to their banks laughing.
2007-06-28 06:39:22 · answer #2 · answered by JC...Living Passively 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have heard of Brides and Groom's opening their gift envelopes before they leave the reception to pay for the DJ . . and I have heard of couples asking for "cash" only as a wedding gift but this is WORSE.
And unfortunately, the guests contributed to their INAPPROPRIATE BEHAVIOR so they won, and I'm sure they really didn't care what their guests thought. And I can't believe the parents of the is Bride and Groom let this happen, unless they were just as "no class" as the Bride and Groom.
With "friends" like these who needs terrorists!
Answered by: A Certified wedding specialist / A Professional bridal consultant / A Wedding ceremony officiant
2007-06-27 16:10:28 · answer #3 · answered by Avis B 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I have heard of it.
It's actually not rude at all. A lot of cultures do that, well their's one in Armenian culture were they throw money all over the dance floor for the bride and groom. Yes, they do dance on it. It's actually like giving gifts and it really helps the bride and groom in the future with children and what not, it's not rude at all, and a lot of cultures do that. Just probably in different ways and people were just not ready for it.
Edit - Unless of course your saying that they just asked them to give them money for no reason whats so ever, then it's rude. Sorry, thought you meant something else.. though it could be a tradition, unless your with your own family then.. ask them.
2007-06-27 14:40:57 · answer #4 · answered by psycho 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Wow, did the money seriously go to the bride and groom? How rude and tacky is that! I've never heard of that in my life. But, did they tell you this themselves? I wouldn't believe it until I heard it from them. Maybe they were really going to donate it to the church. Either way, they should have been upfront with what they were asking for the money for. It sounds extremely rude to me...
2007-06-27 15:31:17 · answer #5 · answered by tink 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Professional Advice --- This is something that I have never heard of. To think that you would know someone well enough and come to their wedding and receive this. Guest would be hurt and thinking that their gift and them being here was not enough. As a guest they are invited to this wedding, they shouldn't have to pay for anything. This is the rudest, tackiest, and greedest thing I have ever heard of. If a client of mine ever suggested something like this i would tell them to leave it out or I quit. I refuse to do weddings for people of poor taste and value.
2007-06-27 15:03:47 · answer #6 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Can we say RUDE and INCOSIDERATE!?
I am planning a wedding, and yes while gifts and money are nice- You would think that the time together to celebrate is the best part.
I am getting married in November, and I totally going to ask those attending what they think of this little practice.
I am sure they would look at me while I was saying my vows, and throw things.
2007-06-27 14:34:30 · answer #7 · answered by *Jae J 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You certainty can’t argue with ‘Moon Lite Occasions’ answer. States is a professional wedding consultant and coordinator. Never seen such a thing.
However, I wonder if ‘Moon Lite Occasions’ is angry money is being made & not going in their pocket? These wedding planners get mad when they can't queeze every last dime out of young couples & may be mad they did not think of it.
2007-06-27 21:07:35 · answer #8 · answered by Billy Jack H 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have never heard of that happening anywhere. Talk about rude!! Maybe if you put money in the offering you should go take your gift back or keep it for yourself.
2007-06-28 12:57:53 · answer #9 · answered by chetter 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you sure it wasn't a collection for the church? Perhaps it wasn't for the bride and groom but they thought it would be nice to take a collection for the church...
If not, and it was in fact for the bride and groom it was very deceiving (I would have thought it was an offering to the church) and incredibly rude.
2007-06-27 14:36:57 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋