...I walked in on my son masterbating in th unlobcked bathroom. I just walked out and didnt say a word. Should i talk to himm or act as though nothing has happend ???
2007-06-27 07:21:56 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Oh man,...poor dude. I would be completely embarassed and shameful if my mother had done that to me. Not to make you feel bad, but once he hit the puberty, you should always knock on a door regardless if it is locked or not. Privacy and indepedence will be what he needs most during these years. I would not want my mom to talk to me about that. Just know that it is a part of growing into an adult and it should not be a big deal.
2007-06-27 07:32:48 · answer #1 · answered by Matt L 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Well, how old is he, first of all? If he's a teenager, probably best to leave that one alone. He abviously already knows how it works and he'll be really embarrassed if you bring it up. If he's younger, like 10 or so, it might not be a bad idea for you or his dad to have THE TALK with him. Let him know that it's totally natural, but that he should definitely lock the door for more privacy. Luck!
2007-06-27 14:25:53 · answer #2 · answered by fizzygurrl1980 7 · 5⤊ 0⤋
I'd act as though nothing happened; he's a normal guy, and guys masturbate. After all, presuming you don't think it's "bad" or something, what would you talk about? If you make a big deal out of a "nothing", he's going to think he did something wrong; if you simply accept it and go on with things, he'll realize that he's a normal guy with normal urges.
2007-06-27 15:56:30 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Trust me, he is more mortified than you are. If it were me I would simply leave him a note on his bed while he is out and just say something like, I am sorry if I made you uncomfortable the other day if you want to talk about it we can or you can decide how you would like to handle it. Since you are growing up and need more privacy I will be sure to knock next time and you can try to remember to lock doors behind you when you need extra privacy.
2007-06-27 14:29:07 · answer #4 · answered by medtranscript1 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Well every action you do as a parent is a teaching opportunity and right now, if you don't say anything, you're teaching him that when you feel uncomfortable with a topic, it's ok not to talk about it. That's not the lesson you want to teach him so I would TALK to him about it as embarrassing as it is. Explain to him that his body is changing and his sexual curiousity is growing and that it's perfectly natural to masturbate. But I would explain that masturbation is an intensely private thing and that you obviously don't want to see him in that situation! Tell him to lock the door next time and do it like most men - in the shower in the morning so there's no mess!!!!
2007-06-27 15:43:23 · answer #5 · answered by bestadvicechick 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Talk to him. Let him know that it's natural to feel that way and do not be embarrassed, but with others in the home he should be courteous and lock the doors. This will promote open communication between the two of you. Kids can understand better when someone can relate to them. It's better that you address this issues now.
2007-06-27 14:46:46 · answer #6 · answered by t24sl 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
You could let him know that it's normal to masturbate so he doesnt feel odd about it. and leave it at that I am sure he will lock the door from now on.and apologize for not knocking that will validate that you know he deserves a certain privacy. It will also aknowledge the normalcy of the act for him. you sound like a great parent to worry about this and kudos for not losing it.
2007-06-27 14:27:02 · answer #7 · answered by love the questions 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
well im not sure this is an option 4 you, it wouldnt be in my case. but is there a dad in the picture? i think your son would be more comfortable if this talk in particular was between him and dad. if thats not an option, yes you should talk to him, just because sex is right around the corner and he needs that education very badly in this world, but you did the right thing by not saying anything, cause then he may have thought he was doing somethin wrong. the sex talk is a must and its best to start it early!
2007-06-27 14:57:50 · answer #8 · answered by pinkscorpio1980 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
The poor boy would be mortified! Don't talk to him about it (what would you say anyway?) other than to give him a gentle reminder to lock the door when he is in the bathroom.
2007-06-27 14:28:30 · answer #9 · answered by KooriGirl 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
that would be tough to walk in on that
Let it go - we all do it :)
Though you don't want to hear that your kids are experimenting, let them have their privacy
Act as if though nothing happened and you didn't see anything, I'm sure he was extremely embarrassed, I wouldn't make it worse on him.
Now if you walked in on him smoking marijuana, that's a completely different ball game! haha good luck!
2007-06-27 14:26:24 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋