Help moving on? How to let go of anger?

Question

I broke up with my abusive ex a year ago yet it still hurts. I have completely cut him off but I am still angry at the way he treated me and sometimes, I feel proud to have walked away with my head high. But sometimes, I feel like a loser cause he abused me and I think that maybe he's become a good person for another girl. How do I just let go of my anger?

Answer 1

I too am upset at my ex for him mentally abusing me the whole time we were together... and for cheating on me. It's been 2 months since I broke up with him.

It IS something to be proud of to end it with him. You have every right to be angry as well. Do NOT, however, feel like a loser. HE is the loser here because he's the one who screwed things up with a great person.

I doubt he's all of a sudden become a good person for someone else. Old habits die hard. Guys will do or say ANYTHING to get the girl... and after a while of having her, his habits will come rushing in.

My ex is already with someone new.... someone who always told me she would NEVER be with him.... someone who always asked me how the hell I even put up with him. I know he will be comparing her to me and realize how good he had it.....

And if I saw his new girlfriend today, I would tell her GOOD LUCK.




I was very angry with my bf at the time for doing that to me. And I think the anger really helped me move on. It made me stronger. I learned A LOT through my relationship. I realized so many things I put up with that he did to me. I learned not to take CRAP from ANYBODY anymore and to stand up for myself. We all go through experiences FOR A REASON. It was just meant to happen.

Realize that God has a plan for you... and that He has so much in store for you. God has given me so much hope and strength, that I know He will bring me the right one in His time. He's blessed me with so many other things that I should be happy about. And I AM happy... I'm grateful.

Just be happy that you have it good... it could be worse.

I was watching the show Cheaters... a woman just got cheated on and she said, "You need to let go of the $1 bill in your hand so that God can give you the $100 bill you truly deserve."


If God brings you to it, He'll bring you through it.
And God does not take something away from you without giving you something better.



That should help ease your anger. =}

Answer 2

The person you are most angry with is yourself - for letting yourself get into such a predicament in the first place.

It's hard to let go of anger - but here's a story that may illustrate what anger does.

An old, angry and bitter woman was dying alone in a nursing home when someone whom she had held a grudge against visited her - again, on her deathbed. The old woman said "I have held a grudge against you for many, many years and here I lie dying - all alone. and you know, after all those years of hatred toward you - you never felt a thing."

That said, start with some good concealing - focusing on forgiveness. The first person you need to forgive is yourself for letting you down - and for getting you into a mess with this abusive man. The next people you need to forgive is your family and close friends for not stepping in and rescuing you from yourself. The last person you need to forgive is the abusive husband. That's because he is what he is. It's like getting bitten by a poisonous snake - you knew it was a snake and you pretty much knew he'd bite you when you picked him up in the first place.

But forgive yourself. That's not easy. It takes some counseling - well worth it though - you'll live a happier life for it.

And as for Ex being "good" for someone else? So, since when is an abusive, controlling man good for any woman?Leopards don't change their spots, dear.

Answer 3

well i am glad that u have left him cuz no woman should be beat by a man no matter what she did but for ur feelings u should try to find something that helps take ur mind away from thinkin about him try like a hobby or activity that keeps u busy