Im pregnant. Should I push a relationship with the father or give it up due to his childish ways????

Answer 1

I am having the same problem. Please let me know if you get any good answers.

Answer 2

As hard as it may be, forget that you are pregnant for a moment.

Now, do you love the father?

If you THINK you love the father or KNOW you love the father, then you are not inlove with him.
However, if you feel deep inside yourself, running through you're veins and blossoming at the very base of you're being. Then you are.

Now, if you truly love the father, do not push a relationship, because other wise both of you will be unhappily bonded into an unwanted relationship, which will result, more than likely, in cheating. Which, causes much upset in a relationship or marriage.

A child should be brought up, ideally in a two parent family, however, if both parents do not wish to truly be together because of how they feel towards one another, then I personally urge to not bring up the child in a relationship.

You're child will grow up witnessing a relationship between its parents that is not true, and that would be, quite possibly the worst thing you could ever do.
It may be hard, but staying together "For the sake of the children" is not always the right thing to do, you're child can develop social and emotional problems due to this.

Hope this helps.

X_x_X Luv Ya's X_x_X

P.S I am sure that you will do what is right for yourself, the father and you're child.

Answer 3

Don't "push a relationship" just because you are going to be mummy and daddy. If possible the child should have a relationship with his/her father, so you must remain civil with each other. You do not say how far gone you are or how old,only time will tell if you should be together. Some boys grow up quickly when they become dads some men never grow up and are never ready to be responsible Fathers . Don't shut any doors yet .But if you are only together for the child's sake its not right or fair on any of you. Living with one parent who loves you and wants you is better than two parents who are just together because they have a child together.

Answer 4

Don't push the relationship. If you do, in the end both you and the baby will lose out.

If he's not ready, he's not ready. You can't force someone to grow up and take on the responsibility of having a chlid.

You need to prepare yourself for the strong possibility that you may be raising this child by yourself. It's not easy, however, if you build a support network around you (family and friends) then it is easier. Get counselling to talk to someone about the emotions you have toward him and things not working out. Anger and hurt are going to take up energy that your baby will need from you.

My best words of advice, don't bad mouth the baby's father around anyone (including the baby when it gets older). Doing so will only make you more upset and disappointed and make you look bad.

Answer 5

First, I must tell you that I am a man. My wife, who was a very Superior Woman, passed away awhile back.
Apparently, the father is not too childish, he knew how to get you pregnant. Being a father and taught values by a Woman who was Superior in every way, do not marry the guy, just to make it right, so to say. If he is not mature enough to offer to marry you and/or support you and the child, then dump him or you will have a life of misery.

Answer 6

You don't give enough information to really answer this. How is he childish? How old is he? How old are you? What does he do for a living? What are the odds of his changing or maturing? Do you love him?

That last one is the second most important question. The MOST important question is this: what kind of father will he be? Answer those two questions, and you have your answer. That said, if the answer leads you to dump the loser, make sure you sue for child support. Relationship or not, he has an obligation to take care of his child... unless it isn't his!

Answer 7

I am not sure, but I am faced with a similar dilemma. I am 24 weeks. This man is always working and has yet to help with the baby room. He is busy providing support for two other kids. I feel i could do better to find someone else to father my child, but I am not sure that I should leave him. He says that he will be there but he acts real childish and doesnt help me. He doesnt support me emotionally, physically, or even satisfy me sexually. I dont know what I see in him. I used to love him because he took me in when I was in a wheelchair. But, lately he is too tired to do anything, I need more than he can give me. I know the feelings your faced with. Its a hard route to go alone and I am not sure i am ready for that either.

Answer 8

The best advice that I can give is seek counseling so you can work through the entire relationship and decide if he is going to nurture the baby and be a positive influence. If not go your separate ways.

Be sure you have other people in your life to give your child the love they need. E.g your parents.

Please make sure he financially supports the baby. Children are expensive.

Answer 9

Honey, that is a personal decision. Don't take someone's opinion who has never met either you or your baby's father.
Sit down with the people you trust the most (Best friends, parents, aunt, uncle, ect.) and discuss what needs to happen (and what's best for you and the baby).
if the baby's father and you are both willing to work on things then make a decsion and stick to it. Don't be swayed by guilt..good luck!

Answer 10

I think the best thing to do is sit down and talk about it like responsible adults, you don't want to be stuck in a lifeless relationship for the sack of a baby, but you do however need to get on and both be there for the baby!
Its not a game!This is real life!

Answer 11

If he isn't going to be a good Daddy to your child and treat you right, give it up. Trust your gut instinct. Has given any sign he is willing grow up at all, and stop acting childish? Good Luck Blessings