i caught my bf rcving txt messages from a woman whom he admitted he had sex with.. he told me its just nothing deep but just sex.. should i give him another chance? he seems so sincere.. what should i do?
2007-06-27 06:48:42 · 30 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Sweetie dear, lemme tell you something-do you love him?If you really really love him and know you will end up miserable without him,dont dump him-Ive seen countless women in this same situation dump the man and end up with another who deos the SAME thing,you can expect that if you dump him you may end up with someone who can hide it better,but its highly doubtful you will find a faithful man-they are just rare,and cheating with men is very oppurtunistic, if they get they oppurtunity, they do it,even more frustrating,they usually try to create oppurtunities,it doesnt mean the man dont love the woman-its just testosterome!If you run from one man to the next you will end up frustrated no one is perfect-and you will also end up feeling bad about the number of partners youve had!your best chance at a good man is a GOD FEARING man,at least he will try to control himself-you could break up with him for like a month,drop him COLD and tell him you dont accept this for your life, if he is really miserable and keeps beggin you and swearing he will change-maybe he will ( doubtful ) anyways-dear,keep asking him if he used a condom,if he cheats and isnt even considerate enuf to use protection,DROP HIM FAST, you dont want to end up with Herpes or AIDS God forbid-Ive seen good girls end up with diseases from cheating guys-very SAD
2007-06-27 07:05:53 · answer #1 · answered by multicurious 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cheaters cheat and he's a cheater.
Does he think it's okay because it was 'just' sex? Does he really understand the kind of betrayal that is? Ask him.
You can give him another chance but you're playing a bad hand - know that. And remember - someone with nothing to hide, hides nothing. If he wants to stay with you, he should become an open book, and willingly account for his time and tell you everything he's done until such time he can be trusted again.
I don't think it will work, honestly, but you can give it a try.
Also - make sure you both get tested for STDs - even if he says they used protection. If he wont do at least that then what the hell doe he care about you?
2007-06-27 13:54:24 · answer #2 · answered by Karla 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately, in relationships the past is usually the best indicator of the future. Sincerity can be faked. You have to ask yourself: why did he do this? Do you really believe he will never do it again? If you honestly believe that it was a one-time thing, and you think you can get over it, and the guy is otherwise a good guy, then it might be worth giving him a second chance. To be honest, though, if I were in your place I would never let anyone disrespect me like that. I'd dump his sorry butt. I'll bet you can do better. Unfortunately, in the end only you can make this decision. Good luck!
2007-06-27 13:53:49 · answer #3 · answered by Mr. Taco 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The mere fact he says it is "just sex" guarantees he will do it again. He doesn't think it is a big deal to have a one night stand and then continue to text after the fact?
It's only forgiveable if you want to continue having him cheat on you. If you don't want a cheating bf in your future, dump him.
2007-06-27 13:57:22 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you forgive and forget this time, don't you think he will assume you will do the same the next time he does it, and the next, and the next? Sincerity is usually an act. If you were married, there is more to lose by not forgiving. But this is just dating. He will do it again.
2007-06-27 13:53:19 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hell no! dont go for that s*#t! If he betrayed your trust one time, then he will do it again. Take it from someone with experience in this department. A few years back my bf cheated on me and i actually took him back. I tried to forgive but in the back of my mind i never really ever trusted him again. And secondly, you would think he would of changed his ways, he didnt, he stayed a dog! Let him go, you will thank yourself later!
2007-06-27 13:59:54 · answer #6 · answered by The Queen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Once a cheater, always a cheater. (He not only cheated but apparently lied to you in order to do so, right?) The next time he'll say it was just sex again. You need to decide if you believe him and continue to trust him. Good luck and God Bless.
2007-06-27 13:52:03 · answer #7 · answered by tersey562 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You didn't say whether or not he apologized. "It's just sex" is a horrible excuse; why can't he get that with you? If you're having sex together, you should get tested for STDs. If you're waiting to have sex because of your personal beliefs, he obviously doesn't respect you. Either way, I think it's time for him to hit the road.
2007-06-27 13:53:49 · answer #8 · answered by xK 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Put you red high heels on and kick him to the curb! You dont know if this is the first time or if he is just saying that because he got caught.
2007-06-27 14:45:57 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dump the slime ball immediately. He didn't even have the guts to admit it until you caught him. Dump him immediately. Tell him he's a coward and he doesn't deserve a healthy relationship with a decent woman.
2007-06-27 13:53:51 · answer #10 · answered by supergirl 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋