What to say? Shes 9 months pregnant and one really want her there...She has already been told tha she is not invited - Nicely of course...Told her that she needs to stay home with her little one and pregnant belly....
2007-06-27 06:41:18 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
A few reasons she is unwanted...She doesnt know when to not talk, and not talk about. There are family and close friends that come first to this annual 4th of July party. To a few of the guest that are invited she has made rude remarks about thier kids, implying someones kids were bi-racial (the kids are not, and do not look it, just cuz the kids mom previously dated a black guy) (She has blurted out people private business to unnessary people...someone is loosing a great deal of hair due to stress....she mentioned to a group that it was due to drugs....mentioned to someones parent that they do drugs....These people are in their 20/30's so yes their parents are present at this party too)
2007-06-27 06:57:50 · update #1
She knows of the party simple cuz her boyfriend works with the hosts boyfriend. This girls boyfriend is well alware she is not invited and so she is. The comment made to her to stay home was made from someone not the host. Theres more that just a few people that know about this party.
2007-06-27 07:55:37 · update #2
Is there a reason she is so unwanted??? Some people cannot take a hint. If I was you unless she was being disruptive I would treat her as any other quess. After the event I would call her up and tell that she was not invited and the event was an invitation only event.
2007-06-27 06:47:42 · answer #1 · answered by mead1973 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It seems to me that she must be unclear that she is not invited. You said something to the effect of her needing to stay home with her little one and pregnant belly. She might simply think, "no, I really don't, and I wouldn't miss your party for the world!"
I doubt that someone who KNOWS they are not invited would come to the party. I would think if she really understood that she was unwanted and not invited, she would be somewhat hurt by that fact.
But - it's your party. If you do not want her to come to the party then if you know she plans to attend, you need to tell her: "Jane, just so we're clear, you are not invited to the party." Otherwise, you want it both ways - you want to be able to not completely uninvite her, but you want to just have her go away. That way, if she ever said anything about it, you'd be able to say, "well, you could have come...."
That's your hypocrisy there. If you don't like her so much that you can't stand her being around, then buck up, grow a backbone, and give her the courtesy of knowing where you stand. Rather than have everyone talking about her behind her back, that would be the moral thing to do.
It would be very mean of you, but there are a couple people in this world who I would certainly say that to because I REALLY don't like them. Not many, but a couple. Anyone I didn't want to come to the party simply would not hear about it from me.
That's another thing here - if you didn't want her to come, then how did she hear about it? If not from you, then she must have asked ou about it, being concerned she was not invited or told by you about it. My guess is she asked you, and you didn't say she wasn't invited, you merely said you thought she needed to stay home with the kids and belly. She, I'm sure, took that to mean that you you were saying, "oh, I thought you wouldn't go cuz you're pregnant..." and then she figured since she didn't mind going, she would go. It's your fault for not being clear.
2007-06-27 14:37:13 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Did she show up by herself or with an invited guest? I agree with the previous poster.... is she was not being disruptive then I would treat her as any other guest but next time you have a party I would tell her more bluntly that it is an invitation only event and she is not welcomed so you will not tolerate it if she shows up un invited again. It sounds somewhat immature the way you put it "told her she needs to stay at home with her little one and pregnant belly" You're not her mother and who are you to tell her what she needs to do?
Ok well if she is causing that much trouble then the boyfriend shouldn't be invited either so she won't have a reason to come at all. Make her boyfriend responsible for her actions since this is the link she has to this party and group of people that do not like her. Tell him he needs to be sure she does not come because she upsets people. If he can't handle it then he should not be invited anymore as well.
2007-06-27 13:51:23 · answer #3 · answered by Me 6 · 2⤊ 2⤋
If you find out ahead of the party that she's coming, figure out a way to nicely tell her that it's by invitation only, but be careful. She may want to know why she's invited. You could say something about there being a limited number of people you can accomidate or something. But if worst comes to worst and she shows up, by all means let her in and just keep an eye on her. Unless she becomes disruptive or unruly, she may as well stay if she's already there. I'm curious though, why is everyone so hell-bent against her coming?
2007-06-27 13:50:56 · answer #4 · answered by OhKatie! 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
She must be related or someones friend to be so close to the situation. If she shows up, have the person closest to her go with the owner of the home and tell her to leave. It many feel rude but honestly shes counting on the fact that no one will have the audacity to tell a feeble pregnant woman to get out. No reason should be necessary since its not her place but if asked I'd simply say "We'd rather not have this discussion now, I have my hands full with other guests and we'll speak with you about it later", and walk her to the car.
2007-06-27 14:06:06 · answer #5 · answered by mrsNO 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Either
A) Be honest and tell her you can't stand her so don't come to the party or
B) Be gracious-- what is she really after? Is she lonely? Do people slight her all the time so she feels the need to slight them?
2007-06-27 14:03:43 · answer #6 · answered by confusius 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Act like you're really concerned about her baby's health, maybe even make up something like "too much (whatever your doing at the party) can be bad for your baby's health, you could get a miscarriage or something" and then tell her to go home.
2007-06-27 13:49:38 · answer #7 · answered by Oscular 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
tell her it will be unsafe to have children there and in her condition of being pregnant the alcohol, the campfire, the noise, the sleeping on the GROUND is NOT good for a pregnant woman and she needs to take care of herself, her kid, and unborn child.
2007-06-27 13:52:42 · answer #8 · answered by ? 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
well if she shows up, i wouldnt start a commotion. just dont be as courteous to her as to your other guests
2007-06-27 14:06:06 · answer #9 · answered by urbanchickcalifornia 1 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Hmmmm .... maybe tell her the party is cancelled.
2007-06-27 13:49:07 · answer #10 · answered by mrs.darkbladez 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋