why i havent' heard back from my boyfriend in basic training?

Question

my boyfriend left for bootcamp over a month ago. within the first week i got a letter, and the second week i got his address, and the third week, i got two letters. the first one, he hadn't received my letter back yet, and then he wrote again and said he was so happy to hear from me and he wanted to be more serious about our relationship. i wrote him a really long letter back with even his favorite show, and i haven't heard back from 2 weeks ago. i know he's written home a few times since. is there some reason why even if he's busy, he couldn't write a quick note and say he won't be able to write much, or in his parents letter home to tell them to tell me he can't write much to me? i understand he's busy, but it doesnt' make sense that he was writing so much and telling to please write him, and then he just stopped?

Answer 1

I don't want to sound cold, but here it goes. Like most of us single guys that went in and had girlfriends we drifted apart from being apart. We found that the women in the barracks down the way were will to take our mind off of home. And to be honest, your boyfriend does have the time to write, no matter what the others are saying, you still have some free time, before bunking down, during bivouac, fleet-week or what have you, no matter what, there is time. If he want to give you the time.

Answer 2

He may have written and the letters get delayed getting to you depending on when he mailed them.

He may not be writing you because the free time he does get he also need to get him uniforms ready and study so he may be choosing to work on his stuff instead of writing you.

He may be wanting to break up now that he has learned that he will not be seeing you again for a long time because he will be living in a different state from you for at least 4 years. If he is smart he doesn't want to get married at 18 just because he left a girl friend back home. He may be trying to put the required distance between you two so it will hurt less when he does break up with you. This does happen all the time, so don't be shocked if it does. It is actually a pretty mature thing to do so you both don't try to deal with a long distance relationship that will just waste both his time and yours when you can both find a person that lives nearby each of you.

The reason for what is going on could be any of these or all of these. You may never know or you will get your answer soon. Don't go crazy and send him a crazy girl letter while he is in boot camp. Give him the space he needs to learn his job.

Answer 3

My boyfriend is also in boot camp right now, he's in San Diego. I know how you feel and what you're going through, it drives you crazy not knowing. It took weeks for me to receive the first letter, and I was going insane because his parents had already gotten a few letters and I still hadn't gotten any. My advice to you is even if you're not getting any letters back from him, write him a letter everyday. The letters he gets mean to a lot to him, it lets him know that people back home love, miss, and support him. It brightens the recruit's day to receive mail, especially if it's from someone they really care about.
There could be endless reasons why you haven't gotten any more letters from him. It could be because the mail is backed up, or that in this part of training the mail is gonna take longer to get to you. It could be that they are in a part of their training where they really don't get enough time for letter writing. Maybe he wants to write you a long letter back that has a lot of meaning in it and he only has limited time to add to it each day. Maybe because you haven't written him very much, he feels that you don't care. You said in one of your other questions that his mom doesn't really like you, so possibly he did add something for you in the letter to his parents and she didn't tell you. I would contact his parents and ask them. Or maybe as much as you don't want to believe it and I don't even want to add this as a possibility, but maybe he's grown apart from you and doesn't know how to tell you or doesn't want to tell you in a letter that he wants to break up. Like I said before, keep writing him. It could be a perfectly innocent reason why you haven't gotten any letters. Have faith in your boyfriend and give him the benefit of the doubt. I hope everything works out for you.
If you need to talk to someone e-mail me.

Answer 4

he gets a coupel of hours ion Sundays to himself. that's IT.. and in that time he has to get ready for the followng week's training as well as catch up on sleep and write to friends and family. it's very possible that the first 2 weeks he was there, he was waiting to start basic training, and therefore had more free time.

learn to accept that fact that you will NOT be hearing from him whenever you want, and that he has other obligations now.
additionally, the privilege of free time can and WILL be taken away from him for any reason. If somebody in his recruit battalion screws up, everybody gets punished.

get used to the fact that he will not be able to write or contact you all the time, and that he may choose to contact his family instead. frankly, until you are married, you don't have any right to expect anything else.

Be thankful for what you have gotten already, and realize that his priorites are, by necessity, elsewhere right now, and that he has NO ocntrol over them.

Answer 5

Right now he is much too busy going through his training to have the time to write to everybody. At this time he has a strict schedule that he has to adhere too. In between when he has to get up and when lights out; there really is not much time for him to spend on getting around to replying back to everyone who has written to him. Just give it sometime and he will probably write back to you. I know it maybe hard for you not hearing from him right away; it was the same when my daughters went through their training as well for me. At the end of their training they were able to have the time to contact me; which your boyfriend will too once he is done with his.

Answer 6

I really don't know why he wouldn't write but my husband is currently in bootcamp and he makes a point to write everyday, sometimes i get 2-3 letters at a time b/c they sometimes hold their mail. Maybe you should write him again and see if he writes back.

Answer 7

Maybe since you wrote him a long letter his just reflecting on it. Maybe you said something that got him thinking. If he is writting home maybe it's just to let them know that he is doing well and he knew that they would pass on the information to you. It's good that your understading that he is busy but you cant always wait for him to write back try sending him another letter just to let him know how things are going letting him know you miss him and stuff. Besides that just sit tight and be confident that he is doing well and is safe.

Answer 8

If he's at the end of Basic Training, he is at the busiest part.
Maybe he wants to reflect on your "long" letter and give you an equal response. He wrote short letters home to let them know he's OK and wants to give your letter the proper attention it needs.
Write him another (short) letter saying hi. See if he responds. Then let it go from there.

Answer 9

If he's in marine corps boot camp over at MCRD San Diego, he's going through Second Phase right now where they take all the recruits up to Camp Pendleton for field week. Mail gets ALL jumbled and backed up during that month.

Answer 10

Been there, done that.
Don't worry. He's just WAY too busy to stop and write a letter. No, really, they work them that much. From 4am to 10pm (sometimes later) they are on the move.