1. Would you forgive your mate "no matter what"?
2. Would you forgive your best friend "no matter what"?
3. Would you forgive me "no matter what"?
2007-06-27 04:58:38 · 36 answers · asked by Uncle Wayne 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
(to me, to forgive is to give the person a fresh start, (sometimes after that person has been quarantined)
2007-06-27 05:05:20 · update #1
1. In time.
2. In a little longer time.
3. Immediately!
2007-06-27 05:04:06 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
Forgiving the one who caused us harm may seem like the last thing we would want to do. After all, by not forgiving, we can hold onto the belief that we have some power over the one who has hurt us and that we can therefore prevent the harm from ever happening again. Or we may be so invested in playing the role of victim that to forgive would mean giving up a larger part of how we define ourselves. We may feel that evil should never be forgiven.
An important point to keep in mind, however, is that when we forgive, we are doing it for ourselves, not for the other person. Forgiving is one way of letting go of old baggage so that we can move on with our lives.
Forgiveness cancels a debt someone owes us and restores relationship. It is the only solution in a world ridden with sin and evil to help us start over with people and with God.
We learn about real forgiveness at the foot of the cross where Jesus Christ shed His blood to pay for the sins of the whole world. That is God's kind of forgiveness- - free, sacrificial, no cost on our part.
2007-06-27 05:26:02 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
"no matter what" isn't part of my belief system.........in my religion, you are required to ask forgiveness first of all. Then you must offer some sort of restitution.
1. If my mate were to cheat on me or beat me, part of the restitution would be an end to the relationship. This has happened to me a couple of times. Once that is out of the way, I have forgiven them. Smaller offenses are easily forgiven.
2. I have always forgiven my friends. Some of them have done horrific things which have forced us to not associate, but I have forgiven them. I just no longer trust them.
3. I don't know you, so there would be no way to forgive you since you have never had access to my life.
For offenses which the offender doesn't ask forgiveness, after a certain amount of time it is required to forgive.........FOR YOUR OWN SANITY. Hanging onto a grudge is just creating mental torture for yourself. This doesn't mean you need to allow the offense a second time.
2007-06-27 05:07:46 · answer #3 · answered by ioannacardish 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I sure would NO MATTER WHAT
And I already have had to. Jesus forgives us so we HAVE to forgive others
To forgive is to let them have a fresh start...it doesn't ok what they have done, but it means that they have a fresh start and you must let it go. Forgiving someone alot of times is a relief for you because it lifts this huge load off your shoulders! Forgiving isn't okaying....its giving another chance and giving a clean slate...you can't hold whatever it is against that person ever again and you must not talk about it anymore. Everyone deserves to be forgiven no matter what
2007-06-27 05:00:55 · answer #4 · answered by Love not hate 5 · 3⤊ 1⤋
I am a widow, but we were all fessed up and in a state of forgiveness when he passed. Forgiveness is not an option, but a command by my belief system. It is not always easy, but if I have to start a prayer with "Lord, help me to become willing and able," I will. I sometimes have a harder time with forgiveness of those who have hurt my loved ones than if they have hurt me, but I will make it a priority to stay free of grudges or resentments. That is like drinking poison and expecting it to hurt the offending party. I don't like being sick! Uncle Wayne, do you have a confession to make? I am sure you will receive forgiveness from many of us. Just fess up, it is good for your soul!
2007-06-27 07:12:37 · answer #5 · answered by One Wing Eagle Woman 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I always forgive and have forgiven everyone who wrongs me, even when the wrong has been great. Honestly, I would forgive my husband no matter what but if he cheated on me I wouldn't live with him anymore. Just because I forgive him doesn't mean I would have to still be a wife to him.
2007-06-27 05:12:36 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sadly, at this point in my life I'd answer no to all three. I would like to have the will to forgive "no matter what" within me, but I can think of certain circumstances where it would be very difficult and may take me years to TRULY forgive. There is a difference between speaking the words I forgive you and actually feeling forgiveness. I hope I would be able to eventually, but I can't honestly say that I would (for something big like murder, rape, abuse,etc.)
2007-06-27 05:03:47 · answer #7 · answered by blue_girl 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Yes, I believe I could, I have already been faced with some situations that others would look down on me for being able to forgive, but its what my father in Heaven asks of me. Sure there is anger at first but forgiveness is right behind it.
2007-06-27 05:18:35 · answer #8 · answered by galion2_2000 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
1. would I forgive a spouse, depends on the crime, holding grudges against a spouse for something they did does not strengthen a relationship. I would and have forgave mine for things but that does not mean I trust him. Trust and forgiveness need to be earned I think.
2. Best Friend, I don't know , I guess if the relationship is good then yea I would ifs she a good friend she probably didn't mean to hurt me. If its not. I don't know.
3. You, Well I don't know you, I don't think you did anything to me and if you did it would be an accident I am sure so Yes I guess.
2007-06-27 05:15:09 · answer #9 · answered by outahere122963 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That is a very difficult question to honestly answer. If you had a spouse that cheats all the time, it would be hard to forgive him after the first time. Although it is his will to cheat and I'm sure God wouldn't you to not forgive and would not want you to be taken advantage all the time. You can forgive him and still leave him.
Now if your best friend cheated with your spouse you can forgive her and still not be friends. If you cheated with my spouse I can still forgive you and not be your friend.....so the answer is I guess I could forgive no matter what, but still be smart.....There's your answer.
2007-06-27 05:04:19 · answer #10 · answered by Fartbuster 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋