how do i deal with this? i am quite bold when i am at home and speak confidently with my family. however i just can't talk easily with others. i can't give speeches or talk in front of the public, no matter how well prepared i am. i forget my points and stammer. i really want to improve but don't know how. please help? i won't be able to pass any job interview in this state.
2007-06-27 04:51:14 · 10 answers · asked by hmmm 4 in Health ➔ Mental Health
The only way to do it is to practice and fail until you hit a point where you don't fail as much. You'll slowly gain confidence. There are public speech groups you can join to get you more comfortable at speaking in public.
2007-06-27 05:00:23 · answer #1 · answered by whobeme021 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have been where you are. Remember the phrase - "Practice makes perfect?" If you're still in college, or have a chance through a local library or organization or community college, sign up for a public speaking course, join a group in the above mentioned instituions where you can attend classes on self-esteem and public speaking. That helped me so much that now I am a trainer/public speaker by profession. I also spoke aloud in front of the mirror everyday to practice making direct eye contact and repeating introductory sentences. Also, in an interview, think of the person or people doing groceries, having kids/parents and problems just like you - demystify them and you'll meet them on a confident 'I'm just like you' footing.
2007-06-27 12:06:15 · answer #2 · answered by Maya's Angel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just try and remember why you are in front of the interviewer/crowd. Take a deep breath and remember that the interviewer is just as uncomfortable as you. Holding an interview is weird, having to come up with the right questions, trying to figure out what is a good answer and so on. Just remember that if you made it to the interview portion of the hiring process, your resume was probably good and now they are just trying to get a feel for you and your personality. Personality is what will sell you at an interview. There isn't anything to be nervous about, just be yourself!
When ever I go in front of a crowd, I always just look over the peoples heads and look at something on the wall or at a tree (whatever is behind them) Sometimes looking people in the eye is intimidating, so try looking right next to them.
2007-06-27 12:05:18 · answer #3 · answered by Heidi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When I was 18, I was the same way. I actually had to end up dropping a required public speaking class my freshman year of college because I couldn't bear the idea of talking in front of everybody. What I did was start going to karaoke night and singing. I'm an OK singer, so I don't mind getting up there, and after SINGING in front of a bar full of strangers, speaking in front of a class was a breeze!!! Also, much confidence comes with age, so don't worry- in 10 years you won't be able to shut up! (Like me!!)
2007-06-27 12:00:32 · answer #4 · answered by fizzygurrl1980 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is ok to be afraid, I have experiance with this area as I have acted in many plays and I can say that it is hard to get up on the podium or stage and do anything in front of so many people that you dont know, I like to try and focus on ONE single person and pretend you know them. Make eye contact with that one person the entire time the whole audience will think you are looking and everyone of them and most of all just RELAX!!! :)
2007-06-27 12:01:59 · answer #5 · answered by drummerboy12492 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A lot of people suffer from stage fright, the best thing to do (other than practice like crazy) is go somewhere where you do feel comfy. *like a mall, or store* Just ask someone that you don't know if they could help you out, give your speech to them.
It's completely nerve racking, and almost always will make you uncomfortable, but in the end, you just spoke to someone, while being on a pedestal, that you didn't even know.
Just work hard to meet new people, even though is tough, we need to be out of out comfort zone to do our best work.
2007-06-27 12:00:25 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
fear of public speaking is one of the most common fears around, dont beat yourself up to much that you cant. You could imagine everyone in their underware. Also the more you do it the easier it gets, I used to be alot like you when I got in front of people to talk but I've had to do a lot of speeches for my college classes and its gotten tons easier over time
2007-06-27 11:56:51 · answer #7 · answered by soccerplaya1313 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This may sound crazy, but I had a friend help me get over this. She made me go to Karaoke nights with her. After singing a few times I started to get more comfortable. Now I love going out and talking in front of people.
2007-06-27 12:33:32 · answer #8 · answered by Ginna 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i am a very outgoing person and i dont have a problem talking to others..........but when i do get nurverse i just tell myself that the people that i am talking to are just ordnary ppl......they sleep they eat ......and theirs not anything to be scared of when you talk to them.......
2007-06-27 12:01:36 · answer #9 · answered by -*-gAbBy-*- 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
practice is about the only cure...start with smaller crowds
2007-06-27 12:01:10 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋