How long should a couple date before they get engaged and married?

Question

I keep thinking that 1 year is too short, but after 3 years do you think that the relationship will start to get old? When is the ideal time to date/get engaged/get married?

Answer 1

there is no set rule. For mr, we met, worked together for a couple of months, developed a strong friendship, became lovers, moved in together a year later. We married the next year, and 24 years later, we are still married, and still best friends. My only advice, don't rush in right away. Let the relationship build, then take the next step if you feel it's time.
I hope you find the happiness I did.
Good luck.

Answer 2

You know what....I have a friends whos grandparents met, were engaged 1 week later, married 3 weeks later, and were together until the day they died. No one can tell anyone a good time frame because they do not know what you feel for that other person. I have only been with my man for 4.5 months, we live together, have talked about marriage, went through a miscarriage and are now planning on getting pregnant as soon as I am able to again. We know that our feelings are 100% geniune for each other :) Things fall into place when you meet the right one, you will know right away and then all of the question about time frames will fall away :) Suddenly it won't matter to you how long you guys have been together....it will just feel perfect :)

Answer 3

depends on the relationship. If you think the relationship will start to get "old" after three years....are you sure that he is the "one"?

I had a previous engagement and we did not get engaged until after 5 years of being together. We broke up a little over a year ago and I am now with a man that if he asked me to marry him tomorrow after only being together 4 months, I would do it. I am closer to my current man than I EVER was with the last guy.

So, like I said, it all depends on the relationship.

Answer 4

there really isn't a right and wrong answer with this. It's whenever the couple is ready. I mean I'm not saying after 2 weeks go out and get engaged but it should be a decent amount of time to see what the other one is like and what your getting into. Many young couples rush into it without knowing those little "yuckie" habits of the other and those cause some divorces.

Answer 5

The ideal time varies from a couple to a couple. Personally, I don't like to place a timeline on "love". As long as a couple loves each other until the end of time, it really doesn't matter when they get married. I think too many people get married too soon or they get divorced too easily.

Answer 6

good question! It really depends on the couple involve. If they are realistic and mature, they know how to deal with new information from their significant other. And, that you never know a person within one or even five years. I read in a book once, people are like an onions. We have many layers. It depends on how willing person is to expose their layers that will determine if the relationship will have a chance to be forever.

Answer 7

in utah (where i am) people get engaged after two weeks - that is too short. I think that after dating someone for a year you should know if you can marry them or not.

Answer 8

my bf and i have been dating for 13 months. we talk about it. but we wont get engaged for at least another year.

i think the time is right to get engaged is when you have a very stable good relatinoship, and you know each are the one.

time to get married is when you both are done with school, have enough money to be stable, and buy a dog :)

Answer 9

Most marriages last less then 10 years. So stretch it out by not getting married too soon. Try to wait for 10 years.

Seriously!

Answer 10

I would wait at least a year, but then again, you can still talk about marriage and express your intentions without actually giving her a ring and making the wedding plans, you know.

Like my girlfriend and I know we're going to get married and have kids and everything, but I'm not going to actually propose for a while.