Ok here's what happened my ex dumped me (im 19 and she's 18)because she felt like we were more of friends then bf/gf and i was just wondering is there anything i can do to get her back? she has a new bf but they started dating 1 week after we broke up and we went out for 4 years. ANY advice would be great THANK YOU(she does still love me and i love her too and yes she was sexually satisfied and support was there as well, and she's the one that wants to hang out , i do to but she's the one who's calling me her best friend witch i wierd, i no we're broken up but it bugs me, I love her so much and I would have done everything for her- I was goin 2 buy her a laptop for collage- on her b day $2500, I paid for everything, I bought her a 300 dollar dog, 400 dollar cd player, food, im not saying this to tell u I used money to have her but it wasn’t a problem by the way her B-day is tommorow) (sorry for reposting just looking for help) and i never cheated on her or abused her - i am moving on(trying to) i just want some input on the situation…………….i was just talkin 2 her on msn and the guys she's dating ex gf want to chill with me and my ex just told me shes pissed and dosnt want to c me get hurt....i duno if that means alot but it happen ( im not interested in the new girl anyways)
THANKS AGAIN
I NO IT WAS LONG BUT I APPRECIATE THE HELP
2007-06-27 04:23:33 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It sounds like this girl does still have feelings for you and right now she is keeping you around as back up while she goes out and dates other people. It's really up to you if you want to be someones back up or not. I know that probably isn't what you want to hear but girls do it all the time to guys.
2007-06-27 04:29:25 · answer #1 · answered by Ariel 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think she broke up with you for that other guy. I think that you are having a hard time getting over her because you didn't see it coming. There's no doubt about it, you're a GREAT guy. You really deserve someone better. She calls you her best friend because she wants to keep you close, kind of like a "back up" in case this new guy breaks her heart. She'd probably go right back out with you. Let her know that it's not a game. Even if you still love her, even if you don't have any interest in going out with anyone else, limit your communication with her. Talk to her once a week, see her once a month. Let her know that you are not sitting around writing questions on yahoo answers about her :)
Focus on other things in your life right now. It doesn't mean you have to stop loving her. You can't control the way you feel, but you can control what you do. Good luck.
2007-06-27 11:33:25 · answer #2 · answered by Pretty in Pink 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop trying to get her back. She just doesn't feel that way about you, so you are wasting your time. Nothing you say in your story changes that or makes any difference. Grow up. Be a man. Move on. In order to do that, stop talking to her! You are just perpetuating the problem by staying friends with someone you want more than a friendship with. Leave her alone. Tell her to leave you alone. Hang out with other people. Keep yourself busy. Have some fun. Get some exercise. And give yourself some time. You'll get over her, and then you'll be ready to move on and find someone more appropriate. Good luck!
2007-06-27 11:28:35 · answer #3 · answered by Mr. Taco 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let me tell you this, she went and became a new girlfriend to another guy, 1 WEEK AFTER YOU BROKE UP!!! For some reason its always easier for women to 'be friends' after a break up. Let it go dude!! I know it hurts, but trying to continue this friendship will make it worse. Tell her that you need space and that if she truly is a 'friend' she will understand that what you two had was special and you need that space to get over her. Tell her to be with her man, leave you alone to work your feelings, and when you know that you can truly be 'friends' without the pain, you'll get back in touch with her. You are the most important person, take care of you and your heart. Stop letting her offer advice on other women, you'll never get over her that way.
2007-06-27 11:33:12 · answer #4 · answered by Ghetospydr 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yesh, sounds like she doesn't want you but she doesn't want anyone else to have you either. You should move on and go hang out with other girls. I guarantee you this... if you go and hang out with some other girl, it will drive her crazy and then she will want you back. Stop spending all this money on her and buying her all of this stuff. She doesn't appreciate it from the sounds of things. A girl who appreciated you and all of your gifts would not break up with you, date some dude a week later and then say "well you're my best friend though". And even funnier, she doesn't want you to hang out with other girls because she " doesn't want to see you get hurt". No, It's because she will be hurt. trust me on this one. I am 30 and have been through all this stuff. Date and she will come running. Ignore her and she will be there. This new guy won't do all those things for her like you did. Good luck, please stay away from her, your too nice and she doesn't deserve you.
2007-06-27 11:31:31 · answer #5 · answered by tiff705 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay, i obviously don't know either of you. But. If i was in a relationship for 4 years, i would not be able to move on that fast. that guy she is with is 100% rebound, unless she was cheating on you with him. not saying she did, but you never know. Now, after 4 years, you can't just leave someone and say bye and forget about it. IMPOSSIBLE. literally. you need to COMMUNICATE with her. if i learned one thing in relationships, its communication is key!! she's rebounding because she doesnt know what else to do. you arent comforting her and showing that she can come to you! the thing where im confused is why you two can't just talk like adults even though you've been together for such a long time. you'd think she would be comfortable to talk to you. so you need to get her *** over to you and start talking. but maybe it wasnt meant to be, and thats what you need to talk about.
do not buy her a laptop. period.
Good Luck.
2007-06-27 11:30:34 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I did the same thing once to a really nice guy and what got on my nerves more than anything was him trying to be my friend because he was too insecure and worried about losing me all together if he couldn't be my friend.
I would suggest playing the game. Ask her out, go out with her, but do try to win her over and don't be overly needy.
Oh! And just get her a beautiful card for her birthday. Don't buy her anything unless she's your girl. The thing is, if you keep being putty in her hands, she'll end up telling you you're too "nice" to date. That's no fun.
Good luck. :)
2007-06-27 11:28:08 · answer #7 · answered by Mama R 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Money and gifts are not important to her, can you see that? She wants something else.
Perhaps you need more practice at listening to what a woman wants? She gave you 4 years to be the one. It didn't work out.
Can you learn to "read" what they want (pay attention and respect their wants)? Or just find a woman who wants what you want to give (money, laptop, $300 dog, CD player)..
I'm sorry you need to find a different woman. It can be fun though.
2007-06-27 11:31:25 · answer #8 · answered by UnderwaterTomato 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dude, you can't 'buy' love. That's the wrong track. Otherwise you can't 'make' someone love you, or to be your friend. I think you wasted your money.
~ Jon
2007-06-27 11:49:26 · answer #9 · answered by Jonathan Rich 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u spent to much $ on her..she was ur girl not wife(remember this) she dumped u...wake u p ...she loves ur wallet alot not u,u just dont realize this now later u will believe me...forget her get real girl friend... dont talk to her change cel #
2007-06-27 11:31:45 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋