ok,here's the story.my girlfriend and i just broke up(3 days ago),and it all started when i brought up an issue.all i wanted to do was talk it out and fix it,and she felt the same.then,she gets defensive and starts saying that she's not sure if she wants a relationship right now and always had cold feet from the start(we'd been 2gether for 6 months).she led me to believe that we'd be together forever,and just 2 hours earlier she said she was happy. after being reminded of all that she told me,she says that she got "caught up in the moment" when saying those things.now,once or twice i can understand,but for 6 months?!it made me feel as if i was led on the entire time.honestly,i think it's pretty messed up on her part(to put it mildly).now,how am i supposed to believe she even cared at all?wouldn't you feel deceived?also,she would often say things to me that were hurtful,and later she would apologize,stating that when she's "fighting"(we never fought) she says things just to hurt.idea's?
2007-06-27 03:21:29 · 17 answers · asked by gunnar99 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i trusted her and she,in an honest thought,screwed with my head.funny things is,she said she meant everything she said to me,but what am i supposed to think when she says she got "caught up"?i feel stupid,betrayed,used and disresected.i just don't get how people can do that to one another.we really developed a strong bond during our time together,but now it seems just one big lie.thank you for your help.
2007-06-27 03:41:59 · update #1
Get some break up sex and move on!!!!
2007-06-27 03:24:46 · answer #1 · answered by Montego 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Sounds like you're lucky to be rid of her. You deserve a girlfriend who will tell you the truth about how she's feeling. Sure, everyone gets caught up in the moment sometimes, but to repeatedly do it when you know what you're saying isn't true is wrong. And it's always wrong to say something in a fight just to hurt someone else.
You have every right to be hurt by her behavior, honey, but try your best to move on. You'll find a girl who's good to you, and you'll be glad you didn't stay with this one.
2007-06-27 10:26:54 · answer #2 · answered by *huge sigh* 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
it s a copp out!
My e g/f did the same thing... and it was 10 years!
deceit!??? yes.
that is the bit of control that they have over us.
At least those, from the girls whom are dishonest.
It seems in my past relationship, being dishonest to get the best out of us, seems to be appropriate.
Too bad... its just a short term benefit.
Long term... trust and integrity is at a loss.
my friend. six months isn't a long time.
Give her credit that you two are ending it now.
It would be twice as bad if she hung in there for another year or two!???
give her the respect for being honest now... and not later
good luck
2007-06-27 10:26:52 · answer #3 · answered by movngfwd 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Let her settle and approach her again (actually 3 days is probably enough) she could have been PMSing or something else that was messing her up emotionally inside. Just call and ask her to out again so you can talk things thru - good luck.
2007-06-27 10:26:05 · answer #4 · answered by redneckgirl 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Break-ups are hard people have different ideas of what they want out of realonships. It sounds like the realonship wasnt the same for her as it was for you. I would just move on better than six months then 20 years.
2007-06-27 10:26:12 · answer #5 · answered by jane c 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
People often say things that they truly mean at the time - good things and bad things.... but people in general are shifty by nature and this is part of dating - deciding who means it and who doesn't. Deciding who to waste your time on and who to invest your time in - I think it's a safe bet to say that she isn't providing you with what you want anymore than she feels like you are giving her what she wants... don't think so negatively of this... you have a clean slate now - go find yourself someone who knows what she wants - says it- and means it. That's the kind of girl you deserve.
2007-06-27 10:26:44 · answer #6 · answered by Challah back Girl... 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Yes, I would feel deceived. Then I would realize that she is a nut who doesn't know what she wants, and I would dump her and move on. That is what you should do, too. You can do better. Her loss. Good luck!
2007-06-27 10:24:19 · answer #7 · answered by Mr. Taco 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well... i have almost the same thing with my bf with the hurting saying things and then appologize...., but.. u know.... my opinion is that she is passing a stressful moment! try to talk with her calmly and show her that u love her and remember her the forever things! say to her that because u 2 thought like that u'll not give up just like that! and try to listen to her and her problems because i think she has some.... and try to be patient with her! all the best....
2007-06-27 10:28:37 · answer #8 · answered by deea 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think that she was in the relationship trying to make it something that she wanted to feel but in the end she realized that she wasnt only lying to you but also to herself.
Let her go-its only 6 months.
2007-06-27 10:24:46 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
She probably found it hard to tell you that she didn't think you would last. And how did you think you'd be together forever when you'd been dating 6 months?
2007-06-27 10:25:49 · answer #10 · answered by DanceInTheRainn :) 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Whats the question?
I'm confused.
2007-06-27 10:25:03 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋