My co-worker is always very sexual natured in her conversations. I would like to avoid her but thats impossible.
Its quiet most of the time b/c we work the night shift and converstations are good but...
she talks about how much her husband likes it when they use handcuffs and about what turns her on...( I won't say exactly all of what she says, its just too disturbing )..and about which porn shops creep her out and which one is the best to go to at night and in the morning ( when she gets off from work )..ewww...
ALSO..she is constantly talking about her weight loss. She repeats all of the little "cute things" her husband says...I'M TIRED AND I DO NOTCARE I DON'T KNOW ANYONE WHO DOES!! I think she exaggerates to make her self feel good.
I'm a cna and she is the charge nurse. I like talking to her but its hard to change the subject when her mind goes down the gutter. I don't want to be rude seeing that most of the time I have to be insubordinate to her. HELP ME PL
2007-06-27 03:05:45 · 17 answers · asked by eirama 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
What you are talking about is actually a form of sexual harassment. However, it could be that this woman thinks you are both close enough that she can discuss these things with you. Here is how I would handle it:
1. Politely tell her that it bothers you to talk about intimate things with people you work with.
2. Change the subject whenever she starts getting close to talking about those things.
3. If all else fails talk to a superior or to human resources.
A few pointers on getting the point across without seeming rude:
-"You are a little more adventurous than me. You should keep that to yourself when you are at work. We can go out for drinks sometime and you can tell me all about it." (and just never go)
-"Wow that is too much information." (said in a nice voice)
-"I think it is good that you are openminded but that just isnt the type of thing for me."
In this day and age people are more comfortable than ever with their sexuality. For some they forget that some people simply do not want to hear about it. Hang in there I am sure you will figure out the best option. Good luck.
2007-06-27 03:12:21 · answer #1 · answered by Macho Duck 5 · 9⤊ 0⤋
Tell Her Strait Darl It May Float Her Boat But You Are Not Interested In What She Gets Up To!
Tell Her She Is Creeping You Out And If She Doesn't STOP You Will Make An Official Complaint. No Matter What Her Grade Or Yours, There Are Acceptable And Unacceptable Subjects For Idle Chat And You Don't Want To Hear Her Bedroom Antics Any More!
Don't Let Her Try To Intimidate You Either Darl!
Good Luck And Have A Gooday.
2007-06-27 10:25:15 · answer #2 · answered by Paul R 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Even a charge nurse has a supervisor. If you can't stand it, go to the high-ups and express your displeasure. Not all patients are able to sleep at night and her inappropriate comments might be heard by them. You are a CNA so you have marketable skills and if they value this charge nurse and will tolerate her behavior, you might have to seek out other employment. You can be blunt and just quietly tell the charge nurse that her comments are upsetting to you and you would rather not hear them. She will probably think you a prude and that you should just loosen up, but at least you have had the opportunity to say something. Good luck, when dealing with someone that is you supervisor you are in a no-win situation.
2007-06-27 10:25:17 · answer #3 · answered by Grandma of 2 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It may take awhile and be way to subtle but when she starts talking like that do not give her any feed back not even a nod or a smile to indicate you are listnening then as soon as there is any pause in her sexy diatribe change the subject. Always carry some paper work with you that you could look down at when she begains talking With any luck she will knock it off. Or at least keep it down to a min.
2007-06-27 10:19:27 · answer #4 · answered by jane c 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe she likes you that's why she is that open to you. I think that you should be patient to her. She is probably happy that she has a friend. Also, tell her nicely that she talks about that topic too much and what you want is to talk with her about other things. I'm pretty sure she would understand.
2007-07-01 06:11:01 · answer #5 · answered by chocodelight 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're in a pickle, aren't you? I have this same problem -- we're both too nice to ignore or just say outright, "shut up! I don't care about your sex life!" or whatever. When you find out how to get someone to stop talking about something you find offensive or gross or whatever and you learn how to do it in a nice way that won't ever offend THEM, let me know!
2007-06-27 10:11:12 · answer #6 · answered by chumley 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Just smile, laugh, and say "ok that's a little too munch info" and walk away.. make belive ur going to the bathroom or ur in a rush.
2007-06-27 11:36:03 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell her you are uncomfortable hearing about her personal details. Keep telling her if she persists. Then you have to decide if you want to keep working there or not. I'd then go to the HR department if it kept happening. It's not appropriate.
2007-06-29 23:58:30 · answer #8 · answered by Ice Queen 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds kinda' tough if she's your boss. You will have to stand your ground and explain you longer wish to hear that foolishness. If she persists let her know there are people who do not tolerate that talk on the job. Just tell her someone overheard you and her talking filthy and that that person approached you and did'nt appreciate it.
2007-06-27 10:27:13 · answer #9 · answered by steak 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Tell her that you like talking to her, but you are not interested in hearing about her sex life, and ask if you can talk about something else.
2007-06-27 10:21:33 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋