OK do u think it is wrong to..................................?

Question

wait till u have ur bills paid up to get married me and my soon to be hubby want to get married at the end of july or aug. but everyone is telling us we r in the wrong to wait till we get our bills paid up so r we wrong plus they say we r wrong for going to the justice of the peace

we have two kids a 4yr old girl and a 2yr old son and our son has fever endused sezures we have been together for 6 yrs

the bills we owe is like a phone bill ,utilitys,and thats it we should have those paid off in a matter weeks but we also have to worry about our son like i said he has fever endused sezures and we have to pay what medicaid dont but i know we will always have bills but we want to pay off the ones i mentoned first so we can start fresh

Answer 1

What matters is what you think.

It's your wedding, not theirs. You and your fiance have 50% crap giving duties. Everyone else gets to come along for the ride.

Answer 2

Going to the justice of the peace is all about you guys personal religious beliefs (if any of you have any).

As far as paying off your bills I'm in the same situation. I am getting married in Sept and I'm in a position to pay everything off now (and not have a honeymoon, at least much of one) or just pay it off gradually. On top of that, I have to consider the fact that I need money for buying a new house and moving expenses.

I've come up with this conclusion. If you stick with a budget, and stay within that budget going into your marriage, you'll be better off. It's tempting to start spending b/c of the extra income, but financial responsibility is very important in a marriage especially since finances are amongst the common reasons for divorce.

Answer 3

I make monthly payments on all my bills so I never get a huge bill in that MUST be paid, call your utility companies and ask them if they do a monthly direct debit payment option. For example, I pay £35 a month each to my gas and electric, over the winter months we use a fair bit of electric for heating, so my account may go into the minus over the winter period, but as we use less in summer the money owing gets paid off that way. I know that if I was to move out I would not have to pay more than £75 to each company which gives me peace of mind. I do think it is important not to start married life in debt, but that's my personal view as I just do not like being in debt or owing money.

Answer 4

I can totally agree with you on this. My soon be hubby (in 3 days) and I did the same thing. We paid off all the monthly bills (doctor bills, credit cards, cars...etc.) other than utilites and the ones that we get ever month regardless. We also paid a month ahead on all of our bills that way we could spend a little bit more time on our honeymoon and not have the overhead when we come back of ok, this and that are due tomorrow. Your not wrong by going to the JP. It's what ever makes the both of U happy. Not everone else. I admire you for wanting to get the things stright that need be. I hope all works out for you and your family. God bless & best wishes to you and your family.

Answer 5

Honey it is you and your soon to be hubby's life. I think that is smart to have bills paid up if not off before marrying. That way the two of you can start your life together fresh. As far as the JP. That is what I did and nothing was wrong with it. I also know a lot of people who have gone to a JP. For many reasons, different religions, cost, availability, etc. SO you and your soon to be hubby do as the two of you wish after all it is your lives not your friends or family!

Answer 6

If you wait until your bills are paid, you'll never get married. I think you have a great idea, but it will never happen. As far as going to the JOP, it's not wrong. We were married at the JOP, and we are just as married as if we had a huge wedding. If we would have had a huge wedding, we would have had to pay for everything ourselves. Personally, I don't see the point of spending all that money - money that can be used for other important things - when a JOP provides the same piece of paper that makes it legal.

Answer 7

I dont think it's wrong to get married now and pay off all your debts together..two incomes are much better than one income when eliminating debt. Maybe people are thinking its wrong to burden each other with the other's debts and that if you waited till you were debt free (which could be a VERY VERY long time) then you get to start off fresh. But that is just not the case today...everyone has some sort of debt.

As for the JP...maybe your families think your preist, rabbi, rev, pastor should do it (if you have one)...and if you dont have one then they are just SILLY.

Good luck, and congrats!

Answer 8

NO! Not At All. Get All Your Things Paid Off. Put a Lot Of Money In the Bank. Save It. Get Married. have Kids. You'll Never Have any Financial Problems As Long As you Keep Your account Loaded. Good Luck. =]

Answer 9

Having your bills paid would be a good thing to do before getting married. I'm sure he doesn't want to acquire your debt and vise-versa. As for going to the justice of the peace that up to you. It's much cheaper than a big wedding. With the money you save you can pay off some of your debt.

Answer 10

Well guess you have bills now and you will have bills later they will never end. Get married by the justice of the piece or by a preacher the end result is the same you will be married. This is your guys lives no one elses you two make the choices no one else that way the mistakes will be yours, and yours to share as well.Good luck!!!!!!

Answer 11

There's no "wrong" for you guys. This is YOUR TIME, not your friends' or family's. You do what you want when you want and as long as you love each other, they can all take a hike. If you will be more financially secure by waiting until bills are paid to get married, that is perfectly fine and quite sensible.